Rising From Shame

Part 2 of What's the Solution, with Dr. Stephan Poulter, PhD, a shame expert, and author of The Shame Factor. We all long for three things: to be seen, understood, and approved of. In this episode, Dr. Poulter and I discuss why we have to do that for ourselves first and where to begin. "Insight is an acquired skill," he explains, "by accepting who we are, we begin to remove the amnesia many don't...

"If we are transparent, shame can't exist. Turn the lights on, it's no longer dark," Dr. Stephan B. Poulter, PhD, explains in this episode, including insight into healing the lost boy and girl within us. He walks us through the first baby steps out of shame, including seven red flags to begin acknowledging it. What's next? "What's the inner narrative in your head?" he challenges us, then "What's t...

In this episode, Nadia talks about how we perceive, give, and seek LOVE as a thing, proposing that instead we change the WAY we love by building a closer relationship to the love within our own soul. She explains how her concept of receiving and giving love changed over the years, providing insight and tips on how to dramatically improve authenticity and honesty in relationships, creating much mor...

The Blame Game - Story Time is for Parents in Recovery, or anyone caring for little ones. There are opportunities every day to transfer lessons learned on our journeys to the next generation. In this episode, Nadia talks about: What is blame? How is blame projecting one's own shame onto another? When is blame ok? When it is not ok? She shares about playing a football game with her kids, how blame...

This is a raw, powerful episode. Nancy is a national victim's rights leader and wrote the preface in Nadia's memoir, Home is Within You. As a result of a violent assault that included strangulation, Nancy and other leaders championed changes to strangulation laws, investigations, and findings. Please be advised that Nancy and Nadia discuss aspects of interpersonal violence and abuse as well as why...

In this episode, Dr. Dawson Church, gives us straight scientific answers about how shame negatively affects our brain, confirming why it is so important to identify, understand, and quell its sources so we can heal our brains! Why is shame so commonplace in trauma survivors? How do emotions affect our "gene expression"? and most of all, What can we do to heal our brain and free ourselves from trau...

Part 2 of a 5 Part Series on Core Wounds. Building awareness of core wounds and beliefs from childhood empowers us to recognize the source of shame-based thoughts and thereafter transform them into power. In this episode, Nadia describes the core wound of "feeling separate" - including how it evolves young, what it feels like, and how it negatively affects us, including two short readings from her...

What does having a relationship to the soul mean? Why is it essential to building authentic relationships? In this episode, Priya Jain, Founder of Seventh Chakra Institute of Spiritual Sciences, keeps it simple - "What is the being that talked to you as a child?," explaining it is only through a relationship to the soul that we understand ourselves - the inner child, inner adult, and spiritual sel...

This is a juicy episode! Regular guest, Dr. Stephan Poulter, PhD, explains two important things: 1) Shame, self-love, and intimacy are incompatible because they can never peacefully co-exist, and 2) The relationship with ourselves sets the tempo, platform, and rhythm for every other relationship in our life. Where to start? Dr. Steve says we must first acknowledge the "blind spot," or be honest wi...

#2 in a Story Time Series from and for parents in recovery, or anyone who cares about the next generation. Nadia shares life moments when parenting merged with recovery learnings, transforming shame from the past into power today. Shame often impedes the ability of those in recovery to be truly present for our children. But there is a way forward. The truth is, we love our children and did the bes...

How do we teach our children to dream big and make those dreams come true? In this episode, guest Erik Perezbrain, a father, entrepreneur, soccer coach, Jiu Jitsu medalist, art collector, avid traveler, and author "Good Luck is My Guardian Angel," explains how to guide children into manifesting their positive affirmations. What is good luck? How do we teach our children to think positively in any...

Episode 1 in a 5-part series: New year, new self-awareness. In this episode, Nadia explains how to transform shame into power by first building self-awareness of core beliefs, narratives, and wounds from childhood. She describes what a core wound is and delves into a major core wound many people experience - fear of abandonment. Nadia shares examples of how this core wound played out through shame...

Check Out Holiday Prep #1 before diving into this episode, using it as a "post-holiday" review of emotional triggers that came up, enabling healing and empowerment in the new year! During the holiday season, dormant feelings and beliefs get triggered. In this episode, Dr. Stephan Poulter and I continue giving tips to walk through them should they still be present, and they likely are. It's not abo...

