Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild

Send us Fan Mail Submit a Dear Katie question about your relationship You planned the trip. You saved it to your phone for months. You told yourself this was the one that would bring you back together. And then you got there, and somehow felt more alone than you do on a regular Tuesday at home. If that sounds painfully familiar, you're not alone, and this week's Dear Katie letter is proo...

Send us Fan Mail Ever start "just trying to give some feedback" and end up in a full-blown fight before you even know what happened? You're not alone, and it's not because you're bad at communicating. It's because most of us never learned the difference between feedback your partner asked for and feedback they didn't. In this episode, Katie sits down with psychol...

Send us Fan Mail You've mastered the art of keeping the peace. But at what cost? If you've ever caught yourself calculating whether it's the "right moment" to bring something up with your partner, checking his mood, replaying how last time went, deciding it's just not worth the fallout, this episode is for you. This isn't about your conflict-avoidant partner (Kat...

Send us Fan Mail You resolved the argument. So why do you still feel terrible? You came to an agreement. You compromised. You closed the tab on yet another disagreement and still walked away feeling cold, distant, and vaguely like you won the argument but lost something that actually mattered. Sound familiar? In this episode, Katie breaks down one of the most misunderstood distinctions in long-ter...

Send us Fan Mail Can a marriage actually survive an affair and come out stronger? Most people assume the answer is no. But marriage and family therapist Amanda Deverich, author of Affair Repair , has spent years walking couples through one of the most painful experiences a relationship can face — and what she's found might surprise you. In this episode, Katie sits down with Amanda to break do...

Send us Fan Mail Learn about the Weekly Reset Are you sabotaging your relationship without even knowing it? Most couples who end up stuck aren't selfish or uncaring — they're exhausted, busy, and running on autopilot. Somewhere between the kids, the career, and the endless to-do lists, they stopped doing the small things that actually keep a relationship alive. And nobody ever told them...

Send us Fan Mail Learn about the Weekly Reset When is the last time you and your partner had a real conversation — not about the kids, the schedule, or what needs to happen this week? If you're struggling to answer that, you're not alone, and you're not failing. You're just caught in a pattern that almost every high-achieving couple falls into sooner or later. In this episode,...

Send us Fan Mail Have you looked at your partner lately and thought, "I don't even recognize us anymore"? You're not alone and it's not a sign that your marriage is on the rocks. In this episode of Relationship Reset , Katie shares a story about a couple who independently, without ever comparing notes, said almost the exact same thing in her office: "I don't real...

Send us Fan Mail What happens to your relationship when your body starts changing in ways you don't recognize — and neither does your partner? Perimenopause is one of the most under-discussed transitions in a long-term relationship, and it doesn't just affect the woman going through it. It affects both of you. In this episode, Katie sits down with Lauren Tuttenbaum — licensed psychothera...

Send us Fan Mail Something quietly disappeared from your relationship — and chances are, you didn't even see it go. It wasn't the big blowup. It wasn't a dramatic turning point. It was something smaller, slower, and way more dangerous. In this episode, Katie sits down with Dr. Margaret Cochran — transpersonal psychologist, licensed clinical social worker, and 25-year clinical vetera...

Send us Fan Mail Are you keeping the peace… or just keeping quiet? There's a conversation you've been meaning to have for weeks. Maybe months. You know the one. And every time the moment comes, something stops you — the timing's not right, the weekend was good, you don't want to start something. So you let it go. Again. In this episode, Katie breaks down conflict avoidance — wh...

Send us Fan Mail You don't have to be falling apart for something to be off.  In this episode, Katie gets personal — sharing what she noticed in her own marriage when life looked perfectly fine on the outside but felt quietly hollow on the inside. This is the episode for the couple who keeps saying we're fine while something in the gut whispers but are we, really? Katie unpacks what auto...

Send us Fan Mail You moved to another country, fell in love with a new version of life — maybe even a new version of your partner — and then something shifted. You came back different. They came back different. And nobody warned you that reentry might be the hardest part of the whole adventure. In this episode, Katie sits down with Naomi Hathaway, founder of the viral I Am a Triangle movement and...

