Relationships Let's Talk About It!

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Shame. Shame involves an internalized feeling of being exposed and humiliated. Shame is different from guilt. Shame is a feeling of badness about the self. Hidden shame...

Shaun Rawls - is highly sought-after keynote speaker and author of "F"-IT-LESS -   Rawls spent 25 years working in real estate, ultimately building Atlanta's #1 residential real estate firm, The Rawls Group of Keller Williams. Having met many of his professional goals, Rawls made a deliberate choice to shift his attention out of the daily operations of his firm and into new ways he could add even...

It can be difficult to be in a relationship if you don't have a great deal of self-love. Remember that self-love is important for enjoying a happy, healthy, and respectful relationship. When you are secure, confident, and feeling good about yourself you feed positive energy into the space between you. One's relationship with oneself is crucial to proper development. In this episode, I have a conve...

Agreeing to disagreeing may be essential in our relationships. We also need to know to how to work effective compromises when we differ. Getting away from the negative mindset of "right" and "wrong" is essential. Disagreeing in fact is beneficial in healthy relationships if done correctly. Disagreeing can provide an opportunity to address issues, get insights and understandings and most of all can...

In this solocast I talk about some red flags to be aware of in your relationships. Not every red flag a sign that the relationship won't work, but understanding your non-negotiable one will help you to understand whether to stick around or not. So it is important to understand the difference workable differences and non- negotiables. Recognizing our own relationship patterns is key. Do you find yo...

Many people don't realize but colors can have an effect on our moods, emotions and therefore on our relationships. Color is an immediate form of non-verbal communication. Color association is also dependent on people's innate feelings and experiences, and can have subconscious effects on their decision making as well having influence on how people relate to one another. In this episode I have a co...

In this solocast I talk about the importance of your thoughts and how they create the reality of your relationships. The way we think about our relationship and our partner matters. When we start to have judgmental and critical thoughts of our partners we tend to "see" more of this behavior which solidify these beliefs. We need to look at our partners from a different "lens", one of more positive...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Adult tantrums, especial mantrums (male tantrums). We have uncontrolled outburst and expressions of anger. Adult temper tantrums can be sometimes be used as a mechanism...

Many people have never truly felt seen and heard before, which can be isolating and lonely. When you are deeply seen for who you are, the gift of feeling comfortable in your own skin can emerge. "Circling" is a communication technique and tool to help you learn how to get into another person's world in a way for them to feel more deeply heard, seen and understood. In this episode, I have a convers...

Separation and Divorce can be an emotional difficult time. The emotions of sadness, anger, grief and fear are typically experienced.   Most divorces are rife with conflict among separating and divorcing partners. It takes a tremendous toll not only on the people divorcing but also their children, family and friends. Is it possible to have a healthy divorce? One that honors not only each person but...

The public health crisis of addiction and overdoses continue to rise. Fentanyl poisoning now ranks No.1 on the biggest list of killers of 18-45 yr. olds in the United States, for the last three years by a wide margin. Destigmatizing mental illness and addiction is crucial to empower those suffering to reach out for help. Many people do not understand and also fail to educate themselves on the impo...

What does it mean to have your partner's back? The feeling of emotional safety and the knowing that you can rely on your partner in many ways, especially at time of stress, overwhelm and crises is a cornerstone to this support and safety. Relieving each other's "load" and lending support is a hallmark of healthy dependence. Emotional safety is also taken away and eroded when partners don't have ea...

We all have held on to conflicts, resentments, arguments, grudges, and anger. The decision of whether to bring up and try to resolve a conflict is a tricky one. When is the right time? How should you do it? What if your partner is not open to talk about it? Is it healthy to just let it go and move on? And if you decide to let go of a conflict, what do you do instead? In this episode I have a conve...

Have you ever felt controlled in your relationship? Or have you been accused of being controlling? Do you think you know the best way to do to do things? At the root of most relationship control issues is fear: fear of rejection, fear of being wrong, fear of vulnerability, fear of abandonment, fear of things going wrong. Also, anxiety is widely considered to be the underlying common denominator of...

Have you ever felt not heard or seen by your partner or others? Like the times you believe you are clearly communicating something but the other person does not acknowledge what you are saying, doesn't understand you, or for that matter disregards you and your wants and needs. Or what about when you hold back your truth or something you need because you are concerned of hurting the other person. A...

This world is desperately in need of healthy masculinity and all men owe it to themselves to do the work to bring that into fruition. One way is for men to be honest with themselves about their own feelings, needs and desires and to be able to communicate this in connecting and accountable ways. This is a daily practice, one that will lead to intentional self-growth and commitment to change and th...

Feeling Like A Fraud? Understanding The Imposter Syndrome. "I feel like a fake". "I must not fail". "I just got lucky". "I hope nobody ever finds out who I really am". If this is some of your inner dialogue, you may be experiencing the phenomenon, "The Imposter Syndrome". Don't worry you are not alone. Studies show that an estimated 70% of people experience these impostor feelings at some point in...

Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident Most people do not have a good way to process the conflicts and fights after the fact. Typical attempts not only fall flight but most of the time spiral right back into the unproductive and disconnecting experience instead of healing and connecting ways. In this episode my wife Yvonne Rainbow and I explore ways we have and do handle the aftermath of fig...

In this solocast I talk about the importance of everyday transitions. We have so many of them throughout our day; waking up, leaving the house, coming home, going to sleep, etc. How do you interact with your loved ones during these moments? When we prioritize "showing up" and being present, our connection in those moments feed not only the energy of our interactions but the level of intimacy of ou...

Love Addiction Moe Bruce is passionate about investing in deep and meaningful connections and intimacy, engaging with others, building relationships, and being present in the moment. For 20 years, she has been a coach and consultant for CEOs and global leaders in large and small international organizations and has built profound connections with strangers throughout America and Europe. She's alway...

HeartShare: The Art of Being Alone With Yourself To Better Your Relationships In this solocast I talk about the importance of being comfortable with our own company. This is the place we find ourselves remembering what it's like to be the person we truly are. In being alone we become the witness as well as the gatekeeper of our thoughts and feelings and by doing that get in touch with our inner fe...

In this episode I have a conversation with divorce attorney Jim Siemens. Most people don't do the endings of a relationship well. They usually leave a legacy of hurt and damage instead of one of healing and inspiration. We discuss the importance of ending a relationship or marriage in a healing manner. There are many lessons in endings. Your lessons come through the choices you make, and your choi...

Relationships have their own cycles and phases, somewhat like the seasons in nature. Some of those seasons can be romantic, playful, connecting, family focused, deep understanding. Other seasons can be one of disconnection, grief, lack of understanding. And since we are part of nature our relationships can coincide with the seasons of nature. Each of the four seasons can bring out different energi...

"Our life is a story", yet some of our individual stories that we tell ourselves also limit us which can therefore reinforce our core limiting beliefs of ourselves as well as others in our lives. These stories may have originated in childhood   or conditioned by society and have stayed with us throughout our lives. Some of the stories we tell ourselves do serve us, yet there are those that hold us...

Life is becoming busier and busier. The further society progresses, the more it seems that we have more to juggle: work, family, friends, education, health, finances, Netflix series, mortgages. Between these and many other modern-day distractions, it's difficult for many of us to put effort into our relationships - and easy to say, "I don't have time!" I get it. But we have to understand that cult...