RealClearFetish! Talks RealClearPlay!

Surprised BONUS Episode! With the authors of “Lust, Men and Meth: A Study Guide” - David Fawcett PhD, LCSW is a psychotherapist and sex therapist who specializes in the sexualized drug use, LGBTQ issues, trauma and mental health concerns related to physical illness, especially HIV/AIDS. He is the author of “Lust, Men and Meth: A Gay Man’s Guide to Sex and Recovery” which explores the intersection...

Meet Zach, a finance director in the charity sector by day and a content creator and kink-positive advocate by night.  He has been sober for several years, and recovery has given him the clarity, confidence and a much deeper sense of self.  His kinks include leather, breath play, power exchange and FF dynamics, all explored consciously and consensually.  Sobriety hasn’t muted his se...

Ed Firth is the portraitist and graphic novelist behind the Horny & High graphic novel series exploring addiction and romance in underground gay subcultures in 2010s Britain, published in a German translation by Männerschwarm in Berlin, and in the USA by NorthWest Press. His debut was shortlisted for the Myriad First Graphic Novel Prize and in 2022 he placed second in the Observer/Faber Short...

Self-admitting drunk, slut and unfit mother (according to his best friend) who fell quite literally into fisting, discovered a natural affinity with deep, so got a depth gauge tattooed on his ‘deep arm’ (accurate to 1/32nd of an inch.) Had way more than his ‘fair share’ of fist cherries and double cherries. Turned FF vers and, could take EVERYTHING he was give. Got clean from IV meth, ket & md...

Chipper is a Brooklyn-based Leatherman, Handler, and kink educator whose recovery journey reshaped every part of his life. A recovering crystal meth addict with 6 years and 10 months of continuous sobriety (at the time of recording), he began exploring kink privately while still using and later learned to rebuild healthier relationships with the practices he loved. Sobriety brought him out of the...

Jason, an interior architect and gallerist based in Sydney, with a career shaped by years of design work across global markets. His approach blends architectural precision with raw, emotional storytelling, a style influenced by his long-standing connection to fetish culture and the material honesty of leather. Originally from New Zealand, he relocated to Australia to expand his creative footprint...

Sampson Nightly is a sober-curious/adjacent sex worker living in San Francisco, specializing in sex education and helping men work through intimacy issues. Aside from a vast career in BDSM porn, he also works extensively in queer nightlife as a sex venue owner, gogo, DJ, and bartender, giving him a unique view into the world of queer substance abuse. After serving on state of Utahs board for HIV p...

Timo Rissanen was Sydney Mr Leather 2024 and represented Sydney at IML 47 in 2025. Professionally he is a fashion and sustainability scholar and a textile artist. Timo is a member of Sydney Leather Men Inc., MSC Finland, BLUF and Sydney Frontrunners. Queer and poly, he has been genderfucking in and out of leather since the 90s. He has been sober for 13 years. #RealClearFetishTalksRealClearPlay Mus...

Doctor Carlton is a gay GI doctor from San Diego, California who rose to notoriety with his queer sexual health and sex education platform on Instagram and Tik Tok. When MPOX struck our community, he used that platform to bring awareness and vaccination/ treatment help to tens of thousands of people and was named to the OUT100, Queerty Pride 50, National Association of Leather-International Presid...

Meet Nick, an ex Chemsex addict who is 10 years clean and sober. The leather scene was part of his life during his using days. Today when he engage in sober sex, he no longer has the desire for leather and kink. #RealClearFetishTalksRealClearPlay Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release] If you want to get in contact with Nick, Contact RealClearFetish! on Email: realclearfetish@gmail.com or DM us on...

Kell W Farshéa is an intersex nobinary trans femme dominant sadist. They have been an BDSMer for 40 years. In 1992 they founded the SM activist group Countdown on Spanner (1992-97) and the annual SMPride March (1992-2003). For 5 years they wrote a regular column for the pan-european tri-lingual SM-Fetish magazine Projet X. They have been sober for 36 years. #RealClearFetishTalksRealClearPlay Music...

Beau has been in the kink and fetish community for over 5 years; coming from a background where group environments felt scary or threatening, his journey into the community had been transformational. This has coincided with a reduction in drinking, and predominantly sober kink and fetish nights out. This, paired with being able to navigate new social groups, finding ways to feel safe, has given hi...

