Rock of Recovery

Self-absorption misses true love and drops into lust. Lustful thinking patterns dominate unintentional thinking patterns just like any other addiction. These thought patterns must be intentionally interrupted and forced out of the mind. There is a recovery guide to develop pure thinking skills. Also, lust is usually coming from an empty or wounded space that needs healed. Triggers to dysfunctional...

Painful relationships need distance to bring peace and perspective. This lesson outlines six levels of distance in relationships. There is an evaluation scale to determine what level of distance each of your significant relationships may need. When you are free from a toxic relationship, stand steadfast and do not be entangled again with them. Toxic relationships make us captive in the bondage of...

Addictive relationships never bring health or healing. You can only control yourself. Attempting to control another will drive you crazy. If you stay in an addictive relationship, you will not like who you become. This chapter outlines inner healing work that needs done to escape relationship addictions and/or domestic violence. We will learn to recognize maturity and work on our own emotional/rel...

Relationship addictions suck the life out of you. Recognizing a repeated cycle of toxic relationships is vital to stop the cycle. Some are addicted to love feelings but only for selfish gain. Love bombing is emotional manipulation. Relationship addictions are characterized by intense obsessing over another, a lack of identity, dominance and control. An easily observable cycle is intense passion, r...

Obsession is magnetically strong but is not love. When you are love starved all responses are selfish. Trauma Bonds form from repetitive abuse which can form intense attraction to a new person that holds that same personality characteristic of your past abusers. We will be recognizing red flags and why we are vulnerable to toxic relationships. Next, we will explore rules of engagement for new rela...

Perversion of truth is manipulation. Selfishness perverts relationships by establishing demands, usurping your authority, and taking control over another's life. This is a relational captivity plot with a goal of total bondage. You will be dominated until you have no identity. This lesson takes us through 2 Corinthians and Galatians and gives us instructions from the apostle Paul on how to handle...

Healthy relationships require emotional fitness. When I have broken down pillars in my life, I choose broken people. I may develop a rescuer mentality. I may attract insecure attachments or develop other types of problematic attachments. This lesson will include a codependency evaluation. Then we will establish personal boundaries with clear directions for how we allow people to treat us. Next, we...

If I am not content alone, I will never be content with another person. Relationship Addictions are toxic patterns that must be unlearned. This lesson will explore trauma bonding, loving bombing, pseudo-loyalty, and enmeshment. Disentangling from a toxic relationship will be messy and may take an act of congress. Your superpower will be placing firm boundaries and standing your ground. Self-evalua...

People in toxic relationships give power away to gain power and control over another. When we do this, we lose our own identity. Toxic relationships are built on power and control: emotional dominance, obsessing, isolating and controlling, threatening and manipulating, blaming & denying, and even physical dominance. 

Healthy relationships are intentional. It is when I need nothing from a relationship to identify and fulfill me that I can let go of trying to fix another person. This lesson describes a healthy relationship: accountability, open communication, respect of boundaries, respect for other's time and individuality, trust and support, shared power, individual responsibility and seeking to correct yourse...

Freedom to be a doer of the Word and not just a hearer is a progressive journey to subdue the flesh until we receive grace. Now, sin shall not have dominion over you because we are not under the law but under grace. Romans 6:14 Get a vision for your infinite worth. Know your value in the father’s eyes. Let him restore, redeem, comfort, heal and make you whole again. Let the father assure you of yo...

There is a war for our soul. It is a daily process to continually align our thinking with God’s Word. If I am speaking the Word over my life and the promises of God to myself, it is a powerful force to tear down strongholds. Anything drawing me away from Christ and keeping me distracted and needs to be met in battle. The wrestling match is within me. I must intentionally reflect on my motives and...

It's an easier journey when our faith comes alive, and the Spirit of the living God lives and breathes in us. This happens as we release the things in our lives that hinder us as our sacrifice for the day. Then we renew our minds by rehearsing the promises of God to ourselves and aligning our thinking with life and truth. If we walk in the Law of Spirit and Life, we will overcome the Law of Sin an...

