Rewired Sober

What do Botox, beauty culture, perfectionism, recovery, feminism, and self-worth have in common? More than most of us want to admit. In this powerful and surprisingly funny conversation, Kate sits down with filmmaker and actress Kerri Lynn Miller to discuss her upcoming psychological drama TOX , a film exploring beauty obsession, body dysmorphia, perfectionism, and the relentless pursuit of extern...

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com For most o...

What do autism, Ozempic, alcohol cravings, recovery culture, and a Substack called The Loudest Girl in the Corner have in common? More than you might think. In this episode of Rewired Sober, I sit down with Rebecca Rush—sober autistic peer support coach, poet, essayist, and creator of The Loudest Girl in the Corner —for one of the most honest, hilarious, and thought-provoking conversations I've ha...

In this solo episode of Rewired Sober, we’re talking about why so many intelligent, capable, high-functioning women struggle to quit drinking — even when they know alcohol is hurting them. Because contrary to popular belief, addiction and emotional dependency are not intelligence problems. In fact? Sometimes being highly self-aware actually makes it easier to stay stuck. Smart women are incredibly...

In this episode of Rewired Sober, we’re talking about a thought almost every woman in recovery has had at some point: “It’s unfair I have to live sober.” And honestly? I get it. It can feel deeply frustrating to watch other people drink while you’re trying to rebuild your nervous system, regulate your emotions, and figure out who you even are without alcohol. Nobody wants to be the person ordering...

This episode is a little chaotic, deeply human, wildly funny, and honestly? exactly what recovery can start to feel like when you stop making sobriety synonymous with punishment. I’m taking you with me to New York City — from a sober social night at The Maze, to long walks through Central Park with women who are rebuilding themselves out loud. We talk about laughter, freedom, female friendship, fe...

What if the thing you’ve been calling boredom in sobriety… is actually a lack of expression? In this episode, I sit down with Susi Glenna Milne to talk about creativity not as a hobby—but as a lifeline in recovery. We get into what happens after you stop drinking and realize… okay, now I actually have to feel my life. And instead of numbing out, what if you created your way through it? We talk abo...

My solid guess is this: You didn’t drink because you were weak. You drank because your brain adapted. In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest lies in recovery culture: that shame will somehow motivate you into becoming a better version of yourself. Spoiler: it won’t. In fact, it does the opposite. Using both neuroscience and real-life, messy-human examples, Kate is walking you thro...

What if the way you introduce yourself… is keeping you stuck? In this episode, we’re diving into something that’s deeply normalized in recovery spaces—but rarely questioned: The words you use to describe who you are. Because when you repeatedly say: “I am an alcoholic” “I am broken” “This is just who I am” Your brain listens. Not emotionally. Neurologically. And it starts wiring your identity arou...

Every year, the first Monday in May, the world watches the Met Gala—a spectacle of fashion, identity, and storytelling through art. And this year? I’m not on that carpet. But I am building something that matters a hell of a lot more. Because the version of me who used to drink herself into invisibility… is now creating a life out loud. In this episode, I’m taking you inside the real plot twist of...

Mama- You’re not too angry. You’re finally paying attention. In this episode, we’re talking about something that gets misunderstood, minimized, and straight-up pathologized—especially in women: Rage. Not surface-level irritation. Not “I need a bubble bath.” I’m talking about the kind of anger that makes you look at your life and go: “Are you kidding me?” This isn’t a “calm down and regulate” conve...

What if the problem wasn’t just alcohol… but the way you were taught to stop thinking for yourself? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something bigger than recovery culture. Deprogramming from AA dogma forced me to confront a deeper pattern— cult mentality —and how it shows up everywhere: sobriety spaces, religion, spiritual healing circles, coaching communities, friendships, and ev...

⬇️ READY TO GO DEEPER? Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoachi...

