Rise Again From The Struggle

Facts fade. Stories stick. You can use this to weave real facts into story format to learn things faster and deeper. You can also use this to trick yourself into believing the lies you tell yourself. The better the story, the more it sticks. Eventually, that's all it is... an untrue story. You regularly tell a story to yourself about not being good enough, too. Now you know why that's so dangerous...

You will eventually need to do the hard thing to progress. When you get it done first, the rest goes by faster and easier. That's because you don't have to spend the rest of your time thinking about the hard thing in front of you. Instead, you get the satisfaction of knowing you've already done that part. No excuses! Kevin Brewer Rise Again From The Struggle

Without suffering, you wouldn't be half the man you are today. Sure, not everything turned out the way you wanted. Some things were even WAY THE F%*K OFF! Yet, when you learn the lessons these moments provide, you gain wisdom that's invaluable to you and those you can share it with. Struggle is a necessary step to endure. Without it, you would not understand joy, pleasure, and happiness. No excuse...

We don't always like the method we are provided to learn a lesson from, but it's what's needed to teach you the lesson. We learn best through difficulty, but only if we're strong enough to keep our heads up and observe it for what it is. No excuses! Kevin Brewer Rise Again From The Struggle

You can't hate yourself into a version you will love. I really liked this message today. It made many things click for me. I made significant improvements to my mind and body after I stopped fighting reality and trying to use anger and disgust to improve myself. I accepted my reality, then started making small moves towards the future I saw for myself. Each step, I celebrated my progress. I didn't...

Some days, you just don't have your best. Do it anyway. You said you would. Not to mention, you need to learn to operate when you're not at your best, too. Tonight was one of those nights for me. It wasn't my best of all time, but it was the best I had tonight. Sometimes, that's the only option you have. You show up and do the work either way. Keep your promises to yourself. When you lie to yourse...

Want to stop ruminating on something you messed up? Use toys visualization technique. Replay the event in your mind. This time, see yourself doing the action you want to implement. Do this several times and get the practice in. Now you have the practice to do this next time. Remember, you can't change the past, but you can learn from it and do better in the future. No excuses! Kevin Brewer Rise Ag...

Maybe I'm too optimistic, but I don't think anyone is truly broken. I think a lot of people don't have the skills they need to find and fulfill their life's mission, which leads them to believe they are broken. When other people who feel the same give advice, it's usually to confirm you are just like them. When you get your mind cleared, you will really see how right I am. You're not broken. You j...

Men learn through pleasure and pain. That's why we seek out things that are a bit risky. Habits and vices are formed and are the strongest through these highs and lows of our emotions. If you can identify the pleasure or pain, aka the emotion, feeling, or sensation you are running from or to when these things come up, you can very quickly replace the action. The trick is getting deep enough and ho...

You see something, and you bounce it off your own history and expectations. That's your perception at work. The problem is, it's not always correct. You only take into account one possibility about things and miss the context clues. Some are even obvious. This is easy to fix, though. Start with a question about why you thought what you did. Then try and find a different reason for the event. Debat...

Radical acceptance is powerful. It seems simple, and you probably think it won't work. I'm telling you from experience that it does. The more you fight your reality, the more your mind, body, and soul get out of sync. When that happens, it allows the chaos of the world to take over. This applies externally to relationships, too. When you fight reality, chaos and disorder break through. A couple th...

I once found this phrase to be funny. Now I realize it's a way to try and remove responsibility from your life. Most people will live a majority of their lives as adults. Your childhood is meant to prepare you for this. As a species, we used to understand that. Now you just want everything handed to you on the silver platter you didn't earn. I LOVE being an adult. It doesn't get old. It just gets...

I'm curious to see the comments after this one 🤣 Honestly, though, stop with all the talk about you being a child or needing to deal with your inner child. What you really need is to develop the skills of an adult, unless your goal is to be a child, of course. And if that's the case, stop giving your opinion like it matters. I have nothing against children. I enjoy teaching them and guiding them...

