Relational Lives Podcast

In this episode we take an in-depth look at shame and its impact on relationships, mental health, and emotional wellbeing. Shame is a core but often hidden emotion that can shape how we relate to ourselves and others, driving patterns such as withdrawal, defensiveness, conflict, and people-pleasing. Drawing on trauma-informed therapy, attachment theory, and relational approaches such as Emotionall...

In this episode, Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist Silva Neves explores the unique dynamics of LGBTQ+ relationships, including the impact of societal pressures, discrimination, and minority stress on mental health and connection. We discuss how stigma and cultural expectations shape daily experiences for LGBTQ+ individuals and couples, and how these challenges can affect intimacy, identity,...

In this episode of Relational Lives, clinical psychologist Dr. Bryony Bamford breaks down how eating disorders impact relationships, especially when a loved one is in denial. We explore early warning signs, why denial happens, and how it affects communication, trust, and connection. Dr. Bamford shares practical advice on treatment options, how family and partners can offer meaningful support, and...

In this episode of the Relational Lives Podcast, we explore the mechanics of lasting love and meaningful connection. Building a healthy relationship doesn't happen by accident, it requires intentionality, emotional attunement, and the courage to communicate effectively. We discuss the latest research and expert insights to help you navigate the complexities of partnership. Whether you are in a new...

This episode explores the often-overlooked experience of the non-ADHD partner in relationships where ADHD is present. We unpack the emotional impact, such as feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or alone, alongside common challenges like communication breakdowns and imbalance in responsibilities. You’ll gain practical strategies for coping, improving connection, and building a more supportive, understandi...

This episode explores what it’s really like to be in a relationship as a partner with ADHD, including the emotional and relational challenges that often go unseen. We unpack common ADHD traits in relationships, how they impact communication, connection, and conflict, and offer practical strategies to build self-awareness and create positive change. Ideal for anyone navigating ADHD in relationships...

Most of us want to believe that when we start a relationship, we’re beginning with a clean slate. But the truth is, we all bring "uninvited guests" into our partnerships, old hurts, family patterns, and painful memories that we thought we’d left behind. In this episode, we’re opening up about a new direction for the show. We’re stepping away from general advice to focus on the messy, high-stakes r...

Constantly nagging or feeling 'never good enough' in love? ADHD's hidden role in relationships explained—bridge the neurotypical clash now." ADHD suspicions (diagnosed or not) disrupt partnerships silently. Hosts Ali and Ros reveal therapy insights: why ADHD brains spark friction beyond "lazy" labels, and proven bridges to deeper connection. 00:00 Understanding ADHD in Relationships 01:20 The Impa...

Struggling to communicate because childhood never taught you how? Or maybe you're outgrowing your partner? Ali and Ros explore real listener dilemmas in this 'Dear Therapists' episode of Relational Lives. 00:00 Exploring Communication Patterns in Relationships 02:25 Understanding the Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships 05:23 The Role of Awareness in Communication Challenges 08:12 The Conseq...

What happens when your partner’s brain is wired differently than yours? In this episode, hosts Ali and Ros explore the unique dynamics of neuro-mixed (or neuro-distinct) couples, where one partner is on the autism spectrum and the other is neurotypical. We move past the stereotypes to look at the daily reality of loving across neurological lines, offering a roadmap for couples looking to bridge th...

In this episode, relationship therapist Catherine Topham Sly shares insights on rekindling intimacy after having children, addressing the emotional and physical challenges couples face, and practical tips for reconnecting. 00:00 Introduction to Catherine Topham Sly 01:32 Catherine's Journey into Relationship Therapy 05:29 The Impact of Parenthood on Relationships 11:34 Navigating Sexuality and Int...

In this episode, we explore what it really means to feel “triggered” and why some reactions in the present are powered by unhealed moments from the past. We look at how triggers show up in the body and nervous system, how they’re shaped by earlier relationships, and why they can feel so fast and overwhelming. You’ll hear practical ways to spot your own triggers, pause before reacting, and respond...

