Reflection by Abijah

This year, I’m not just celebrating another birthday. I’m celebrating growth. In this episode, I talk about what it means to treat your birthday like a rebirth and a fresh start. This isn’t just about getting older — it’s about evolving, healing, and honoring who I’ve become. I share 5 personal goals for this next chapter of life, from nurturing my spiritual walk and laying down old pain, to being...

In this episode, I’m revisiting the topic of knowing when to speak and when to stay silent. A recent conversation with my mom, along with my own experiences, reminded me that timing, connection, and a person’s willingness to receive make all the difference. There are moments when offering advice is needed, when our words come from a place of love and life experience. But there are also times when...

As I approach my 42nd birthday, I’m taking a moment to share 42 truths that have shaped the way I see myself and live my life. These reflections come from nearly three years of deep self-work, growth, and intentional living. In this episode, I talk about healing, boundaries, self-worth, spirituality, and the beauty of embracing who you truly are. Whether you're younger, older, or right here with m...

This episode is very personal to me. I’ve spent a lot of time feeling unworthy and carrying guilt, resentment, and believing I didn’t deserve good things. And I know I’m not alone in that. Unworthiness can be heavy. It can keep us in places we’ve outgrown and silence parts of who we are. In this episode, I’m sharing some truths that helped me begin to see myself again. I talk about how unworthines...

We’ve all heard it, you have to believe it to achieve it. But do positive affirmations actually work, or are they just words? In this episode, I explore the truth behind affirmations, the psychology that supports them, and my personal experience using them alongside visualization, breathwork, and action. Inspired by an ad featuring a young Black girl, this conversation asks: can affirmations shift...

Have you ever felt like life is just happening around you, but not with you? Like you’re just existing, not really living? In this episode, I share a conversation I overheard that reminded me how easy it is to let life pass you by and why I started showing up for myself with intention and purpose. If you’ve been feeling stuck or on autopilot, this one’s for you. Listen and Share: Your support mean...

In this episode, I explore what it means to live in the in-between where good and bad coexist. For as long as I can remember, even during the good times, there's been a quiet expectation that something might go wrong. I unpack this inner tension and ask: Why do we treat the bad as the enemy of the good? What if both can exist without cancelling each other out? Join me as I reflect on what it truly...

I reflect on my journey from avoiding therapy to finally embracing it. I talk about the fears, misconceptions, and internal resistance that kept me from seeking help and what changed. But that was only the beginning. Once I stepped into that space, I started to see myself more clearly. I uncovered patterns, emotional habits, and truths I hadn’t fully faced. This conversation is about the discomfor...

Superficial growth can look like progress, but it’s really just performance. In this episode, I unpack what it means to look healed without actually healing. From avoiding feelings to using positivity as a shield, I share how I mistook movement for growth until I got honest with myself. Let’s talk about how real growth starts when we stop performing and start doing the inner work. Listen and Share...

Have you ever felt like you're constantly shifting, pivoting with life’s changes, yet deep down you’re just tired? In this episode, I open up about the emotional weight of always trying to move forward—fighting doubt, fearing failure, and wondering if what you’re doing is truly being seen. This isn’t just about the hustle—it’s about purpose. I share why I continue to show up for this podcast, even...

Ever feel like you should have all the answers, but don’t? This episode dives into those stuck, uncertain moments we all face. It’s about embracing the unknown, releasing the pressure to have it all together, and giving yourself permission to grow through the process. If you’ve been feeling lost or overwhelmed, this one’s for you. Listen and Share: Your support means a lot to me. Feel free to shar...

In the hustle of adulthood, it's easy to lose sight of what brings us joy. Here, we take the time to reevaluate our lives, reconnect with our inner selves, and rediscover the art of play. In this episode, I provide you with questions to reintroduce and find time to play. This is an invitation to choose purpose over pressure and nourish the parts of us that have been quietly waiting to breathe agai...