Doing epic shit is easy when you put yourself in the company of other people doing epic things. Maybe you feel like a fraud at first. Then, slowly, you'll start adding the habits of the people you are hanging around with. Eventually, you do some epic shit before you realize it. It's really that easy. Only catch. You need to be Curtis curious, not a cancer. You need to be truly happy for their loss...

Controlling your response is important, and within your control for sure. You do have control over your thoughts, too, though. Not every thought, but most. It's a skill you can develop. Notice the unproductive language, then actively change it. Eventually, it just becomes your default thinking. It takes time and attention, but it works. Need help? Let's talk. No excuses! Kevin Brewer Rise Again Fr...

Recovery and health are a skill. I know, I'm a broken record. This is important. I lot of people overlook this part of training. Your body is designed to move a lot and to do it daily. It recovers best through movement, not rest. Think back to when you were younger. You likely spent a lot of time in positions adults would comment about looking weird or painful. They only get to be painful when you...

I hear people say this a lot, and I used to believe it, too. Then, I changed my habits and figured out how to be healthy. When you really think about it, how do farmers do it for so long? What about master martial artists? There's all kinds of examples of people advancing in age yet being fully capable still. Stop believing it's inevitable to be broken as your age goes up, and you'll stop being br...

Life lessons hit you at the weirdest times, lol. This time, I was upside down and feeling like I was going over. But I caught myself and stayed up. It was at that moment, just after missing a few attempts before this, that it hit me. My handstands aren't consistent yet because I keep fighting the feeling of falling! After this realization, I nailed a dozen more attempts. Life is no different. When...

We've all been there, using weak and lazy thinking to justify our poor behavior. It's not a good look, though. It's a terrible way to live. Instead, learn to control your emotions. Solve the problem instead of trying to win. Get to the right solution instead of needing to be right. Maybe this means you need to renegotiate the relationship or work dynamic. But selfishly believing the other person n...

I had this thought on my walk today. Maybe a better way of asking is, do you get the job done or the intention done? You see this a lot in law. The system tends to try too hard to uphold the letter of the law, not the intent of the law. I think we all do a lot of the get things done version. I'm shifting my focus to ensure I'm hitting the intention more often after thinking about this today. What...

Your issues aren't because of your mom or dad. You just refuse to be accountable for the fact that you choose bad habits as well. And to be clear, I'm not telling you this to shit on my dad. I don't need nor want your pity or sorrow. My point is simply to let you know that I know what's possible because I chose a different path when I had every possible built-in excuse there was. You're an adult....

If you think coaching doesn't work, that's because you haven't worked with someone like me. I don't sugar coat things for you. I won't tell you it's easy. I don't let you get away with excuses. I will call you out. I'll piss you off if that's what's needed. That's because I care. I TRULY care that you make progress. I'm not the academic who only studied concepts and think I know because a book tol...

This is why you quit on your goals. You don't see the progress you're making because your brain makes it seem normal too fast for you to think any different. This is why it's so important to have goals you can track progress for. Without that, it's hard to see how far you've come. Want some help? Send me a message. It's really me on the other end! No excuses! Kevin Brewer Rise Again From The Strug...

A food tip tonight. I had my wife make me some homemade tortillas the last few weeks and noticed I was feeling bloated and full a lot. I skipped a few days and tried again to test my theory and felt it again after eating them. They are nothing more than heavy cream and flour (maybe a little salt, too) and taste great. My body just doesn't care for wheat based flour anymore. When I'm feeling bloate...

Failure is a learning opportunity, not a reason to give up hope. Some risks end in major failures. Sometimes, that means you lose everything, too. That isn't an excuse to pout and complain about everything wrong with the system. That's your chance to take a real look at what you didn't expect, why, and gain knowledge. See where you are weak, and build up that area. See where you misread something...