Fellowship with God was a daily and precious blessing in the garden. After the fall of man, there came a deep-seated aversion for God evidenced by Adam and Eve fleeing and hiding from his presence. This is characteristic of the unregenerate flesh and is a hidden defect. We must be willing to surrender our desires and take up our cross and follow the Lord, Jesus. If any man come after me, he must d...

Training the Next Generation is powerful. Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 I find that I am still a child and need reminded and often re-trained by the Word of God. These mini-devotions are for the whole family. They are good conversation starters. The Sweetness of the Tongue. Love is Patient and Love is Kind. Love is... Love is...

Although the Lord give you the bread of adversity and the water of affliction your teachers will be hidden no more; with your own eyes you will see them. Isaiah 30:20 This intense study looks at multiple verses on suffering, Isaiah 48:9-10 says that God's choices were to cut us off forever or give us affliction. If we soften our hearts and cry out to God, he will deliver us. The affliction will te...

An understanding spirit is an excellent spirit. Daniel 5:12;6:3. Daniel Chapter 6 Daniel in the Lions' Den. Character skills discussed Faith vs. Unbelief. There is a self-evaluation on feeble faith vs. healthy faith. The new ruler, King Darius, favored the elderly Daniel and put him above all his administrators. The other administrations were jealous and tricked the King into signing a decree that...

Authority rises and falls by the hand of the Lord. Psalm 75:7 Daniel Chapter 5 King Belshazzar was having a party and they were drunk. He commanded his servants to go and obtain the vessels of gold and silver from storage. Then Belshazzar defiled God's holy vessels with worship to false gods of gold, silver, brass, iron, wood, and stone. A finger appeared and wrote on the wall. Daniel prophesied t...

Training up the Next Generation #2 & #3 Training the difference between being Silly vs Foolish Any area of your family life that is irritating needs structure, discipline or training. Teasing This lesson teaches the rules on teasing. There is no greater armor than acceptance and love within the family to help a child build a healthy identity. 

The Daniel Study Chapter 4 The Humbling of Nebuchadnezzar This is the fulfillment of Nebuchadnezzar's dream. He was driven to the field with the beast for 7 years because of his pride. The principle taught is that Pride takes a Man's Reason. The character skills taught are pride vs humility. The self-evaluation skills are to determine our symptoms of pride and our expressions of humility. Parent/T...

The Daniel Study Chapter 3 Deliverance From the Fiery Furnace But even if God does not deliver us, we want you to know, O King, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up. Daniel 3:18 The principle taught is that "Right living gives us confidence to follow God." The character skill is Boldness vs Fear. Boldness welcomes persecution for doing what is right. The ri...

This is parenting tips on how to train for first time obedience. As an employee, this is a valuable skill to learn. As an employer, this is a valuable skill to teach. 

The Daniel Study Chapter 2 Nebuchadnezzar's Dream of World Empires The character skill taught is obedience vs willfulness. The principle taught is Anger brings dominance, harshness and over corrects. There is a self-evaluation questionnaire to determine if we know how to Honor our Authority. As parents, if we do not honor our authority, our children will not understand the importance of honoring u...

Daniel's Daring Decision Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine. Daniel 1:8 This is a children's/family Bible Study on Daniel 1:1-21. Daniel and his three Hebrew friends are captive in Babylon and learn to make a respectful appeal. Because they honored God first, he gave them favor with their authority and made them ten times wiser than others. In this chapter, there is...

A close friend that is sincere and asking for correction and giving you gentle corrections from a heart of love is priceless. Don't be yoked together with unbelievers. Come out from among those who are careless with their walk with God and be separate from anything that would rob you of your life's goals. In this study, we look at more Scriptures that teach us about friendships. Pray for a good fr...