In this episode, we’re joined by Monica Tanner, host of Secrets of Happily Ever After, to explore the myths that quietly shape our expectations of marriage. We dive into what actually helps couples communicate more openly, rebuild intimacy, and create relationships grounded in mutual respect. If you’ve ever questioned the “rules” you’ve been taught about love, this conversation offers a refreshing...

In this episode of Relational Lives, the hosts explore what it really means to listen, and to feel heard, in our relationships. They unpack the idea of ‘holding space’ for one another, the subtle barriers that get in the way of meaningful communication, and the difference between simply hearing and truly being present. Blending personal stories with professional insight, they reflect on how differ...

In this episode, Ros and Ali explore the vital role that boundaries play in our relationships, how they shape connection, protect well-being, and promote self-respect. They unpack what boundaries really are, the different forms they take, and why so many of us struggle to set or maintain them. Along the way, they consider the influence of family dynamics, workplace norms, and personal history, hig...

In this episode of Relational Lives, couples therapist Michael Preston opens up a thoughtful conversation about the inner emotional worlds of men in relationships. He reflects on the challenges men often face when trying to connect emotionally with their partners, and how cultural expectations can shape, and sometimes limit their capacity for vulnerability. Michael discusses the role of father–son...

✨This episode includes discussion of eating disorders, disordered eating, and body image. It may be distressing or triggering, especially if you are currently struggling. Please take care while listening and feel free to skip this episode if you need to. If you are affected by eating difficulties, consider reaching out to a GP or mental health professional, or contacting an eating disorder suppor...

In this episode, psychotherapists Ali and Ros unpack the often misunderstood experience of social anxiety. They explore what social anxiety really is, how it shows up in everyday life, and why so many people are struggling with it more since the COVID pandemic. The conversation looks at the impact of technology and social media, the role of early life experiences, and how anxiety can become a self...

In this episode, we sit down with Liz, who has recently discovered her ADHD diagnosis and is now re-examining her life through this new understanding. Liz candidly reflects on her journey, from childhood and education to her career and relationships, revealing how ADHD has shaped her experiences in ways she’s only now beginning to see clearly. Together, we talk about the relief and grief that can...

In this episode of Relational Lives, Ali and Ros explore how artificial intelligence is changing the landscape of therapy, mental health, and personal relationships. From ChatGPT offering relationship and mental health advice to AI-driven emotional support tools, they discuss real-world examples, personal experiences, and insights from a listener survey. The conversation tackles the big questions:...

In this episode of Relational Lives, hosts Ali and Ros explore the tender and universal experience of grief, the pain that accompanies the loss of those we love, whether human or animal. Together, they unpack the many faces of grief, from its emotional and physical expressions to the cultural stories that shape how we mourn. The conversation reminds us that grief is not a sign of weakness but a re...

In this episode, Ali and Ros explore what it really means to take accountability in relationships — or, as they put it, to “own your own shit.” They unpack how recognizing the impact of our actions and reactions can transform the way we connect with others, whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or at work. Using everyday examples — including the classic disagreement over how to load the...

In this episode, Ali and Ros unpack the connections between the sexual cycle and the relational cycle, offering insights into how emotional and physical intimacy mirror one another. They explore the distinction between responsive and spontaneous desire, how attachment patterns influence sexual connection, and why communication is at the heart of a satisfying sexual relationship. The discussion als...

In this episode, Ali and Ros unpack the mental load in relationships – the invisible emotional labour of planning, organizing, and remembering that often falls on one partner. They explore how this uneven cognitive and emotional load creates resentment, burnout, and feelings of inadequacy, while the other partner may feel criticised, confused, or like they can never get it right. Ali and Ros look...

Join Ali and Ros for a raw, heartfelt, and unscripted conversation as they look back on eight months and over 30 episodes of Relational Lives. In this special episode, the hosts pull back the curtain on their journey — from the shock of going viral on Shut Up & Talking (160,000+ views!) to building a podcast from scratch, all while navigating friendship, vulnerability, and the realities of bei...