QueerLove Podcast

What are your core values? What are the shared values you have with your partner(s)? What the heck even are values? All this and more as we talk about how greatly impactful values are for relationships and how to feel even more connected with them on a daily basis. This is one of the favorite topics of clients after working with us, so we hope you enjoy!  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love!...

Saying you are sorry is one thing, but acting in accordance with those words is a whole other piece we don't often get taught. What comes up for you around apologizing? What comes up for you around receiving an apology from someone else?  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can foll...

Whaaaat?! 100 episodes? This calls for a celebration of reflections and learnings that we have gathered in the almost 2 years of doing this podcast!  Thank you so much for listening to our show, sharing your experiences with us and for sharing the podcast with others in your lives. Really means the world to us!  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please rate and review! And...

There is SO much to be said and learned inside of the world of attachment styles, so we are really skimming the surface in this episode.  We give a high overview around secure vs insecure attachment styles and some different indicators of each, especially when it comes to conflict in relationships, as well as some ways to make changes and heal in the process.  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much...

Too much of a good thing. Boundaries are a relationship topic that are all the rage, and for good reason since they are necessary for healthy relating, but what happens when you overdo it with boundaries? And what can be done when you have crossed that threshold?  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would...

Maybe communication is going well for you, but you want to go deeper in conversations within your relationships. Or maybe you need to deepen your conversations so that communication actually improves. Regardless, let's get into it!  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us...

We are in and out with this episode giving some tips on keeping your relationships fresh! Some simple boosts to inject in your dynamics and connect in ways that feel nourishing.  What tips would you add to the list?  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok , IG or You...

Secrets are a juicy topic in any context, but especially when it comes to partnerships. This episode is all about navigating relationships when you are thinking that the other is withholding truths from you and some possible approaches to take.  There are nuances, as with most things, around what is having you think secrets are at play, so we also talk on some questions to get curious on with your...

Waiting for things to clear up to the point where the best choice is crystal clear around something in your relationship? Let's get into all the nuances of making decisions when barely anything feels certain.  Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok , IG or YouTu...

Did your heart start to beat a little faster at the thought of getting feedback from someone you are in a relationship with? Or maybe you already ran out the door... We all have our own unique response to feedback and that is what we are going into today. We start with what is unhealthy when it comes to giving and receiving feedback, and then give some experiences around what it looks like done in...

Change. We have talked on it from a number of angles, but this time around, let's go into the changes you actually want to make in your relationships. Maybe it is an old pattern in communication, a tendency to shut down, a habit of trying to "fix"...whatever it is, this is something you actually want to be different moving forward.  What does that process look like? Because yes, it...

Change is going to happen in relationships, so DEAL WITH IT. Whoa, actually not taking that aggressive approach, but let's be real, change happens and will continue to happen so how do you approach this in relationships?  Especially when new agreements and expectations are coming along with the change, as well as the big emotions that are swimming around you in this experience. We talk on com...

Waiting for the other shoe to drop? Feeling on edge around there only be challenges in your relationship and nothing good to focus on?  Let's talk all about it. What can you do to start training your brain to find the wins, even when challenges are present? (especially when challenges are present) What gets in the way of letting things be good when they are genuinely good in a dynamic?  P.S....

You know that feeling when you are ABSOLUTELY certain that what is happening in your relationship is unfair and you are determined to make it fair and ensure that justice is reached and you are willing to defend yourself to the ends of the Earth to make it all happen?! Well, that is what we are talking on, friends. And not just that, but the weirdness that comes when there is actually nothing to d...

"I want to feel secure in my relationship." A goal that we hear all the time from clients so let's break it down - what are the components of a truly secure attachment in relationships?  If you are interested in learning more around what we go over today, we mention the work of Emotionally Focused Therapy, founded by Dr. Sue Johnson.  P.S. Open enrollment for the Love Mastery Coache...

This is something we speak to from different angles across all the topics we go over on the podcast, so why not just be super direct and talk about what exactly is a healthy relationship? We are going to the basics with this one! Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTo...

Whether this is completing the past with a relationship long gone, or completing the past in a current relationship around an ongoing issue, your ability to liberate yourself from the charge of those experiences will make a huge difference for your relational wellbeing.  What does it even mean or feel like when we say completing the past? We go over different examples and how you can tell when som...

Look, there are plenty of pros to the advancements in technology, especially when it comes to communication. AND it is also important to recognize where these advancements are actually making it difficult for us to connect with others and with ourselves in a very human way.  We go over the common challenges that intimate relationships run up against as the world gets more tech-centric, as well as...

What is the long game? How does discernment come into play? And exactly how much patience do you actually need to say that you successfully attempted to play the long game? We go over the ins and the outs with these questions and more from what we have experienced ourselves, and from what we have learned with clients in this realm! Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our show? Please r...

Boundaries will inevitably come up in your self-development/personal growth work. It is a buzz word that often draws people into this realm of exploration, but how do we use boundaries for the purpose of expanding our personal growth? A fine question that we go into today and use examples from our own lives, and from the sessions we have with clients as they navigate relational challenges.  Send u...

Intuition. A gut feeling. Inner knowing. Whatever the word, whatever the phrase, let's talk about getting connected to that (often) soft voice within yourself and how that relates to any and all relationships. There is a lot of noise in the world from external sources and it can be so difficult to know what action to take or what choice to make. And then, maybe you do have some clarity around...

Okay, first off, what the heck is shadow work? We go over it in the episode, but overall, this is the work that involves diving deeper into what is beneath the surface for us in the land of the subconscious. Assumptions, preconceived notions, beliefs, and stories that often run the show in our relationships. When we are able to bring awareness to these challenges, we have the opportunity to addres...

Conflict is something most people run away from in relationships, but we know it is inevitable because well, we are humans. The aftermath of conflict leads us into that season of repair, which could be one afternoon or perhaps could be a couple of years, depending on what the conflict entailed.  Repair entails a lot more vulnerability and tender moments in a relationship, and can lead to micro mom...

We know it for ourselves. We hear it from clients and our friends in the queer community. There is A LOT happening in America with the political system and it is, understandably, creating a lot of unrest and fear.  To start, you are not alone in any of this. Even when it feels like you must be, you are not. And we hope that this episode gives you some practical tips to tend to the basics of what c...

Y'all, we are in quite the challenging times. Something that we have been noticing more and more in sessions with our clients is the importance and growing desire for queer friends and community, which makes sense that we would be seeking that out as the challenges in America grow for queer folks.  We dive into the meanings of friendship and community, which we both have different takes on so...