Savage Lovecast

A woman discovers through dubious sources that her step-mother might be cheating on her father. Dan walks her through a way to deal with this unpleasantness.  A woman still living with her ex-husband and son wonders how poly people balance all those boyfriends and girlfriends.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes philosophy professor and gay marriage diplomat John Corvino to discuss ethics and the state o...

A woman battling cancer wishes to marry her boyfriend. But he's not quite ready. Maybe a sex-advice podcaster can convince him?  Another woman doesn't understand why her married male friends keep kitting on her. What signal is she sending out and how can she make it stop?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with the trans-man filmmaker Buck Angel about the changes in sexual desire that can accompany transit...

A man has learned that his father was sadistic, abusive and cruel. The caller is in to S&M. Does this mean he is destined to be just like his reprehensible father?  A woman is offered a "free" trip to the Caribbean. But the trip is so NOT free, as the offer came from a work superior who clearly wants to fuck her and has to sign off on her upcoming promotion. Should she buy a new bikini?  On the Ma...

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown?  A straight man wonders if it's too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his "kink buddy."  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the "Involuntary Celibates" community, and the rampant misogyny within it...

A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young?  A bisexual woman feels stifled in her marriage because she misses ladies. Does this spell inevitable ruin?  On the Magnum, Dan and Dr. Debby Herbenick discuss premature ejaculation and why it doesn't have to be the end of the world.  Also, a public service announcement from a miffed...

In our first installment of "Second Opinion," Dan and Slate's Dear Prudence face off on how to deal with poisonous in-laws, and how much to tip when you receive an unexpected happy ending.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Paul Vasey about feeders, and whether it's possible to re-wire your kinky brain.  And so much more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription...

Can two Aquarians last as a couple? Can they really?  Pop quiz! When is the best time to tell your girlfriend that you have crabs: a) Before you make sweet love to her all weekend. b) After you make sweet love to her all weekend.  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Christian Grov for a "What you Got?" about what genuinely concerns male sex workers.  Also Dan chats with filmmaker David Thorpe on ga...

He grew up conservative and Christian. Now that he's over it, he's dating an awesome lass. But she likes to talk about sex, and he's still shy and giggly about it.  A woman and her husband have embarked on a long-distance, open relationship. But that doesn't mean she wants to hear every damn thing about the girls he's yakking with on Chat Roulette.  On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Ellen For...

How can a man best comfort the woman he just dumped?  A woman is scared to tell her parents that she is engaged to a man thirty years her senior.  And, Cleveland Steamers demystified!  On the Magnum, our house urologist- Dr. Stephen King tells more than you'll ever want to know about Peyronie's disease.  Also, lying drunk, pregnant friends, breast implants, and teenaged caretakers all await you on...

Dan counsels a woman in yet another a conservative small town on how to help her lesbian daughter make it out of there alive.  A gay man has gone above and beyond to fulfill his partner's fireman fantasy. How can he get a little reciprocation? For the Magnum version's "What You Got," Dan speaks with Amy Muise on why women monitor their partners on Facebook.  Fat, nerdy virgin seeks super-model: Me...

Bisexual erasure no more! Dan interviews Benoit Denizet-Lewis on his recent piece in the NYT Magazine.  Dan councils a heart-broken lesbian with universal advice for the recently rejected.  A woman's mother over-shares about her sexless marriage. What is a helpful daughter to do?  And finally! Concrete, informed answers to the question of whether it is bad for a dog to lick your moisturized face. ...

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids.  A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules?  It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties.  And finally in our trilogy of parental distres...

Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Dehlia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling people in your life that you have done sex work or see sex workers, how to hire your unicorn, and what to do if a client has a really weird looking dick.  The Magnum has a ton more this week, so indulge. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by...

This week, bizarrely, Dan welcomes 74-time Jeopardy! winner Ken Jennings to banter and chat. Sure, Jeopardy boy can handle minute details about the Spanish-American war, but how does he fare when confronted with questions about naked men running through the halls? Listen to the Magnum to find out.   An obese gay man finally learns about chubby chasers!  A man discovers that the dream woman he's be...

On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Irish drag queen Panti Bliss about his battle with litigious homophobes and the mighty, mighty power of drag.  Dan welcomes author and therapist Dr. Marty Klein to advise a woman whose dear friend has cut off all contact with females in his life because he has been diagnosed with sex addiction.  What do you do when your new man's belly makes it impossible to...

We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the conversation with "KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography addiction, and why the idea is overblown.  Also, a drunken bi lad wonders if he should tell his girlfriend that he is a sex worker.  And a lot more. ...

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions.  A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn't so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she have maybe taught him the subtle art of kissing instead?  An impatient male un...

It's the LIVE Valentine's Day show, taped at Seattle's Neptune Theatre.  The theme was sex and death, (a.k.a "Coming and Going.") With special guests Caitlin Doughty from "Ask a Mortician," comedian Kristine Levine and musical guests the Wet Spots.  This show is fantastic and you simply mustn't miss it.  The Magnum version features Kristine Levine's hilarious and heartbreaking tale of working in a...

We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of "The End of Men",) on women's changing relationship with their careers vs. partners. Remember children: "Mommies can kiss wherever they like." On the Magnum, a fascinating "What You Got" with Professor Jennifer Glass.  Her s...

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people.  Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia.  Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is Lea Delaria from Orange is the New Black. They discuss sex with dykes, the dreaded LB...

A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance?  A woman has lost 180 lbs. If her new lovers knew she used to be so heavy, would they still want her? And how can she forgive them if the answer is no?  On the Magnum, Dan and his brother Billy talking about sports? Pinch us, we're dreamin'!  A man in the music industry works...

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses...

On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US.  A young man sure likes the idea of being gay, but only gets into relationships with women. How can he test his sexuality?  On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Jesse Bering, author of Perv, on what percentage of people are truly kinky.  Also, a new couple both enjo...

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka?  A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier.  Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wond...