ReaLove

Whatever your spirituality, it is based on connection. Abuse aims to disconnect you. I am going to show you how to keep that connection in the face of spiritual abuse.

Based on who you are and who you desire to be, you can become reacquainted with yourself just in time to dream new dreams.

It’s time to be true to yourself, to love and trust yourself. Relearn to trust your instincts and judgement. You are strong, you are capable; now it’s time to believe it.

If you’ve been in a rut and have a compulsion to people please and “make things right” even if you haven’t done anything wrong, this one’s for you.

We are going to mentally detach from a focus on our abuser and their words and restructuring to focus on what we need and what we want.

It’s time to build yourself up, but that process is going to take some restructuring that honors your strengths and reflects the newfound love and respect you have toward yourself.

We’ve been through the pain, the mourning, the sadness....now it’s time to find beauty in our ashes.

People may have hurt you or failed you or been supportive. But I want to show you what to do with those ashes.

Growing Pains: no one likes the way they feel, but almost everyone likes the results. I share about how I grew through the adversity of abuse and learned to stand up for myself in a balanced way.

You are enough. Refuse to allow the criticism of others to define you. Recognize you are a masterpiece and take time to nurture and love your soul.

Have you ever felt as if others are trying to mold you into their perfect image or shove your passion in a jar. I hope this poem encourages you.

Today, I challenge you to think of what future you would say right now or in those hard times you really want to give up. You can do this!

Some of you have spent your whole lives not feeling good enough and desperate to prove that you are. I’m here to tell you that if you really enjoy it and are passionate, go for it! But if you’re not, STOP. Don’t exhaust yourself to prove anything to anyone. You are good enough just the way you are.

Coming from the treadmill this time, I discuss practical ways to heal and recover from abuse. And ...also I got cut off at the end, so I’m going to continue this one next time :)

You need to grieve the death of things. The death of what you hoped for your relationship. The death of your own personal dreams your abuser crushed. The death of friendships lost to abuse or the leaving process. I’m here to tell you, it’s ok to grieve:

I’m daring you to dream...just a little because I know it can be scary. But I believe in you and believe you can work towards and achieve your dream. Out of abuse we sometimes have to start completely over, and that’s the best time to DREAM.

It’s important to identify what you value, what’s important to you, and start learning to stand your ground. I believe in you. You can do this.

Venting helps, when it’s done well. There are ways to vent that preserve your relationships while also helping you confront and heal.

Sometimes the road is way too long and way too far, but all I’m asking you to do is Get Back Up. I believe in you. You can believe in you, and each time you fall, you CAN get back up!

When things are the worst and everything and everyone is going wrong, that’s when you need to believe in Yourself the most. A choice you need to make every day.

When you feel everything is shaken....you’re second guessing your decisions...and feel everything has fallen apart. You’re still worthy of love and respect and should not live with regret.

Some things people say hurt more than others, especially when you need support the most. Here’s how I worked through my hurt...

You are more capable than you thought possible. But most of us don’t realize it because we’re too scared to dream. We heard and believed too many negative things about ourselves from our abuser. But now, I’m daring you to dream and see what you’re capable of.

You are worthy of love and respect. I was soooo trapped in my abusive relationship but didn’t really know it. Not until I really believed I was worthy of love and respect.

I had a month of desperation when I was went through my live-in separation. It was horrible and challenging, but I found beauty in the pain that I’m sharing with you today.