Rise Again From The Struggle

You need to be able to recognize when you're being led into the wrong dialog. Yes, rather you realize it or not, you are constantly being manipulated by the media, hollyweird, and other sources of information and entertainment. That's why you need to be able to recognize when you are being brought into emotional debates and not logical ones. There's no winning or real positive outcome from emotion...

Do it anyway. You're tired? Bored? Don't want to? You'll get to it tomorrow? I mean, nobody will know, right? Maybe that's true, but you'll know. And that's exactly how you lose trust and faith in yourself. By constantly finding excuses not to do things you know will move you towards your goal. Get up, get moving, and do it anyway. Your actions can dictate your emotions just as well as your emotio...

Ready isn't a feeling. It's a decision. It's action. It's movement towards your goal. It's not a feeling. Sure, there's things you need to prepare for. There's skills that are necessary for many tasks. Without them, you will not be ready, and failure is certain. But none of those things are feelings. So why do you sit around waiting to move forward with your plans and goals until you feel ready? Y...

Building new habits or deleting old habits is pretty easy once you learn the "trick" or, really, just the skill. You can only change when you can imagine yourself doing the thing you want. The more you tell yourself that thing is difficult, the harder it becomes to accomplish. Start by setting that new identity. Tell yourself you are that new thing, even if you're a bad version of it right now. Th...

Everyone wants to heal until they find out the medicine is discipline. What a true statement. Discipline can change your life. But you're too busy trying to be a rebel. Fighting discipline, structure, and standards every chance you get. You think nobody should put rules, limits, or boundaries on you. How's that working out? Why then do you have so many rules and boundaries for those interacting wi...

Every now and then, Hollyweird will give you a good line 😂 This one was legit. It made me think hard and deep. The thing about any situation that gives people long-term issues really is staying in the moment in your mind. You slowly drown yourself by continuing to relive that moment over and over. But you don't need to do that. There's a lesson in every good, bad, or indifferent moment. Learn fro...

Thermostats and thermometers both deal with temperature yet have very different functions. One just tells you what the temperature is while the other sets the temperature for the room. You have a choice in which one you are. But be careful. You can be the freezer or the heater. Are you the one bringing the room down or lifting them up? Energy is contagious, so be sure it's the right energy. No exc...

Hope is very powerful. It can both elevate you or destroy you. The difference is in the timeline you attach it to. If the window is tight and linked to an expectation, then it can destroy you. It might even break you so badly that you give up on life. And that's not hyperbole. Yet if you tie it to a brighter future knowing there will be an unknown volume of pain between now and then, that same hop...

A deep dive into how people today continue to pass accountability off. I also discuss the difference between excuses and reasons so you can change your perspective and grow.

Feedback is scary. It hurts your feelings, and you might need to admit you were wrong or need to improve. Wait, why are you afraid of that? How else are you going to improve? How else are you going to figure out what you need to work on to level up? Nobody is perfect. So why be afraid to learn how to improve? You should always be learning, growing, and developing. The only way to do this is throug...

Once you learn how to practice non judgemental analysis of yourself, you can really take things to the next level. This is why I weigh myself every day. It gives me insight into how my body is doing. The more consistent you are with your routines, the more consistent the numbers should be. If the numbers change quite a bit regularly, then something you're doing or eating is not being processed by...

Find a way to get it done. Don't let perfect continue to be the enemy of done. You can find a way when you let go of the thought it has to be great every time. Hurt, tired, sore... doesn't matter. There's some version of progress you can still accomplish. Can't bear weight on a foot or leg? Then try biking, one foot jump rope, or use a hand bike. Arms or shoulders are the problem? Run, walk, or ru...

Feelings aren't facts. I've said it before, and I'll say it again. I "felt" gross today. I "felt" sore. I "felt" like I wasn't going to be able to start my race, let alone finish it. Even after I started, I "felt" like I might need to drop out. Then I told myself to take one more step and see. Then I ran a little. Walked a little. Completed an obstacle. Then started that process over. Eventually,...

It starts in the mind first. I keep saying it because it's the truth. Until you change the way you think and the way you talk to yourself, nothing will change in the long term. A simple shift in how I saw myself allowed me to change my habits to match that new identity. Then, it was about aligning my actions with that. I didn't start out great, but I started. Then, I kept improving and building th...

Hacks don't work, especially in the long term. That's because they never address the real problem. You are the problem. Get over it. It's the truth. You go through life believing what others have taught you, and you never question where that information came from or if it was ever true. You need to develop the mental skills to be curious, disciplined, and structured. You need to set high standards...

You don't like to fail. I get that. You don't live when things go wrong. Again, I get that. But the real reason it sucks? Because you only planned for perfect. When you plan contingencies, even when things don't work out, you are able to move through the emotions quickly. You can get back to neutral and be productive quicker. That's because planning for the inevitable failure helps you become more...

The idea of a prodigy sounds amazing. It gives you an automatic excuse to not be great at things. Except they don't exist. That's according to Anders Ericsson, who studied these figures for decades. The thing he found was that every single one was trained at an early age with someone who kept them interested and learning. We all have the ability to do great things. We've just been lied to by those...

You can learn a lot from exercise that translates over to real life. I've known this concept in different contexts in the past, but my run revealed another way of explaining it. When you first start your run, every time you go through that initial amping up period, followed by a quick crash of tired and exhaustion. That's your body believing you're in danger and running from a predator. If you can...

Anchor, behavior, celebrate. This is the ABC's of habit change. If you can get this down, installing new habits becomes easy. First, anchor your new habit to an action you currently do. Like putting your workout clothes next to the sink you brush your teeth at or your journal next to the coffee machine. Next, complete the behavior. Finally, do some kind of celebration to build in a reward for doin...

Changing habits isn't complicated. But there are two main ways to get the job done. If you're not successful with habit changes in the past, maybe this can help! You can either add a habit you want that takes the place of a habit you don't. Or, you can remove a habit that you don't and allow a new or different habit to fill that space. Seems like the same thing? It's not. One, you focus on not doi...

How often do you waste time because you think you need to be perfect? Or maybe you expect everything to run smoothly and hope your schedule doesn't get moved. But that's just not reality. Schedules change. Results don't always match. And the more you need to rely on someone else as part of your schedule, the less you can count that as certain. You do, however, have the ability to fill in gaps. Tak...

People often skip out on their dreams because they fear failure. They think they can't handle the rejection. But what if you switched that? What if you no longer feared failure? It's not giving up fears in general, but switching what you fear. Fear not trying. Switch your fear to not knowing what might have been. Failure is part of the process. You fail whether you try or not. So you might as well...

Find a way to fit in your routines. They might not look quite the same, but you can find a way to get things in. You get caught up in the idea that these things need to be complicated. That they need to be perfect or look exactly the same as you planned it out. That's why you get "stressed" and keep skipping things. Because you believe this lie that perfect is the only way. If that's the case for...

Building unshakable discipline starts in the mind. You have to build the thought structure and belief system that doesn't allow for that weak deviation. You build it through setting your identity. What do you see for yourself in the future? What is that goal, or how do you want to be remembered? Start there and create the habits that will carry you to be that person. Then, stick to the plan regard...

At the highest levels, you have people talking about mental skills. If Nick Saban believes in these skills, why are you still on the fence? If you can't put your focus and attention where it needs to be in high-pressure moments, it's because you failed to train these skills. Your mind can be one of your greatest assets or biggest opponents. You have total control over which one you allow it to be....