The holiday season is an opportunity to heal! In this enlightening episode, Dr. Stephen Poulter, PhD and I discuss how to use increased contact with loved ones, or lack of it, to build awareness of core beliefs from childhood that may keep us hostage today. Dr. Steve and Nadia give a roadmap with tips to both prepare for emotionally triggering moments as well as how to transform them into emotiona...

Story Time is for any adult raising or caring for little ones while in the midst of any type of recovery, whether mental health, addiction, relationship, or family matters. Our recovery struggles and learnings can indeed evolve into gems of wisdom offerings for the younger ones in our life. In this episode, you get three mini-stories (Vanilla & Watermelon, Santa Letters, and Slumber Party) where l...

What is shame? In this episode, Dr. Poulter and I get deep into defining and explaining what shame is, using my childhood story as a guinea pig. Do you have shame? You'll know the answer is "yes" after listening. Shame is the secret belief you are defective, inferior, or there's simply something wrong with you. Where does this come from? Why this belief? Why this misbelief? Why do we keep it secre...

In his element, Diego is a joy to listen to and explains exciting new astrophysics studies in a relatable and understandable way and how it helps with mindfulness, including observation of exo-planets and more. In this episode, we also get into some tough questions - What does he and his generation think about the world today? What do they wish we knew more about them? What is the single most impo...

This is the first "Story Time for Parents in Recovery." One of the biggest blessings of trauma and addiction recovery is that we can teach our kids what we wish we knew when we were younger! How do we teach our children the importance of building a connection to a higher power, when ultimately its what saved our lives? How do we exemplify maintaining a supportive community around us, and not isola...

An ANGEL in every way, Hope Horlick a child advocate, realtor, and musician shares her inspiring journey of recovery and how she uniquely transformed shame into power through music and singing. In this episode, Hope brings us to a better understanding of how frequent moves as a child might affect us, how shame arises through subtle comments, and how the cunning, baffling disease of alcoholism begi...

In this SOLO Podcast check in, you get an overview of recent interviews and examples from my life about how to find and give unconditional love as well as how to get out of the muck of others shaming, with specific tips to prepare now for possible triggers over this holiday season. Let's commit to CHOOSE LOVE (soul), not fear and judgment (mind), for ourselves and those around us! FREE Ban Shame T...

No shame in talking about shame with Dr. Stephen Poulter. Check out prior episodes 8 & 9 with the Dr. before this one! In this episode, Dr. Poulter explains exactly WHAT SHAME IS and the SIX AREAS it shows up in, helping us better recognize it and its highly damaging affects on living a present and joyful life. "Shame is ego," he says, "it blocks us from connecting to our best self," our private a...

Self-Absorption, Self-Centeredness, or Self-Awareness with regular guest Priya Jain, Founder of Seventh Chakra Institute of Spiritual Sciences. Check Out Episodes 4 & 6 for our prior conversations. Does physical age have nothing to do with emotional, mental, or spiritual development? Why do we measure ourselves based on how the world views us, or what we don't have yet? What is a better approach t...

In this Episode, Dr. Elizabeth Cronin, shares her journey walking through shame as a child when told she was "highly sensitive" and her feelings were "too much," including how it showed up within and around her, and in a personal struggle with an eating disorder. She then shares her healing journey, and how she ultimately, transformed her experience into powerful parenting moments and meaningful w...

If you didn't listen to Episodes 1 and 2, please do so before listening to this. Those explain how identifying core wounds and patterns from childhood helped me to work through unhealthy patterns as an adult woman. In this episode, I am brutally honest about how shame showed up recently as a survivor of a violent assault, as well as how I walked and continue to handle triggers of a core wound caus...

How do we survive being dragged through the mud, shamed, and blamed? In this Episode, adored and lauded Podcast Host Meghan Judge explains the trauma she experienced as a child and adult woman. She drags subtle shame-based tactics experienced out of the shadows, providing insight into how we can empower and protect ourselves from experiencing the same. This is a fun, honest, and raw conversation b...