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A lot of the self-help available out there harms more than it helps. Too much of it encourages you to discount your negative feelings about why things happened to you. I started a conversation about this whole thing in last week’s episode .  In this episode, I want to wrap up that conversation with how you can consume self-help in a healthy, helpful way and reveal three ways you can trust yourself...

I’m a big believer in understanding why you feel what you feel (or don’t feel). There are infinite reasons why you might find it difficult to trust yourself when making relationship decisions. But in talking and working with thousands of women over the years, I’ve noticed a couple of big ones. In today’s episode, I reveal three of the most common reasons why it’s hard to trust yourself in your lov...

If you can’t trust yourself, you’ll find it hard to trust others. Seems obvious, right? Self-trust is the foundation to everything else, including dating. In reality, though, it’s not always as black and white as it seems. So today kicks off a three-part series all about how to trust yourself more when dating. And in this first episode, I cover three reasons why and provide examples to illustrate...

Back when I originally recorded this episode in 2019, I felt some resistance to doing so. It’s a little bit of a tricky subject about coachability. I didn’t feel like the kind person to say who is or isn’t coachable, despite working one-on-one with lots of women.  But there are key differences in those who got far with my coaching versus those who don’t. In this episode, I reveal the tell-tale sig...

You hear a lot of talk about self-love. Particularly, you’re told that you need to love yourself before someone else can. My caller Leonnie certainly agrees, but she doesn’t know where to start. In fact, she struggles with the whole concept. So today, we talk about what self love is, how you can increase it, and even go beyond that to the unexpected. If you’re not sure what self-love is, what it f...

I’m obsessed with skincare and really interested in the idea of tending to your temple (i.e. your body). So when natural skincare and facial spa expert Angela Jia Kim contacted me about being a guest on my show, I was thrilled! Angela is the founder of Savor Beauty, a company inspired by Korean beauty and self-love rituals. She recently authored Radical Radiance: 12 Weeks of Self-Love Rituals to M...

Feeling not good enough is a pretty universal feeling. If you were to look at everyone’s core wounds, it all essentially comes down to “not enoughness” which can manifest itself in different ways. Today’s caller Jada wants to know how she can get rid of the story that she’s not good enough for the love she wants. If you struggle with worthiness, then you’ll love this coaching call! 4:56​ - What st...

When you decide to do (or NOT do) something, whose rulebook are you following? In the dating world, many women tend to heed dating rules that, when it comes down to it, are a bunch of patriarchal nonsense. I LOVE smashing the patriarchy at any opportunity I can.  In today’s episode, I discuss and debunk the four most common, arbitrary, and patriarchal dating rules women follow. 1:46 - What you’re...

I’ve often said to clients to date for fun, not for the one. Having fun puts you into a state of super presence, like a puppy or a child just enjoying themselves without a care in the world. But what if the thought of dating feels very meh right now, and you’re looking to pump yourself up to do it? That’s the situation that today’s caller Amelia finds herself in right now. In this episode, I help...

We have all these rules around dating, especially as women. We get told, “Don’t do too much” or “Don’t seem too needy.” So when it comes to hookups and texting, you probably find yourself questioning when (and whether) it's good or bad to do it. In this episode, I talk about how you can prevent harmful hookups (emotionally speaking) and constant texting from getting in the way of your dating life....

Rondi has taken a deep dive into inner child work since we began working together. She’s realizing all types of connections between events in her life and beliefs she’s taken on. But her inner child is still having trouble making real sense of it all and connecting it to her specific situation now. If doing the deep inner work feels a bit vague or you’re unsure how to apply it, then you’ll love th...

Embodied Dating is a 6-week live immersive experience to help you release fear and anxiety around the unknowns in dating so you can feel it, ease meeting with potential partners, and stop ignoring red flags, falling in love with potential, and trying to control everything. The core of Embodied Dating is to learn my 3-part framework, that is, Embodied Dating. That's a 3-part framework for Embodied...

