Relationship Rewired

Your partner is not willing to change and this problem is making you miserable; what now? Do you want more valuable information from Heather? Click here to read her blog!

Think about the time when things between you and your partner were at their best. Were they really good? Or was it never really good?

You've hoped that love would be enough. You've tried to accept things as they are. And you've agonized over the possibility of leaving. Now you're ready to face the choice that's been weighing on your heart. Click here to download Unlock The Key To Having Healthy & Loving relationships.

We cannot begin to work on ourselves, live a healthy life, and have healthy relationships until we stop obsessing about other people and their problems. Attachment is becoming overly-involved, hopelessly entangled, excessively worried, and, yes, even obsessed. Click here to download a number of freebies Heather offers to help codependents get off the roller coaster from hell. To read Heather's blo...

Inner child work and healing is the quickest and most powerful way to affect therapeutic change in people. I believe this with 100% conviction in my heart, I guide people through it and have witnessed their transformations time and time again.

Download the FREE workbook that goes along with this episode by clicking here, now. Life has meaning under all circumstances, including the most undesirable. We have the freedom and responsibility to answer the demands life presents to us. A person that has a “why” to live can bear any “how.”

Click here to download the FREE PDF from this week's episode! As we work on changing our codependent thoughts and behaviors, it can help to intentionally repeat healthier thoughts that support us in improving our self-esteem, taking better care of ourselves, and building relationships based on mutual trust and respect.

Codependents suffer from guilt because they have unrealistically high expectations for themselves, are people-pleasers and worry about what others think of them, are sensitive to criticism, and are afraid of conflict and rejection. Click here to download your free Conquering Codependency PDF. Learn more about codependency and 3 tools to help you begin to change your interactions in relationships.

Codependency at its core is the disconnection from self. We don’t understand where we end and another person begins. Click here to download the Codependent Bible and learn which patterns and characteristics you identify with the most. Awareness is the first step to healing, codependency. 

Affirmations helped change my life. There are two secrets you must know so they work for you, not against you.

Respect me, my time, my flaws, my family, & I will be the most loyal, loving, & giving person with every ounce of my being.

A healthy and loving relationship is mutually supportive and fosters the greatest amount of psychological and spiritual growth for both individuals.

The presence of fear says you are relying on your faith and when you surrender your fear to the inner guidance system & a higher power is when you will be guided.

When my clients come to me they have doubt and trust, love and hate; the bring me all their duality, and my job is to teach them how to be non-dual.

What Are Boundaries? Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others.

Anxiety causes massive discord in relationships. There are 3 types of anxiety that effect a relationship. We are going to go through all three on this podcast!

Every time we do something that goes against the beliefs we were taught we feel guilty, we punish ourselves by feeling shameful. The victim carries the guilt, the shame, and the blame in a backpack. That victim reaches into their backpack and smears the crap they have been carrying for a lifetime all over themselves every time they feel they did something wrong, or wasn't good enough, smart enough...

The more you know about your partner's emotional history, the less likely you are to see your partner as your adversary.

When people describe their idyllic first weeks, they describe a perfect world. They felt better about themselves. They had more energy and more positive outlooks on life. They felt wittier, more playful, more optimistic. In the beginning, each partner's goal is to appear less needy and more giving than they really are.  If they don’t seem to have many needs of their own, their partners are fr...

Stop trying to control what is not your business to control, someone else, and fix what is not in your power to fix. What you're trying to control is much better off without your "help." What you're trying to fix in a partner can't be fixed by you anyway. The only that will happen is your relationship will get worse and worse.  We cannot be our fearful patterns, our dysfunctional habits, our...

Conflict can bring you closer if you choose to approach it as a way to know your partner more, you can bring deeper intimacy and a stronger relationship through any disagreement.

Sex, how often do couples have it? Who initiates sex? What about rejection? What's the difference between intimacy and sex? Sex and kids? Oh boy! I teach my clients how to be a perceptive partner. This is the beginning of bringing intimacy and sex back into your relationship.  Men have sex to get emotionally closer. Women need to feel emotionally close to have sex. This is a challenge. If you...

What is emotional mastery? What are the 3 decisions that control your life? Why do we settle? Change happens when staying the same is harder than change itself! https://heather-carteroys.mykajabi.com/highestpotential

You must release your past, and live in the present, so you can create an amazing future.

What is your threshold for pain? How long are you willing to be disrespected in your relationship before you say, "enough." I find that many of my clients are denying what is right in front of them. We do this for many reasons. I discuss all of them on this episode!