Saturnian Sex Magick Podcast

Many of his peers claim that the book is askew and some even claim some of things Master John states as facts are actually a fabrication. We have the book in our library, along with most of the books discussing that Old Guard era and we simply don't want to throw the baby out with the bathwater. So let's look at parts of the Leatherman's Protocol Handbook to help us piece together an image of the...

Many of his peers claim that the book is askew and some even claim some of things Master John states as facts are actually a fabrication. We have the book in our library, along with most of the books discussing that Old Guard era and we simply don't want to throw the baby out with the bathwater. So let's look at parts of the Leatherman's Protocol Handbook to help us piece together an image of the...

The BDSM lifestyle harbors many dangers, oddly enough most people think only about the dangers to the submissive or slave and not to those dangers present for the Dominant. Among the thousands of dedicated, hard working, honest and disciplined submissives and slaves there are those few that pose a danger. There are those that are users, manipulators, liars, gold diggers, wannabees, and scam artist...

Within this lifestyle there are unfortunately many dangers, there are people out there using the BDSM lifestyle as a way to abuse or use individuals under an umbrella of acceptance. Within each situation there are warning signs that we see, unfortunately sometimes we do not see these warning signs until it is too late. There are many people that say they are a Dominant are not, instead they are us...

BDSM is about relationships and interactions between people. It’s about power, control, dominance, surrender, humiliation, pain, and discomfort. Sometimes, but not always, it’s about sex. Today we take a fresh look at BDSM 101 hopefully helping explain our culture and lifestyle in a fresh way.

One might think, from the outside looking in, that processing change in an M/s dynamic is always difficult for those who have given up personal autonomy and transferred authority to a Master or Mistress. However, slaves often have a (consensually) conditioned mindset that accepts changes. Even when they struggle there are tools for their Doms to utilize to help them. Here are a few ways Owners hel...

Today we present Gary Swift's essay on why he coined the motto RACK in order to update SSC's Safe, Sane and Consensual. Swift says, "Nothing's perfectly safe. Crossing the street isn't perfectly safe." He also challenges the notion, "The sane part of SSC is very subjective. Who's making the call?" This is an interesting look at the origin from the one who created RACK.

When we educate about some topics we always get someone who accuses us of being a "one twue way" person or podcast. This is something called the invincible ignorance fallacy where the person in making this statement simply refuses to believe the teaching, ignoring any evidence given. Instead they offer, "There's no one way to do anything in BDSM" which is absurd! We are Traditional, meaning we dra...

Before you get to a contract for a scene or in a relationship dynamic it is important to understand how to make Rules and how to give Orders. The entire concept of the D/s dynamic is a relationship built around a ruleset. Within a play scene as long as the rule won’t undermine your authority, makes logical sense, and is created with a purpose, you’re good to go.

Just a brief word about our day off and our goal for the new year. Thanks for listening!

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A kink checklist is usually suitable for scene play and for very new or short-term relationships. For a longer-term relationship that involves a dynamic it's a good idea that all persons involved know each other on a more intimate basis. Here are some medical and health questions to help in your negotiations.

Happy New Year 2023 from BDSM United Podcast!! Here is an episode I recorded a few weeks ago on this relevant topic of BDSM and Kink resolutions and setting goals.

Negotiating a relationship is similar to negotiating a scene. Both come after a potential partner is vetted. Negotiations for a play scene are usually short conversations that happen before you meet for the actual play scene. However negotiating a relationship is a series of longer conversations that happen when a couple decides to consider a power exchange dynamic (such as D/s).

While it is more common these days for Dominant/submissive couples to have Top/bottom kinky play, the 1950's head-of-household style D/s relationship is an example of D/s without the T/b. In addition to no kink, some D/s relationships are not sexual either. Top and bottom are different than Dominant and Submissive. Therefore we can stop relating them to one another because ultimately we are making...

When people ask how to become involved in kink or how to learn, the first thing they are told is “go to a munch!” Munches are a great first step, but like all first steps, they can be intimidating if you don’t know what to expect or how to behave. Munches are a key part of the BDSM community. It is where people go to meet other kinksters, see old friends and to establish themselves in their local...

There are people pushing the “must receive before you can give” ideology in the BDSM lifestyle. Meaning a Top (person doing/giving the kink) must experience a kink before they can give and fully understand that kink to a bottom. That would be ok if that Top was into receiving that kink, which is not always the case. Tops have likes and limits too!

Today we want to jump back in time and share a snapshot from our past. Perhaps this is a bit of a romanticized look at the identity of a Master, you be the judge. But before we had Mottos like RACK and Safe, Sane, and Consensual there were Creeds such as these. They weren't necessarily better, they were just from a different era.

What level of intensity is your Power Exchange? How does your dynamic deal with change? Power Exchange can be messy and complicated because it involves people in a relationship.  Because the more they learn and grow, people often change. There will always be things on the distant horizon that you cannot plan for because they may not even exist yet.

BDSM United joins the Heathens Podcast for a special Yule celebration. We talk about celebrating this season and winter solstice from both right hand path and left hand path mystic traditions. And we talk about the best type of kink to enjoy for your Yuletime play scenes!

BDSM's Old Guard roots were once almost entirely homosexual men. It took almost thirty years before the scene became largely inclusive of homosexual women too. And then almost ten more before opening up to a significant amount of straight people. Today BDSM is considered pansexual in that it is open to all people, therefore it is good for us to understand words you’ll hear used in LGBTIQA+ communi...

BDSM's Old Guard roots were once almost entirely homosexual men. It took almost thirty years before the scene became largely inclusive of homosexual women too. And then almost ten more before opening up to a significant amount of straight people. Today BDSM is considered pansexual in that it is open to all people, therefore it is good for us to understand words you’ll hear used in LGBTIQA+ communi...

The world of BDSM is broad and incredibly diverse, encompassing everything from the use of a blindfold during sex to forms of consensual torture. People with an interest in BDSM used to be considered dangerous. Today however research suggests it is empowering, therapeutic, and perhaps healing.

Here are my personal BDSM book recommendations. Books have been a big part of my life for a long time, there is much to learn from them. These are some of the books that I teach from, as well. If you are new to BDSM this is definitely the list for you! 

Today we answer the question, "Is it okay for me to Call myself Master?" We briefly look at the various origins of the word and give some sage advice for those who think the honorific may fit them.