Saturnian Sex Magick Podcast

Today we talk about the identity misappropriation that happens when roleplayers use Dom/sub or Master/slave for their kinky scenes. Often times it is confusing because they feel a connection to our identities even though they are simply larping. We have a few suggestions for those involved in the kink of roleplaying.

Welcome to part 7 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Ethical Non-monogamy (ENM) is having a romantic and/or physical relationship with more than one person. ENM is an umbrella term for swingers, cuckolds, poly, open relationship/marriage, casual dating and more. While this is not really part of the BDSM lifestyle, the two lifestyles do cross over a lot.

Welcome to part 6b of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Tops and bottoms are the participants in a scene where one or more kinks are performed. Today we look at more miscellaneous roles within kink scenes.

Welcome to part 6a of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Tops and bottoms are the participants in a scene where one or more kinks are performed. You do not have to be in a dynamic with the person you are in the scene with, and sex (at any level) is not a requirement. Your role can change with different scenes, partners or even during the scene.

Welcome to part 5 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Sadomasochism (SM or S&M) is giving and receiving pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation on a consenting partner. This is a scene-specific kink role for a Top and a bottom. Today we define some types of S&M play and the roles involved in kinky S&M play scenes.

Welcome to part 4 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Bondage is a part of kink scenes for Tops and bottoms. Bondage can be something as simple as cuffs on during a scene, or at a more difficult skill level such as Shibari. Today we talk about the different types of bondage roles for Tops and bottoms, along with the 12 types of bondage and the types of ropes involved in the kink.

Welcome to part 3 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! The Leather community started around the 1940s having strong roots in the gay biker community and who today we commonly call The Old Guard. Leather families are groups of Leatherfolk who have sworn to treat each other as family, to be there to take care of each other through life's ups and downs. In today's episode we look at writi...

Welcome to part 2 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Power exchange is where one person gives the other a certain amount of control over them and the relationship. Some level of power exchange happens in every relationship, both vanilla and BDSM. These identities have nothing to do with kink, or their roles in the bedroom/scene.

Welcome to part 1 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! When first starting your journey in the BDSM lifestyle, you will read and hear a lot about “roles”. There are 2 definitions for “roles” in this lifestyle; 1. How you identify in this lifestyle, and/or within a dynamic. (For example: submissive). 2. What your role is in a scene, a role playing title that is directly related to the k...

Since we are an educational podcast, we tend to ask a lot of questions. Sometimes we take for granted that we all understand how to answer questions. So what better way to resolve this than to teach on answering questions! Communication is a hallmark of BDSM, helping us learn to communicate effectively is the aim of today's podcast.

One of the kinky things a lot of people are both drawn to and repelled by is that type of play we call Humiliation. We've discovered that no two Tops or bottoms mean quite the same thing when they use that term. It’s more of an umbrella term for lots of different types of emotionally submissive play. Under that umbrella are humiliation, shame, embarrassment, degradation, and objectification.

Although many into BDSM and kink scenes has heard of endorphins, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone Topping so that they may successfully send their bottom into Subspace.

Today's podcast is a how-to for how men should use a dildo because believe it or not, they aren’t just for females to get off on. In fact, we explore some other myths and misconceptions around dildos, aside from the main one: they're just for vaginas.

In today's podcast, we want to break down the difference between the “little” identity and the kink of ageplay. There is a huge misconception that those in a Daddy/little power exchange dynamic include the kinks of ageplay and/or diapers in play scenes or within the dynamic.

What is a little within BDSM and how do I know if I am one? Today we look at characteristics of the identity in order to help you discern whether you are a submissive little.

What is a Daddy or a Mommy Dom within BDSM and how do I know if I am one? Today we look at characteristics of the identity in order to help you discern whether you are a Daddy.

Doing a deep dive into the resources available specifically aimed at the Male Sub left me with a sour taste in my mouth. Everything was kink-related and felt aimed at turning men into pieces of meat. There was so little available about having an actual D/s relationship. If I were a male submissive and looked at what is available, I too would falsely think it was all about the kink and roleplay.

Gaslighting within BDSM can be “You liked it”, “You never said the safe word” or, “You didn’t mean it when you said it!” Although gaslighting is most commonly associated with abusive relationships with other people, you are also capable of gaslighting yourself. Gaslighting is abusive, but Validation makes for healthy relationships!

"Alright, you signed up, you’ve done some searching, and you found your coworker's nude pics. Now you’ve got your junk in your hand and you’re looking to park it down someone's throat. You furiously type, one-handed, posting to as many local groups as you can. So you wait. And wait. And wait." Today we talk about how vanilla people act within our social spaces and give them solutions for having be...

How do gender identity and BDSM collide, and does one influence the other? Could our BDSM identity influence our gender identity, and could our gender identity influence our identity of Dominance or submission? Today we consider these questions as we help you define your own sexuality, gender, gender identity, and gender expression.

So a question we've often been asked is what is Frenzy and why is it considered so bad. This comes up often when someone speaks about “sub frenzy” but there is also “Dom frenzy” as well as other variations on the theme. Today we shed some light on these situations by looking at the bigger picture and then how frenzy might manifest in people’s behavior through the want to do ALL the things, all the...

While we primarily focus on BDSM, it's also important to cover some types of sex education as well. As with many things, small gaps in what we know about basic things can lead to larger problems when we try to bring in more involved levels of kink play. Instead of Googling in incognito, here's a compilation of answers to frequently asked questions about anal play.

You might see someone listed on a BDSM profile that they have a Mentor or they are under the Protection of someone in the lifestyle. Where can you find a Mentor or Protector? How do you pick one? Do you even need one? Today we answer those questions and give good advice for finding people who you can trust to guide and protect you within this lifestyle.

What does it mean to “push your limits” and who can push them? If you spend any time around other people in this lifestyle you will hear the phrase pushing your limits so today we are talking about what limits should and shouldn't be pushed. We also discuss how to do scenes involving pushing limits.

Everything in life has risk, in our vanilla life we learn how to work around those to survive. Every kink has some level of risk, we lower the risk with education and training. Some kinks can be riskier than others and can carry the increased potential for harm and even a fatality. Today we discuss Edge Play and define the differences between hurt and harm.