Running Man Self Regulation Skills Project

Ep 29. The cephalic phase of hunger extends to acquisition, seeking and hunting. By the visual recall alone will the body drive, seek and hunt to satiate a primal need to survive and to get survival level payoff/reward. By the same token it is the preceding spark that creates an anticipatory "high before the high" that if left unsatisfied can result in feelings of deprivation, irritation...

Ep 28. Making the beautiful dangerous and making the dangerous beautiful is a principle that helps us understand how nature speaks to us of danger and risk but also about learning life giving and life preserving skills to a high level where they appear as art and indicate time-borne  and repetition based skills. Feeling weak, or lacing in self control or lacking in skill to survive dangerous or po...

Ep 26. Mirror neurons are closely related to motivation of motor neurons during observational, vicarious learning. We learn social more's and folkways by observing as much as by verbal communication. Much of what we learn that is survival level social value we learn by observing body language and facial expressions as much as by direct instruction. When we become like our in-group in modern t...

Ep 27. The unknown is considered a product of a thinking process. Ask a person with anxiety, traumatic stress reactivity and PTSD and their description and definition of the unknown is different and much more real. There is a conceptual idea of the "unknown" and the real, felt experiential perceived aspect of unknown that is perceptual. The conscious known world and the complementary per...

Ep 25. Conflict is a common event in social interactions that at times can lead to physical aggression and violence at the extreme. The five strategies stem from a martial methodology that was developed to shape the mindset for the highest good in mutual conflict. When one recognizes where conflict occurs,  the 5 approaches can assist in neutralizing and possibly even preventing the development on...

Ep 24. Suggestion is a powerful mode of creating influence, personal power and transformation within an individual. The fake it till you make it adage pales in comparison to what a well-placed suggestion can do in the mind and life of the suggestable person. To be suggestible does not mean lacking intelligence and gullible. We are suggestible not only to the words but to what is implied by externa...

Ep 23. Getting started in building self regulation skills can be hard. But, living with anger, anxiety, fear, reactivity and general discomfort knowing that these states will be recurrent and can  make you feel bad by just thinking of it. It is best to get started, one skill at a time. Gain skill, then add a skill when you get comfortable with the prior skill. There is no order of importance, just...

Ep 22. The role of Influence, is often called power in social situations and at work is considered authority in work situations. The three terms are often interchangeable in language but have far reaching impact in social interactions from discussion and convincing to destructive and violent displays that may start off as posturing or bravado. Confidence, competence and self efficacy within the in...

Ep 21. Observation and being able to wait and suspend judgement are important skills to gain in self regulation whether it be a  wooded outdoor environment or a  more socialized interaction with people. Both require that we accurately interpret what we hear in our environment. These skills help us to become more skillful reckoners in interactions where we interact with others where we cannot affor...

Ep 20. This episode discusses the use of communication tools to prevent bad communication in domestic setting that far too often fall into arguing, yelling and intimidating tones and body language and even to the extremes of destructiveness and violence. The use of the tools of "getting down on their level" is not just a simplifying the message, it is a control of distance "proxemic...

Ep 19. We often get stuck in social situations where our self image is at risk for compromise and we may believe that is potentially damaging and is a tangible terrible thing. When we realize that we are playing a socialized game of in-group and out-group dynamics  that we feel trapped and unable to escape the socialized hamster wheel. Often we worry about saving face and preserving self-image and...

Ep 18. Visual perception is a large percentage of our day to day and moment to moment perceptual experience but is also prone to error under stress and high speed presentation of visual stimulus. The Uncanny valley was coined in 1970 as a response to the forward thinking of Japanese robotist Masaharu Mori when he hypothesized our response to increasingly human-like technology. The interpretation o...

Ep 17. Categorical thinking is  useful too when all assumptions of safety are met and we need to organize our world and the details of a task or job. When under stress or duress our best reasoning moves toward categorical thinking as an expedient to avoid wasting time and energy, especially during a situation with escalating stress. Often we become more apt to be quickly judgmental and we become m...

Ep 16. We identify with things in our world and Ego is the sensitive part of  who we are when we interact with others and when we identify how I see and how I value myself. Ego is an idea and not the actual self, it is mentally constructed idea of my self image, the mask and person that wears the "Mask of the Polis" when socialize. Determining my actual "SELF" versus my concept...

Ep 14. This episode focuses on how we think of time when we are under stress and the feeling of time dilation when things or situations are bad or painful. The negative last forever and the fun times fly by in the blink of an eye. Also discussed is the state flow and the discomfort of the feeling of time dragging when things don't feel good and how to navigate when we experience time in a neg...

Ep 15. Gist processing is discussed and identified as a perceptual driver in social and survival settings. The OODA loop is addressed relative to stress and speed of stimulus presentation and how it impacts our fight flight response. Also discussed is gross motor dominance and fine motor skill degradation with escalation of environmental and bodily stress in domestic and survival situations. Hey f...

Ep 13. The topic of discussion is fear and how we conceive of fear in our mind and how our opinion of events often is exaggerated in our minds even before an event occurs.  This fear exaggeration is often informed by our physical state, and our feelings that arise from what we determine as threat or fear worthy.  This discussion uses the Bene' Gesserit Litany of Fear from the Frank Herbert bo...

Ep 12. Emotional Blindness is what happens to us when we  as humans under the sudden stress of argument, confrontation, fear, or sudden onset shock or pain experience when trying to communicate under actual perceived and at times even conceived threat of danger (even without evidence) that causes physiological impact to our social interactions that require rapport, trust, and communication. Famili...

Ep 11. I discuss the reason for the name and the picture of the running man model as an archetype and teaching metaphor of human stress from day to day to extremes of stress. I also cover the embodied response to stress and how the body lead the response or reaction to the internal and the external environment that drives the belief and hence the reaction in our lives and environments.  Leave comm...

Ep 10. This episode I discuss the importance of self awareness of your pulse under varying types of stress in your everyday life. I also teach the method of managing onset anxiety and stress by "matching the movement to the heart rate. I discuss the importance of heart rate variability in stress management versus a high stress response to all varying stresses in life.  Leave comments and ques...

Ep 9.This episode we discuss metaphor in it's helpful and harmful forms and how strong beliefs are developed at the visual level of brain and how we use metaphor to make more colorful language for social situations and increasing influence. But, in some cases the metaphor that says "things are like this or that things are that" can often,  if delivered within our language in a  nega...

Ep 8. In this episode we discuss the perceptual shift necessary to look through the socialized mask and behaviors that occur on a day-to-day  social interactive level and how to prevent emotional high-jack that occurs due to the social suggestion and expected environmental cues and responses that get us entangled in unnecessary conflict, stress and anxiety states in our lives.  Hey folks, let me k...

Ep 7. In this episode I identify details of the experience of anger and how to catch anger early before anger gets out of control and overwhelming. Anger is not always about damage and destruction and is a normal human emotion. It is when we let anger drive without boundaries that creates hurt, complications in our lives and destruction. Anger stems from a fear of loss and if our believer(episode...

Ep 6. In this episode I identify and discuss what our environmental assumption of safety is day to day and moment to moment and  when we are vulnerable as a result of having our assumption of safety met.  Do you believe your assumption of safety is met? And do you seek evidence to support this assumption?  The principle of, "what our believer believes, the prover proves" is introduced, a...

Ep 5. This episode focuses on  the simple instruction on the use of probably the most singly useful breathing method/ skill to lessen stress, anxiety and PTSD reactivity when it is occurring. Not all breathing methods are the same and if you have heard people say. "just breathe" or worse yet. "do deep breathing ", then they did not know what they were doing despite the well-mea...