RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health

Sometimes we don't even realize something or someone in our lives is holding us back. But we should be considering this often. Why allow ourselves to be held back from a better life just because change is hard? Show Notes: A lot of times we end up holding onto things and not even realizing these are things that are holding us back. It doesn’t feel like bad things. It doesn’t feel like negativ...

Happiness is fleeting, depending on the season of life you're going through. Being authentically you is what holds strong & gets you through the tough times. You can be all of your emotions. You're not held to just happiness. Show Notes: T he older I get, the more I realize how complicated happiness is because it’s not the same for everyone & it can be experienced on varying degr...

We cannot settle for staying stuck where we are because of perceived & unreal threats & dangers that are based on past mistakes & failures. We need to stop letting fear hold us hostage. Show Notes: Fear is an illness. It’s a phrase I hear while watching the second season of The Witcher. A secondary character was sharing with the main character that she is afraid of what she could do to...

You have to make time for yourself. No one else is going to do it for you. You are responsible for you. Even if it means letting others down or needing to ask for help later, it's got to be done. Show Notes: I have a problem with setting some unreasonable expectations for myself. And a lot of those expectations are based on not wanting to disappoint others. Which gets me in some trouble becau...

How often are you feeling pride for something you've done or accomplished? We all deserve to be proud of ourselves, no matter how big, small or medium the task was. I'm here to chat about why it's important to be proud of yourself & how to be more proud of yourself. Show Notes: There always seems to be something in the way of feeling proud of myself. It’s the things I haven’t ac...

You will gain more freedom in your life if you make a continual effort to move forward, go after your goals & take action. Holding yourself for others doesn't do you any favors. I'm giving tips on how to move forward in your life! Show Notes: I’ve been dealing with a lot of very uncomfortable procrastination lately. It’s uncomfortable because I know what needs to be done, I really wa...

Just a quick reminder that you are not a burden. I'm sharing examples of things that do not qualify you as a burden, but just a normal person navigating life. Show Notes: I am just here to remind you that you are not a burden. You might feel like a burden to many people in your life, even having others tell you you’re a burden, but it doesn’t mean that you are. Being a burden can be seen as b...

Distractions are normally seen as bad things & time wasters. But I'm here to share with you how distractions can be really helpful & beneficial to your everyday life. Show Notes: There is power in distractions. And I mean a good kind of power. Most likely a power you never knew existed because distractions are always seen as bad things that we should avoid. But actually, distractions...

When you are in search of mental health support these days, many people will talk about being more mindful & establishing that as an everyday practice in your life. But what does it actually mean to be mindful? Let me fill you in! Show Notes: The way I think about mindfulness is the practice of being as present as you can in your life. Being present & being aware of how you’re feeling (see...

Everything that happens to us should be seen as lessons in life to make us stronger, not convince us how weak & shameful we should be. Today I am sharing 5 tips on how to not let your past define you. Show Notes: Do you spend a lot of time thinking about how something that happened in the past could have gone differently? I used to spend a ton of time really ruminating about the past, accompan...

Sometimes you just need a quick & dirty way to manage your emotions in the moment.  But there are behaviors that we tend to lean into that aren't very helpful to us, but are just more habit. I'm sharing a list of the best & worst behaviors, which ones need to go & which to lean into more. Show Notes: I love to talk about becoming more self-aware & understanding yourself b...

Instead of always piling the pressure on to be perfect or not allow yourself to be anything but the best, let's practice more self-compassion. I share with you how to shift your perfectionist thoughts into ones more focused on self-compassion. Show Notes: I’m sure there are many of us that struggle with being as compassionate to ourselves as we should be. I, myself, struggle with perfectionis...

Frustrations & inconveniences can be more than just annoying events in our lives. These can be opportunities for reaching out to others in a ministry fashion or just finding the silver lining & making the best of it. I am sharing 4 tips on how to deal with frustrations & not let these ruin your whole day! Show Notes: I’d be lying if I told you that I didn’t let the little things bother...

If you find yourself feeling like you always have to defend yourself or protect yourself from what others say, you might consider whether you struggle with defensiveness or not. Let's chat about how to depend less on defensiveness as a coping mechanism. Show Notes: Do you feel like people are always attacking you (verbally & emotionally, not physically) or inferring that you’re wrong? Or...

Let's chat about how important Mental Health Days are & some warning signs that we should take one as soon as possible. Show Notes: The culture we live in values work over well-being so much that it drives people to their unraveling. It’s terrible. And when someone wants to stand up for themselves & say it’s all too much, many employers will just find someone else who is eager to fill...

Mistakes are normal & natural, but it doesn't feel that way in the moment. This is for sure. Which is why I am providing a shortlist of tips that will help you navigate the way through making a mistake & getting out the other side feeling positive. Show Notes: I make mistakes all the time. We make mistakes all the time. It’s just a fact. And we don’t need to be afraid of this fact bec...

Stress can be helpful in many situations that will push you to keep going & create resilience that will benefit you in the future. But if you are taking on too much stress in your life, you can become out of touch with the symptoms of stress & allow it to pile on too high. I'm breaking down emotional, physical & behavioral symptoms to be aware of in this episode. Show Notes: Stres...

Let's all take a moment to consider whether indulging in FOMO is helping us become a better person or betting our lives. Let me help you answer this question & give you a few tips to not allow FOMO to rule your life. Show Notes: I spend way too much time on social media trying to keep up with everything that is going on because I don’t want to get behind. Now, it’s not a deep internal fea...

How often are you considering whether struggles are getting easier or more manageable? Probably not enough. But if we made time to evaluate this on the regular, we would have more understanding on what is great, what needs work & fostering hope that our lives can change for the better. Show Notes: We focus a ton on what we are struggling through & how difficult certain seasons of life are,...

No one can be positive all the time, but pushing yourself to be less negative & more in a positive direction while going through tough times makes a big difference & fosters resilience. Let me give you 5 quick questions to ask yourself next time you are struggling to lean more towards positivity than negativity. Show Notes: Everyone has to go through some negativity in their life. It’s jus...

Negativity is such an easy thing to get caught up in, especially if you have many people in your life that engage in that type of mindset. Which is why I'm giving you 6 tips on how to not get caught up in the web of negativity, which is just a black hole. Show Notes: I live in this mindset that I need to stand up for what is right & correct based on societal rules & what has been agre...

Lying to ourselves is something we do on the regular, whether we realize it or not. Let's chat about 5 common lies we tell ourselves & why these lies aren't helpful & how to handle those experiences differently. Show Notes: It’s super easy to lie to ourselves. It’s super easy to tell ourselves something isn’t happening, something isn’t affecting us, nothing is wrong or even that...

Faking your feelings can also be seen as wearing a mask. It’s an emotional mask, obviously, but it’s still a mask that is meant to cover up what is actually going on. Show Notes: There are so many reasons for you to put an emotional mask on. It could be your inability to trust people right now, history with not being believed in your feelings, shame & embarrassment, and many other reasons. And...

I have spoken many times about having boundaries with others, but I think it’s time we spoke about having boundaries with ourselves.  Show Notes: This might sound like a weird concept because it sounds like we would be limiting ourselves, which isn’t the message that is being passed around in today’s society. But actually, having limits & sort of a set of rules for yourself can help you feel s...

Sometimes you need a little more than just recognizing what you're grateful for & just choosing to be happy to get through the really tough days. I'm sharing 7 suggestions on how to power through those really tough days & make it a tiny bit easier on yourself. Show Notes: Not every day of our lives is going to be rainbows & sunshine. I think we all know this to be true. And I...