Send us Fan Mail What if five words could completely change how you fight? You know that moment — you've said something sharp in the heat of an argument, and at 2am you're staring at the ceiling wondering... did I actually mean that? This episode dives into one of the most common (and costly) patterns Katie sees in long-term relationships: when our feelings stop being information and sta...

Send us Fan Mail Join the 90 Day Connection Reset When was the last time you felt truly seen in your relationship—not appreciated for what you do, but known for who you are? In today’s Dear Katie episode, we’re diving into a season that so many high-achieving couples quietly struggle through: perimenopause, shifting family roles, and the identity shake-up that comes with it. If you’ve spent years...

Send us Fan Mail Ever found yourself quietly wondering, “Should I stay… or should I go?” If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you’re not alone—and you’re definitely not broken for asking the question. In this honest, real-talk episode, Katie sits down with breakup and divorce coach Monika Braglewicz to unpack what it actually means to “save” a marriage—and what to consider if you’re thinkin...

Send us Fan Mail Learn More About the 90 Day Communication Reset You’re not arguing about the dishes. Or the laundry. Or who forgot to book the car appointment (again). If you’re really honest… it’s the same argument on repeat—just wearing a different outfit. In this episode, Katie breaks down why high-achieving couples keep having the same fight over and over—and why it has nothing to do with lov...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever looked at your partner and wondered, “Is it my relationship… or is it perimenopause?” If you’re a high-achieving woman in your 40s or 50s and suddenly feeling more irritated, less tolerant, or even questioning your relationship, you are not alone. And no—you’re not “losing it.” In this episode of Relationship Reset , Katie dives into a powerful truth that most people...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever fallen in love with someone from a different culture… and then realized love doesn’t automatically translate everything? International and bicultural relationships can be deeply romantic, wildly expansive, and—let’s be honest—unexpectedly complicated. In this episode of Relationship Reset , I sit down with Dr. Robin McKay, psychologist, international coach, and a wom...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever looked at your partner — the capable, steady, high-achieving person you built a life with — and thought, I know something is hurting them… I just don’t know how to reach it ? Maybe their childhood looked perfectly fine on paper. Two parents. Stable home. No obvious trauma. And yet, underneath it all, there’s something tender. Something that surfaces when stress hits....

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been mid-argument and suddenly thought, Oh no… I sound exactly like my mom ? Or maybe you shut down and realized, Wow. That was my dad 100% ? If you’ve been with your partner for 10, 15, 20 years, you already know this: most of your repeat conflicts aren’t just about dishes, schedules, or tone of voice. They’re about old survival strategies running quietly in the bac...

Send us Fan Mail If sex and intimacy have quietly slipped to the bottom of your priority list—and now feel awkward, pressured, or just… gone—you’re not alone. Many couples don’t start by saying, “We’re struggling sexually.” They say, “We feel disconnected,” “We’re resentful,” or “We’re basically roommates.” And here’s the truth: intimacy doesn’t fade in isolation. It fades when the core of the rel...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you’re doing all the work in your relationship—and your partner just… isn’t? In this Dear Katie episode of Relationship Reset , Katie reads a powerful letter from a listener who has been carrying the emotional, mental, and relational load for years. She’s been in therapy. She’s done the reflection. She’s managed the family system. Meanwhile, her husband’s untreat...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever started a conversation about something small—like the dishes—and somehow ended up questioning your entire relationship? You’re tired, it’s late, emotions are high… and suddenly it feels like everything escalated way faster than you expected. If that sounds familiar, you’re not broken—and your relationship isn’t failing. You’re just bumping up against something most o...

Send us Fan Mail Most couples don’t talk enough with other couples about what’s really happening in their relationship. And when we don’t? We start to believe we’re the only ones struggling behind closed doors. In today’s episode of Relationship Reset , Katie sits down with Josefine Wanner , a LinkedIn strategist, entrepreneur, and one half of a 25-year marriage that has weathered a lot : burnout,...