Relationship Rewired

Growing up in a troubled, unhealthy, or dysfunctional family is very painful. So to survive, the True Self, the vulnerable side, the child within, went deep into hiding in the unconscious part of itself. As we grow, we become all about achieving instead of being. We wear masks, try to fulfill ourselves with things outside of ourselves, and fail. As our relationships collapse, our energy depletes,...

Is there anything you can't get over? Yes and no. You don't get over it, but you might find a different place to put it.  You don't forget it, but the thought no longer intrudes.  You don't pretend it wasn't bad, but you have a sense that you can heal.  We don't get over the past. We get past it. Listen to the audio from my membership program Conscious Creators on Forgiveness, "I am...

The codependent and anxious preoccupied suffers excruciating pain with a narcissist or fearful-avoidant. In this episode, you will learn the goal of the manipulator and the manipulation tactics they use to keep you in line and control. You don't want to miss it! Visit my website to set up your free initial call; are you ready to say "no more" yet? www. HeatherCatherineCarter.com

There are four major types of narcissism, and all share one common core trait. In this episode, you will learn about all 4 types and not only the common trait but the differences between each type so you can spot them. If you are ready to break free from the narcissist and heal, click here to set up your free 45-minute clarity call.

Covert narcissists are in the clothing of fathers, mothers, partners, friends, family members, and coworkers. NPD is not expressed the same way in every individual, but there are typical patterns that are very common. If you hear many or most of these attitudes and behaviors in a person you know, you're probably dealing with someone who suffers—and makes others suffer—with covert narcissism. Click...

This is the audio I use in my course, "How To Unlock Your Attachment Style," to teach you how to create, utilize, and put boundaries in place! Part of healing your attachment style and creating healthy, loving, and successful relationships is learning to use your personal power to keep yourself calm, and boundaries are the most significant part of taking your power back. Honoring yourself is the k...

Your personality develops from infancy throughout your lifetime. Yes, we have innate abilities and characteristics, but our programmers (parents, peers, teachers, society) have the most impact on what we believe about ourselves and life. Our protector/controller observes our environment and determines which behaviors will work best and please the most amount of people. We create reactions to our e...

Is your partner selfish? Selfish people tell others how selfish they are, but selfishness is when you demand that other people cater to your feelings, wants, and needs. You cannot be in a good relationship/marriage while catering to a selfish partner. It's not your partner's lies or selfishness that will destroy you; it's the lies you tell yourself. Grab a pen and paper for this episode; you will...

I get it; you care about your partner/spouse; of course, you do. When you care about your unhealthy partner and the unhealthy relationship, you might get defensive, react in toxic and unhealthy ways to bad behavior, but you need to care as much about your mental health as you care about the person that is causing your emotional health to suffer. Do not miss this podcast if you are in an unhealthy...

People use belittling tactics to evade, deflect, and gaslight their partners. In this podcast, I am teaching you all the ways a toxic person gets you to do what they want by belittling you; often, you don't even know it. Would you like to learn more about Conscious Creators? Click here for your 30-day free trial!

Criticism has tremendous power and can be devastating to our developing sense of self. It becomes the truth of who we believe we are. People that are still wounded from the negative criticism they received as a child are not only extremely hard on themself; their inner critic is brutal, they're also very hard on others. People report being nervous around them. Their partners feel like they're walk...

Are there different levels of narcissism? YES! What about codependents? Yes! The main difference between a codependent and narcissist is that the CD is consciously aware of their pattern, loneliness and that something is wrong. Alone, both will always feel incomplete, unsatisfied, and lonely. Together, they can forget what is wrong with and what they dislike about themselves. They have escaped sha...

Can you heal in a relationship? Can an anxious preoccupied, and dismissive-avoidant find lasting and healthy love? Is dependency healthy? What's the difference between the codependent and the anxious preoccupied? What's going on with the fearful-avoidant? What does a secure attachment style look like? Click here to learn more about healing your attachment style and going from insecure to secure!

Do you or your partner make ultimatums? For example, do either of you say things you regret saying like, "I want a divorce," "You don't care about me," "I want to break up." Of course, no one is ever proud of this behavior but when in pain, your attachment style gets activated, and what the other person does or doesn't do triggers your reaction. Eventually, the crisis will pass, but it will end if...

Dating is not easy; dating the opposite attachment style is a disaster. Adults show patterns of attachment to their romantic partners very similar to the attachment they had with their parent/s; other events come into play, too. When two people form an intimate relationship, they regulate each other's psychological and emotional well-being. One must stop confusing love and passion for an activated...

What's lacking in your life? The relationship you desire, the career you dream of, is your bank account always hovering near zero? If you're open to looking at old ways that haven't worked and learning how to implement new strategies that do, then listen now. Here is the link to learning one of the new strategies, gratitude. Click here to learn. more and sign up before it's too late.

The way we think, the way we feel, the way we act becomes so routine we no longer put our attention on what we are doing or what we want. We keep acting and reacting and behaving in a certain way that brings in more negativity, more angst in relationships, more of what we don't want, but we expect different results. And that is insanity. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and...

You elevate your life by taking responsibility for who you are and what you are choosing to become. Most people are already suffering, and they continue to hold onto useless suffering by staying stuck in unhappy, toxic, dysfunctional relationships, careers they hate, with disrespectful, commandos, or uninvolved bosses, and in turn, they are always wishing and wanting but never having. Why not opt...

In every relationship there are two halves to the relationship; you and the other person. The only half you are responsible for is your half. The minute you try to be responsible for the other half is the precise moment the relationship begins to deteriorate. What causes this desire to be responsible for your partner's half? Tune in to find out. This episode has the ability to change the trajector...

Conflict in a relationship is normal. But when the conflict becomes personal and causes emotional turmoil, it can end the marriage or relationship. In this episode, I discuss the 20 conflicts I see the most in relationships. Do not miss this episode! To book your free call to see if I can help save your marriage or help you through the conflict, click here now.

Longing is at the root of relationship problems. It spins off from four different mindsets: 1. Reality is not the way we want it. 2. We want somebody or something to change. 3. We believe we are responsible to bring about change in someone or something. 4. We want to protect or rescue someone. Longing is an obsession. You don't know what you can do if anything, but you desperately want to control...

To make a sound decision about whether to leave your relationship or stay, you need to go from tunnel vision to a broader spectrum. Today you will learn precisely how to see the big picture so you can leave relationship ambivalence behind and either seek help to stay or go. For more information about me, to read my blog, or to book a call visit my website: www. HeatherCatherineCarter.com Or you ca...

Woundology validates your suffering but many take their suffering and victimhood to such a high level it keeps them stuck. Eventually, this person finds a "wound mate." Then it gets ugly. You are free to choose victimhood or healing. You are free to live an abundant life or one that is full of stress and anxiety. The choice is yours. To book a free consultation click here.

If you're trying to decide what to do with an iffy relationship, you want to avoid two mistakes: You want to avoid leaving when you'd really be happiest staying. You want to avoid staying when you would be happiest leaving. The DIY course Tackling Toxic Relationships: Rebuild YOU! has been released. I have a special discount for my podcast listeners; use POD25 to take 25% off the course. Click her...

One of the most pervasive myths is that we are entitled to a great life. That somehow, somewhere, someone (not us) is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness, exciting career opportunities, wonderful family time, and blissful personal relationships simply because we exist. The real truth is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live. That pers...