For whatever reason, you’ve gained weight. You went through something--a pregnancy, the pandemic, etc.--and ate a lot. And now your body doesn’t look the way you want it to look, or you feel uncomfortable in it. In this episode, I talk about the shame and embarrassment you feel after gaining weight for whatever reason and how you can still love yourself. 5:44​ - How you’ve been brainwashed to not...

Life has been a little different for my caller Rose since she left New York to go on a sabbatical to Mexico. With the addition of the pandemic, she’s felt more isolated over the past few years than ever. But soon she’ll be making her way back to the U.S. and the faster-paced city lifestyle she feels will offer more opportunities for dating. And yet, she’s really nervous about how to prepare hersel...

Michelle ended a four-year relationship two months ago and has been dealing with a roller coaster of emotions ever since. If you find yourself in a similar situation, those feelings can fester into beliefs, actions, and patterns you don’t want to deal with down the line. In this episode, Michelle and I discuss her situation and how to navigate the two stages of a breakup to set up for success goin...

You’ve been blindsided, hurt, and duped on past dates and by former partners. You’re determined to not repeat the same mistakes and attract the same kind of relationship, looking for red flags with eyes wide open. Instead of letting yourself get swept away in the romance of it all, you feel desperate for a sense of security in your relationship. For this series on how to navigate dating someone ne...

How do you navigate the early stages of dating without the stress, fear, and anxiety that often comes with it? I ended the last episode with a teaser of what I call “embodied dating.” In part two of this series, I dive a little deeper into it by discussing how it can help you during those early stages and giving an overview of the overall, three-step process. 1:31​ - Recapping the first episode of...

Meeting a new dating partner can be quite the roller coaster ride of emotions! You get the thrill of the first connection, the anticipation of the first date, and (if all goes well) the excitement of the “Wow, I’m actually in a relationship” stage. But you also might worry about whether or not you and your partner are on the same page or if the relationship is truly going anywhere. So how do you s...

Beating yourself up for reaching out to the ex you just can’t seem to quit? I can’t count how often I’ve had these kinds of conversations with clients! Today, I talk with my former client M who’s frustrated with herself because she recently reengaged with an ex of hers. And it isn’t the first time she’s done it either, but she knows it’s not good for her and wants to move on completely. The truth...

Choosing dating partners based on compatible zodiac signs is a thing. You’ve probably tried it yourself or seen others with dating profiles specifically requesting partners of certain signs. But contrary to what’s often depicted in the media, astrology isn’t about controlling your fate. It’s not about saying, for example, that you as a Gemini need to date an Aries. In today’s show, I’ve invited my...

Are you in a situation where you can’t seem to let go of someone, whether they’re an ex or a potential partner? Or do you treat your love life like the thing that excites you (at all) and a respite from the blah you feel is the rest of your life? Then listen up! In today’s episode, I speak with one of my clients, Amy, who’s in what you might call a “situationship.” But as you listen to this conver...

Are you a bit of a control freak? By that, I mean do you try to control everything in your love life (and beyond)? I’m incredibly passionate about letting go of the need to control everything. I consider it a vital part of healing and being on this love journey. In this episode, I define what it means to truly surrender, the benefits you derive from it, why people try to control things, what contr...

An old client of mine recently got into tarot. We’d worked together a couple of years ago, and she reached out to me for feedback after drawing some cards to help her answer a question about her love life. While I’m not a tarot expert, those of you who’ve listened to me for a while (or even just last week’s episode) know I love me some woo-woo, too! So I saw this as the perfect opportunity for a p...

I love oracle cards! I love the many themes, the inspirational meanings, or the self-reflective questions behind them. And today features an interview of someone who’s created her own oracle card deck of which I’m a big fan. I don’t even quite remember how I came across Rachael McKee and her Kickstarter campaign , but in this episode, we discuss her deck, the inspiration behind it, and how it emph...

This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up?  I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom.  It’s not that she needs to heal her rela...