Revolutionise Your Love Life

In this powerful and practical episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather Garbutt speaks with family lawyer Colete Bane about the important difference between controlling behaviour and “control freak” tendencies during separation and divorce. Together, they explore how anxiety, urgency and fear can sometimes look like control, but come from a very different place than coercive or narcissist...

In this second episode in our series on conscious intentional divorce , I’m joined again by the wonderful Colette Bane to explore the victim mindset and how it can emerge during divorce. We are very clear that this conversation is not about survivors of domestic abuse or coercive control. That is a different and very important subject. Here, we are looking at the emotional patterns that can arise...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , I’m joined by the wonderful Colette Bane, a family lawyer whose emotional intelligence, clarity and care make her such a valuable guide for people navigating divorce. Together we explore what it means to approach divorce consciously and intentionally, especially when powerful emotions begin to surface. Divorce is not simply a legal process. It is a...

In this warm, candid and deeply human conversation for the Revolutionise Your Love Life podcast, I speak with couples therapists and relationship coaches Matt Albiges and Rebeca Pereira about what it really takes to create a lasting, loving romantic relationship. We explore their own love story, from meeting on an NLP training course and later “bumping into” one another on the London Underground,...

In this special episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather Garbutt is interviewed by Matt about a new paradigm in dating and relationships, and what it really takes to choose and create “the relationship of your life”. Heather shares her own turning point, from being a long-time psychotherapist who still found love elusive, to doing Calling in “The One” herself after a lonely Valentine’s Da...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather Garbutt sits down with Marina Love , a solution-focused hypnotherapist who works with high-achieving, self-aware people who look “fine” on the outside but feel overwhelmed, stuck or emotionally drained on the inside. Together they explore why relationships can start to feel like hard work when your life is ticking along, and how chronic low...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather Garbutt is joined by Catalina, a psychotherapist from Romania who supports survivors and thrivers of narcissistic abuse. Together they explore what it takes to rebuild trust after coercion and gaslighting, and how to date intentionally so you do not repeat old patterns. Heather shares the core principles of Calling in “The One” and Consciou...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather Garbutt speaks with Prem Glidden , coach and author of Opening to Possibility: Becoming Available to Love and Be Loved , about what it really means to become available for love. Together they explore how early-life messages like “I’m not lovable” can quietly shape adult dating and relationships, why “chemistry” can sometimes be a trauma sig...

In this heartfelt episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather Garbutt is joined by Cătălina Popoveniuc, a Romanian psychotherapist with 23 years of experience supporting survivors and thrivers of narcissistic abuse. Catalina shares her own lived journey from surviving a narcissistic family system and multiple narcissistic relationships to reclaiming her voice and building a life that feels b...

A hundred episodes in, and their hearts are full. To celebrate this milestone Heather is joined by her dear friend Monica, who turns the tables and is host for the 100th episode of Revolutionside Your Love Life. They look back at the most transformative themes, the letters you have sent, and the shifts that happen when we treat ourselves with care and choose love from our adult self. They talk abo...

In this heartfelt conversation, host Heather Garbutt welcomes coach Jessica Yip , a Calling in The One and True You Coach who helps high-achieving people trade old stories for living, breathing love. Jessica shares the belief that shaped her early life, 'I am alone', and how integrity, self-responsibility and learning to receive transformed her dating and her partnership with Trevor. Together they...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather Garbutt welcomes relationship and self-awareness coach Lisa Hawkins to explore the idea of the “picker” - the often unconscious part that chooses romantic partners.  Through candid life stories, Lisa illustrates how chemistry can be a signal of familiarity rather than health, how covert and overt abuse can masquerade as niceness, and why bu...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks with therapist Lou Lachman about how early attachment experiences shape adult relationships and self-connection. Lou shares their history of rotating caregivers within a cult, how that fracture in attachment led to people-pleasing and self-erasure in love, and the practices that now support authentic relating. They discuss the fawn re...

Welcome to this festive episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life. Christmas can stir up pressure to couple up, say yes to the wrong person, and slip back into old family roles. In this solo, Heather shares a grounded guide to intentional dating through the holidays, how to spot values you can build a relationship on, and how to stay in your calm, capable adult self at family gatherings. She closes...

In this rich and practical conversation, success and money blocks coach Shilleen Wilson explores how our subconscious worthiness set point quietly dictates what we allow in love and money. Heather and Shilleen look at why we repeat patterns, how tests show up just before a breakthrough, and the powerful link between safety, savings and secure attachment. You will learn how to set a clear intention...

In this third conversation with Daniel Ryan (“That Family Law Guy”) on Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks to Daniel on how UK family court proceedings affect children during divorce and separation. Daniel describes two common harms: children either knowing far too much about parental conflict or being kept entirely in the dark for months or years. Together they discuss the absence of emo...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, I am joined again by Daniel Ryan where we explore how many fathers are sidelined in UK family courts. Daniel shares how set up and procedure can disadvantage dads, the rise of parental alienation and lawfare, and why children need time rich relationships with both parents. We compare burdens of proof, discuss legal aid disparities, the misuse of pol...

In this episode of Revolutionise your podcast, Heather talks to Daniel Ryan to explore how vulnerable mums are treated in family court, what the court recognises as domestic abuse, and the stark difference between criminal court and family court. Daniel explains coercive and controlling behaviour under the Domestic Abuse Act 2021, the burden of proof on the balance of probabilities, and why hearin...

In this nourishing episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks with deep mind transformation expert Cathy Hargreaves about what self love really is, how to recognise it, and how to grow it in everyday life. Cathy shares how early messages shape our self worth, why kindness outperforms criticism, and how the smallest acts of care create powerful positive feedback loops. Together they of...

In this heartening episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather welcomes relationship and self awareness coach Lisa Hawkins to explore how our bodies guide us in dating. Lisa shares how a calm surface can hide clenched fists and jaw, why the nervous system is drawn to what is familiar, and how to retrain it towards healthy connection. Together they offer gentle, practical steps to build consci...

In this soulful and enlightening conversation, Heather is joined by nutritional therapist and well-being expert Laura de la Harpe. We dive into the deep waters of midlife transition - exploring the powerful emotional and physiological changes that unfold during menopause and andropause. Together, we uncover why so many relationships falter during these years and how understanding, support, and awa...

In this nourishing episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather sits with Nutritional Therapist Laura de la Harpe to make sense of menopause and perimenopause in everyday terms. They explore common symptoms, why they happen, and the simple, kind choices that help you feel more like yourself. Expect practical food ideas, stress soothing, sleep wisdom and thoughtful guidance on tests, HRT option...

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life , Heather is joined by webinar expert Paul Jordan to demystify the world of online webinars for coaches, therapists and heart-centred entrepreneurs. With warmth and clarity, Paul shares how webinars can offer a powerful way to build connection, establish trust and gently guide potential clients toward meaningful work. They explore the fears that so m...

In this deeply personal and illuminating episode, Heather Garbutt welcomes Melinda Jacobs - a clinical hypnotherapist, trauma-informed coach and spiritual teacher - for an exploration of love, identity, and neurodiversity. Melinda shares her late-in-life autism diagnosis and how years of masking shaped her sense of self, relationships, and nervous system. Together, they delve into the experience o...

In this heart-opening conversation, Heather Garbutt speaks with Lisa Hawkins, relationship and self-awareness coach and founder of Consciously Awake Counselling. Together, they unpack the misconceptions surrounding self-love and explore what it truly means to honour all parts of ourselves—even the ones we’d rather avoid. Lisa shares her personal and professional wisdom on how self-abandonment, oft...