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We’re living in a swipe right, swipe left world. Online dating sites have existed since even before Match.com became a thing in the mid 1990s. But now? New dating apps aren’t just popping up all the time, they’ve gotten niche-y with it too! In addition to the mainstream ones, you can find dating sites based on a religion, others for farmers and other rural area dwellers, etc. Whatever demographic...

Romantic comedies, dramas, novels, soap operas... we access so many things where we see the idea of having a soulmate come into play. And as soon as “the one” appears, the relationship just clicks and everything is perfect. Or is it? How do you find the balance between passion and having a healthy relationship, if one of those criteria is lacking? Today’s caller has a history of being in toxic rel...

Ever feel like there’s something missing in some area of your life or that you’re meant to be doing something else? Perhaps you’ve been in it (whatever it is) for a while but have had this nagging feeling that there’s a piece you could fit into the puzzle to make it even better. Or you want to change things up a bit because it’s become stale. The answer to your biggest nagging question can often b...

What do the law of attraction have in common with Christianity? You’ve probably run into the law of attraction idea of “attracting” circumstances, events, and people into your life based on your beliefs or “vibration” or whatever. Even if what you’re consuming isn’t specifically about the law, it can’t help but pervade personal growth spaces the same way Judeo-Christian standards pervade society e...

You just found out the person you’re dating is going through a divorce that hasn’t been finalized yet. Do you pump the breaks on it? And if so, could you actually be convinced not to? Talk about a hot take! Obviously, not everyone feels the same way. For many people, though, this situation is an immediate deal breaker, and you might be one of them. (In fact, many of my clients agree; I’ve got the...

Paige is no stranger to doing the inner work. She’s done A LOT of it! When she and I started working together, she’d been in therapy for a while, but her love life wasn’t changing the way she wanted it to. She needed something extra, and she found it through Love Incubator. Now, Paige is here to talk about the work she did through the program. In this episode, she reveals how the work I taught her...

As a Capricorn, I have an innate love for personal finance. I can nerd out and consume things like investing, budgeting, saving, paying off debt, and more for days. But I also believe that we relate to money the same way we relate to the people we date. In fact, we tie our worthiness to these things, especially women. So how are they similar, and how do you decouple your self-worth from your finan...

There are a lot of great people out there for you to date. And any one of them can mark off all the checkboxes you have in your head or on paper for what makes the perfect match for you. But how do you really know they’re the right person for you? This might be an especially pertinent question you ask yourself if you’ve dated more than your fair share of studs who turned out to be duds. That’s the...

I have a deep interest in the political and the personal. I was in the political space before I started my coaching business, and I’ve been interested in personal development since I was little. What drove me in my previous career, in a way, still drives me now: a deep frustration with the inequality of the status quo. I began to see the connection of one’s personal experience with what was going...

Nina hasn’t dated anyone in 13 years. Now, she’s beyond scared at the thought of getting back into the dating world. But that 13-year stretch isn’t the real issue... When Nina was last in a relationship, so many things in her life changed--relocating, losing lots of friends, etc. However, things went sour, and she was left to pick up the pieces and rebuild from scratch. So she carries fear from th...

Is it normal to be confused or hesitant about whether to see someone again after the first date? I get this question often from clients, and unfortunately, there’s no formula that’ll work perfectly to answer this for everyone. But you can still look at certain things to gain some perspective or ask yourself some questions.  In this episode, I cover a few things to think about after the first date...

Long-time listeners might get a sense of déjà vu with today’s show. This is a coaching call from 2019 but a very popular, timely, and super relatable one. That’s because what my guest Andree-Anne and I discuss is something a lot of women, including myself, have experienced. If you tend to get wrapped up emotionally (and physically) with new partners long before any real connection gets made, you’r...

You’ve consumed all the information you can find on dating and relationships. Yet, you’re either not attracting the kind of person you want or are still in a relationship you want out of. Does that sound like you? You’re stuck in a pattern, and to get out of it involves unlearning what got you there and then re-learning new skills. In this episode, I talk about the four stages of learning any new...

Do you remember the episode with Sophie ? She felt frustrated about an ex moving on so quickly after the end of their 12-year relationship. That call, and the fact that we’re in the season of engagement which often induces comparison and feelings of jealousy, have inspired me to expand on this discussion. Today, I talk about getting out of the comparison trap and jealousy traps and how to get over...

Jenn has a bit of an unusual situation going on. She’s in a relationship with someone she dated, but it’s not really a romantic relationship anymore. Instead, she has a situationship going on, and she wants to know how to get back to the way things were before they broke up. What starts out as a conversation about boundaries moves beyond that and takes a different turn. In this coaching episode, I...

Frustrated in your love life and looking for help? You have many tools and resources available to you, but you need to make sure you understand the specific purpose of each one. I’ve had clients frustrated with therapy because they thought or wanted it to be more like coaching when they’re not the same thing. So to help you figure out what’s best for you, in this episode I break down the three mai...

Imagine being with someone for years. Then one day it ends, and your ex has moved on rather quickly... a little too quickly for you, in fact.  My caller Sophie knows exactly how that feels, and to say the least, she’s hurt and confused by it. In this episode, I walk her through what she needs to do to work through her current lack of trust and belief in love and the sad, angry feelings that come a...

The holidays can be difficult for many reasons, but it can be especially difficult for single people looking for a relationship or those who feel stuck in a relationship they don’t want. You have to not only deal with feelings of loneliness or not feeling good enough in your relationship, but you have relatives who want to pry into your personal life when you’re just not up for it.  In this episod...

My client Crystal feels pretty annoyed by who she’s attracting into her love life. All she seems to get are a bunch of immature men! But is it really about the men? Or is something else going on here? In this episode, I help Crystal reveal some things about her boundaries. I also discuss dealing with anger and frustration and the effect of how society teaches men and women to behave in certain way...

How you do one thing is how you do everything. While this podcast focuses on romantic relationships, I find that a lot of my clients have similar patterns and issues that show up in their platonic relationships too, especially friendships. In this episode, I talk about how to make more friends, how to form better friendships with new and older friends alike, and how to deal with conflict within yo...

You don’t have examples of successful romantic relationships in your life or the lives of others around you. So how can you keep the faith? When it comes to dating, others' beliefs and actions take up space in your head. So how can you get them out? You only take action in your love life when you feel sure you won’t face rejection. So how can you get more comfortable going out on a limb and showin...

Sherry Argov’s book Why Men Love Bitches has sold millions of copies since its debut and has tons of reviews, most of them positive. It even had a resurgence in interest recently, so I thought I’d read through it for myself. In this episode, I break down the introduction and first chapter and the author’s four attraction principles. As you listen, you’ll discover why I feel the way I do about Argo...

You’re on a first date and want a second one, but the other person doesn’t. Or they want a second date, but you don’t. This pattern keeps repeating in your love life and no matter what, you can never seem to find someone with a mutual interest and attraction for a relationship. That’s the predicament in which my caller today finds herself. Chrissie wants to know why this keeps happening to her and...

Dating more intuitively isn’t just all about feelings over logic. There’s something else you need to date more intuitively without anxiety overtaking your relationships. In this episode, I talk about the purpose of different energies in your body, the four goals of intuitive dating, and how it all helps you engage logic with intuition in your love life to create a healthy and firm dating foundatio...

Your intuition is always there. It can be hard to hear or loud and clear, but it’s there all the same. It’s just a matter of accessing it and trusting it. In my self-trust podcast series over the last three weeks, I’ve talked about self-trust and having a stronger relationship with your intuition. In this episode, I talk with Denise who has really begun using and embodying the skills I talked abou...