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Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed.  A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell?  Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend?  On the Magnum vers...

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this?  A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you.  And...

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But le...

How soon is too soon for anal?  A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or titillation.  And more.  On the Magnum version you'll hear everything in the Micro version plus… An interview with Daniel Bergner, author of What Women Want about ladies, their libidos, and whether monogamy suits them or not. (Spoiler alert! It does.) He...

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave?  A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this?  Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. And more.  On the Magnum podcast,...

This show is for the ladies.  First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant.  Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husband won't fuck her.  And! The magically clever and hilarious Lindy West comes forth with the female perspective on men who think your vagina is disgusting.  There was a long line of women who offered their techniques for getting rid of grabby, cat-callin...

A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don'...

"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate.  Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank you unicorn...

This week on the Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding?  Plus  on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to tal...

How should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic?  Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket?  Dan speaks with Dr. Thomas Clark from the CDC about a new worrisome meningitis outbreak among gay men.  And, over on the Magnum side: Finally the answer to the age old question of whether it's ok for a woman to eat her own female ejaculate! Dan speaks with Dr. Abraham Morgent...

"Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend.  Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the places he could visit that will add pleasure to his upcoming business trip. Should she freak?  Over on the Magnums, drag queens in hillbilly country, and an interview with Aaron Harzler, author of Rapture Practice, on how to deal lovingly with your n...

Dan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy.  Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's taking meds he suddenly has the drive to pursue women. How can he develop the confidence to match?  Over at savagelovecast.com you can sign up for a Magnum show that's twice as long, with no ads.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Downl...

Dan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends pursue a divorce.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A woman caring for her father with dementia discovers that he is a pedophile, though she thinks he never acts on his desires. Should she tell her mom? The nurses in his house?  A man needs to think about lesbian relationships before he can nod off to sleep. What are lesbians- chamomile tea?  Ken Cuccinelli: What does his name *really* mean?  You're gonna tell us. 206-201-2720   This episode is bro...

What a chatterbox Dan Savage is this week! He speaks with a foot model about creepos in the foot fetish community, and tears 14 new…apertures into a misbehaving drunky lass who just doesn't get straight privilege.  Confidential to Drunky McBlackout lass– they're having a sale on sheets over at LinenSource. 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blo...

Meet Naughty Dr. Pee-Pee and the Patient with a Secret. Those of you in the medical or dental professions will find this episode most… illuminating. A man is feeling hella anxiety over the fact that his girlfriend makes a lot more money than he does. Should he make her pay for dinner already? A young gay man is considering an old lover's offer to fly him to his city for a weekend of dom/sub play....

This week Dan speaks again with Slate reporter Daniel Engber now that Gilberto Valle, AKA the Cannibal Cop, has been found guilty. Sleep a little easier, ladies everywhere.  Also, how to get your lover to open up a (consensual) can of whup-ass on you, whether breast feeding fuels teenagers' erotic imaginations, and the ethical ramifications of knowing that your friend's fiancé slept with this same...

It seems like everyone is angry at the gays. Hear the super-sad tale of a father outed and then hated by his own daughter. But she doesn't hate him too much to accept his financial aid... And, 4 years after proposing on the top of the Eiffel Tower to his wife, a man finally comes out. His friend is furious at him. Can she get over it? Ever?  And strap on those earphones real tight. is here to talk...

How does one go about inviting a man over for dinner, when you really want to initiate the three-way sequence?  Pointy-headed science writer Jesse Bering speaks with Dan about the ubiquity of fantasies involving power and control.  And, squirm along as Dan speaks with Slate reporter Daniel Engber on the horrifying tale of the cannibal cop.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Eyewear...

This week Dan welcomes two guests. Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" talks about sex in your golden years. And John Schwartz author of "Oddly Normal" speaks with Dan about the challenges of raising a gay teen.  And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at    Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent of...

This is the live taping of the freaky show we did at the Neptune Theater featuring Simon Rich, Mistress Matisse, Audrey from Babeland and others. Have a listen, close your eyes and use your twisted imagination.  206-201-2720  This episode is brought to you by Babeland.com. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you click the Babeland ad on your mobile or the Savage Love web site. This episode is also...

A young lesbian is offended that her parents won't let her have her best friend, also a lesbian, join her for a sleepover. Are her parents being homophobic? Or just parents?  Another lesbian's conservative Christian parents have moved from bald unacceptance to covert unacceptance. Is this progress?  Dan speaks with Eric Klinenberg, author of Going Solo, about the pressure society places on single...

Dan desperately tries to convince a young gay man to use a condom when hooking up with random hot Australians.  The amazing Buck Angel speaks with Dan about dating FtM transsexuals.  And sex educator Amy Lang helps explain how to teach your son to avoid the dreaded Death Grip Syndrome.  And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter...

All hail Planned Parenthood! On today's show the Lovecast welcomes Dr. Anna Kaminski, senior physician for the venerable organization, who can calmly explain to Dan that scabies are not spiders, and consider the dangers of drinking blood without running screaming from the building.  When can we have you back, Anna?  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio bo...

Tales of addiction; A woman in recovery worries that if she introduces S&M into her relationship that it will consume her life like booze or heroin. And, Dan speaks with Dr. Marty Klein on challenging the .  A woman with homophobic, conservative parents has two gay brothers. How can she keep the peace?  How can you counsel your emotionally fragile friend, when you are messed up yourself?  And more...