Some info about Chris - 35+ years sober leatherman and pup/handler; prostate cancer survivor and 2nd runner-up for Mr Fetish World 2025. His MFW project is a kink-inclusive healthcare program to show that we as fetishists and kinksters can have major health issues and still lead a fulfilling kink life. It is his hope to develop resources that we can use to educate and work with our healthcare prov...

Meet Max, some call him boy and/or puppy, He was born in Ukraine and was adopted by his wonderful Swedish parents when he was almost 3 years old, which meant he moved to Sweden. He finished high school in 2016, then got his first apartment and started his job that same year, working with dogs (the animal kind). He started his kink journey when he was around 16 and now has a daddy/partner in the US...

BLUFOfficer is a kinkster who has been part of the kink scene since 2013. His main gear preferences are uniform and leather and is always recognisable by the khaki uniform and riding boots at events. He is also autistic, having been diagnosed with Autism when he was young and in recent years, he has been determined to show that you can be both autistic and have a good time on the kink&nb...

For nearly a decade, Moshiel has commanded stages across the leather and drag worlds—entertaining, emceeing, and fundraising. A proud Sober Leatherman, he has also made his mark Off-Broadway as a writer and producer of the political spoof Five. He founded Punch, an inclusive fisting space, and played a key role in opening SoCal Leather to all by removing its gender honorific. Whether dazzling in d...

LTJ Reads is a leatherman, who was the first Mr. Austin Eagle in 2024 and part of IML Class 46. He is a writer/model/teacher who absolutely hates throwing shade in the LGBTQIA+ community. LTJ is a muscle stud who emphasizes good mental health and the use of brain power. He is most notable for his show, Throwing Light, which is an interview series that sheds light on tough topics and new ways...

From the Emmy award winning season of RuPaul‘s drag race season 15 Selena S titties has been hustling ever since her season, while also becoming the first drag queen to ever step foot into the American big Brother house. She has traveled the world, released an EP called homegirl and is now launched her own podcast called the Homegirl Hotline. She just celebrated 13 years of sobriety and is a pilla...

Rock (Stage name) has been sober for a year and three quarters - new year's 2023 was the rock bottom and started attending NA meetings. The same time Rock started his porn career, and Rock Biggs was born. The two are interlinked intimately and he probably wouldn't be here today if he didn't meet the people he did through porn, including his sponsor. Isolation, shame, and anxiety had to be kicked t...

Mark (LeatherAlphaSkin) London born and bred kinkster previous pup and pack owner. Lived in London till 2012 went out and did lots of London and European kink scenes. Been sober from chemsex since 2013. Now living in Scotland and regularly attend kink events and like to help new kinksters understand their way through kink and also advocate of safe play after the death of his first husband from sol...

John (Ginger Bear John) is a 45 year old married Leatherman in Southern California. Heavily involved in the kink community, in the role of a submissive, for many years clean and sober for almost 13 years. John is an accountant. Also an aspiring bodybuilder with his first content scheduled for Fall, 2025. Spare time is volunteering as treasuer/CFO for a nonprofit specializing in the treatment of dr...

Cyrus (he/him) is one happy and proud leatherman. Born and raised in Calcutta, India. He currently lives near Frankfurt for the last 6.5 years and works in tech. He is a dom/top (mostly) kinky fetishist with an aficionado for leathers, rubber, and skinhead gear. He discovered his fetish at the age of 12 while watching MotoGP! Bondage, biker leathers and GOM are his kryptonite. Outside fetish life,...

- Hans West: Kink Aware Coach and open-minded Partner-Relationship Coach, Integrative Addiction Services for over 25 years. Both offline, and online services: information, training and therapy. Generally a nice person but allergic to BS. And.. Adalberto and me have now created over 50 online and several in-person KinkyTalks(.nl) since 2020. Quote: "Have you ever ever seen anyone... shame anybody o...

Meet Barney, AKA The Muckle Stoater, a fetish artist, pornographer and all-round clown porn advocate based in London! For years he thought he was the weirdest person in the world for having a clown fetish. Now he get to express himself as a kink performer and escort, available to hire for all kinds of adult events. He is the host of ‘The Big Top’ podcast, where he discuss niche kinks and paraphili...

Steve B has been sober since May 28th, 2021, and is the host of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show. Having isolating during his drinking, he has only begun embracing his interests in leather, fetish, and kink in sobriety- something he believes is necessary for him in order to live a full, happy, and sober life. He is forever grateful for his sober family, his podcasting community, and kinksters like...