Connect with Kate at Rewired Sober on All Social Media Platforms Book a Discovery Call with Kate: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Email the Podcast: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com In this solo episode, Kate shares what she can feel falling away in her life—and what she’s consciously choosing to embrace instead. Inspired by a meditation on the goddess Kali from the work o...

Early sobriety can feel confusing, emotional, and honestly… pretty weird. You quit drinking and everyone expects life to magically improve overnight. But the truth is, the early stages of sobriety often come with exhaustion, emotional whiplash, boredom, and a lot of questions about who you are without alcohol. In this solo episode, Kate Vitela, RN, takes a no-nonsense, honest look at early sobriet...

⬇️ READY TO GO DEEPER? https://linktr.ee/KateVitela If you’re a midlife woman questioning your relationship with alcohol or figuring out what comes next in sobriety, I’ve created resources to help you move forward with clarity and confidence. Nurses spend their careers taking care of everyone else. But what happens when the caregiver is the one who needs help? In this episode, Kate sits down with...

In this episode of Rewired Sober , host Kate Vitela, RN sits down with Dawn Nickel , founder of SHE RECOVERS , to explore what women’s recovery looks like when we stop forcing it into one narrow definition. SHE RECOVERS is a global nonprofit dedicated to making recovery accessible, inclusive, and empowering for all women —not just those recovering from substance use, but women healing from mental...

Women don’t just experience alcohol use disorder differently than men — they are judged differently too. In this episode, we explore the double standard women face around drinking, addiction, and recovery, including how stigma, biology, trauma, and social expectations intersect to create unique challenges for women. You’ll learn why women often develop alcohol problems faster, why shame and secrec...

What happens when a recovery program that once helped you… stops fitting who you’re becoming? In this episode, Kate sits down with Kirsten — known online as @sobrietybestie and host of the Sobriety Bestie podcast — to explore what it looks like to question Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) after years of participation. Kirsten spent 10 years in AA and has now been out for 5. Together, they discuss the com...

In this episode, Kate is joined by Simmy, founder of Miracle Maker 1111, for a conversation exploring the connection between belief, identity, energy, and manifestation. Together they unpack the idea that our internal world — our thoughts, expectations, emotions, and self-concept — shapes the life we experience. Simmy shares her step-by-step approach to manifestation, including the role of visuali...

Burnout isn’t just a personal problem—it’s a cultural one. In this episode, Kate sits down with former Sociology Professor turned Burnout Coach Dr. Jen Costanza for a refreshingly honest conversation about what it actually means to live in today’s world as a woman, a professional, and a human being with a nervous system. Together, they unpack how modern culture pressures women to perform wellness...

In this raw solo episode of Rewired Sober , Kate celebrates eight years of sobriety while recording from New York City during her annual Fashion Week trip. This isn’t a highlight reel — it’s an honest reflection on self-trust, identity, boundaries, feminism, spirituality, grief, creativity, and what actually changes when you build a life you don’t need to escape from. Kate explores how sobriety re...

In this solo episode, Kate goes deep into a part of recovery that rarely gets named — but quietly shapes everything: religious wounding, self-trust, and soul work. For years, Kate approached recovery through neuroscience alone — partly out of rebellion against rigid dogma and hierarchical systems that taught her she was broken, powerless, or unable to trust herself. But over time, both her own hea...

pisode Notes This is a bonus episode about staying sober in a world that feels like it’s on fire. I talk about capacity — not as a moral issue, but as a real limit — and why newly sober people do not owe the world constant engagement, takes, or emotional mastery. We cover: Why sobriety doesn’t mean being “above it” How self-abandonment masquerades as responsibility The difference between caring an...

What happens when the very system that’s supposed to support healing starts to feel controlling, fear-based, or limiting? In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Tara Grace the host of the Recovery Rebellion podcast , who openly identifies as a “12-step dogma survivor” and advocates for a more nuanced, compassionate, and person-centered approach to recovery. We explore the darker side of the...