Handling miserable people who test your patience can be challenging, but protecting your peace is essential. In this episode, we dive into setting boundaries, maintaining emotional balance, and understanding that someone else’s misery is not yours to carry. Their behavior is a reflection of them, not you. Let’s talk about how to stay grounded and navigate these interactions without losing yourself...

Many of us have heard this old-school saying, but it's meaning still holds true today. In this episode, we’re diving into the importance of speaking up for ourselves—whether it’s asking for what we need, setting boundaries, or advocating for our worth. Too often, we internalize frustration instead of expressing it, especially as Black women, who have historically been silenced or labeled unfairly...

Black women are leaving corporate spaces in pursuit of inclusivity, purpose, and a softer way of living. In this episode, we explore the motivations behind this shift and how to create a life that nurtures peace, prioritizes rest and self-care, builds financial stability, fosters fulfilling relationships, and embraces the beauty of everyday moments. Listen and Share: Your support means a lot to me...

More black women are questioning whether they want children, with many making the intentional choice to be child-free. In this episode, we explore the reasons behind this shift, including relationships, finances, career goals, mental well-being, and health concerns. Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions on miscarriages and outpatient procedures. Listen and Share: Your support means a...

Saying “I’m sorry” is just the first step. True accountability goes beyond words. In this episode, we’ll explore the power of empathy, giving others space to heal on their own terms, and why an apology isn’t about easing your guilt but making things right. Plus, we’ll discuss how to rebuild trust through action, communication, and genuine support. Listen and Share:Your support means a lot to me. F...

Inflation is hitting all of us, and it feels like our money isn’t stretching as far as it used to. In this episode, I’m breaking down how I budget, cut unnecessary expenses, and how I try to keep my stress low when it comes to finances. I’ll also share how I make passive income in a way that works for me but not to the point of burnout. And as we look ahead, let’s talk about what our financial fut...

In this episode, I’ll be unpacking the emotional weight of growth, the stress that comes with striving for more, and how we can navigate these moments without losing ourselves. If you’ve been feeling drained or stuck in a funk, you’re not alone. Let’s talk about how to find balance, protect our mental health, still moving forward, while using manifestation to align with our goals and create the li...

The future of our children’s education is uncertain. With talks of dismantling the Department of Education and shifting control to state and local levels, how will this affect education policies, resources, and opportunities for students? Will this bring more opportunity or create deeper disparities? Let’s unpack the possibilities and explore what truly benefits our children. Listen and Share:Your...

Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) have been a major topic in recent discussions, often centered around the workplace. But DEI impacts so much more such as our education, communities, and overall opportunities in life. In this episode, I explore what DEI truly means, how it affects identity, fairness, and access, and why many feel conflicted about its policies. Are DEI initiatives creating mor...

I grew up in a Black community with strong cultural influences that shaped how I saw other races. Now, at 41, I’m learning to challenge those biases and open up to friendships outside my race. In this conversation, you'll hear me referencing the white race quite a bit. During my youth, this was the primary group that was often discussed. While some may find the term "white race" offensive, my inte...

In this episode of Reflection by Abijah, I’m opening up about how my mental health journey and being an empath have shaped the way I connect with others. I’ve always felt deeply for people and their struggles, but now I’m focused on finding ways to help others while protecting my own peace. I’ll be sharing some techniques I’m using on this journey of balanced empathy and setting boundaries. Listen...

For me, intentionality means being present and making mindful, purposeful decisions. It helps me stay accountable and adaptable, focusing on the journey rather than just the outcome. I’ve found that goals, while useful for providing direction, can sometimes feel rigid. When I don’t meet them, I start doubting myself. Intentionality, on the other hand, offers me more flexibility and an emotional co...

Have you ever stopped to think about the energy you bring into a space? How you show up can shape interactions just as much as the energy observed in others. When I walk into a room, I take a moment to reflect and not just on the energy around me but also on what I’m putting out. Am I open and approachable, or am I holding back? In this episode, I’m exploring how being mindful of one's energy help...