QueerLove Podcast

Well...this was unexpected. We did have an intention with this episode and then it turned into shenanigans.  But, don't worry, we do a little bit of our intention at the end with some queer and poly sentence stems so come and play along! We know that things are really tough and scary right now in being queer in America, and we hope that this little dose of silly fun can bring some light into...

Exploring your gender is a tender and vulnerable experience, with an understandable amount of concern that is growing under the new administration in the US. All that said, this brings up a lot within the context of a romantic partnership for all partners involved and is something that we navigate a lot with our coaching clients.  What are some of the factors at play here and what can help in addr...

They say that love is a drug, right? Definitely can feel that way when you are in the throws of new relationship energy (NRE), which is also known as the honeymoon phase.  The phase of a relationship where you feel intoxicated and wrapped up in the throws of passion, lust, newness and your partner is the shiniest person you have ever beheld, and that is exactly how they feel about you. And then......

Ever felt seduced by the personal growth related words and phrases that someone says to you? Maybe they say how they are emotionally intelligent or that they know how to "hold space" or that they are responsible for their own emotions.  Chances are that you value growth in relationships since you are listening to a podcast about....well, growth in relationships. So, you know the buzz wor...

Holidays bring up a lot so we thought we would offer a little bit of queer joy for you and encourage you to do the same for yourself! We have moved through the holiday season so what had you feel those glimmers of queer joy? What would be ways to incorporate that more into your life moving into this upcoming year? We would love to hear from you! Send us Fan Mail Sending you so much love! Love our...

The end of the calendar year often brings more time with family, whether that is a positive or not in your experience. On top of whatever that brings up for you, after this year's election in the US, there is some additional spice being included in the mix of family gatherings, especially as queer folks. We share about different perspectives that can be taken around this tender topic, as well...

Everyone likes to feel appreciated, especially by those that hold so near and dear to our hearts. Gratitude is a value that can create profound connections with others, and it does not need to be complicated. This week we run through a DYAD exercise, which we have done on the podcast before, but consider this a refresher for yourself and relationships for this holiday season. We often get lost in...

It all starts with you. This is something we tell our clients and ourselves all the time.  It is easy to think that you do not have the power to create expansive change in the world, but we are going to debunk that in this episode. Your self-healing work has the power to ripple out to your relationships, community and beyond. What has been some of the most impactful effects you have seen in your o...

Choice. We want it in life. It is what allows us to feel free, yet in relationships, how often are we not actively choosing? And to answer that, what does it mean to choose your relationship? What does it mean to choose your relationship when it is messy and hard and challenging?  We go in depth on this topic and share our own experiences with the power that comes when you actually choose to be wi...

Phew, if you listened to last week's episode with Chamonix Penelope about Internal Family Systems then you learned A LOT. We know we sure did! We wanted to take some time today to offer our reflections and takeaways from that juicy conversation since we did cover a lot, and some of the topics were newer to what we usually cover on this podcast.  If you haven't yet listened to episode 67,...

We have our first ever guest on the podcast and we are so excited for you to listen to this in-depth exploration on Internal Family Systems (IFS). Whether you are new to IFS or you have experiences working with a practitioner trained in IFS, this episode is full of juicy perspectives and inquiries that can support you in your own relational growth. Chamonix Penelope is a multi-passionate artist, i...

Ready to talk about the awesomeness of queer sex? Great, we are too! We dive into some of our favorite things about queer sex that we also see as beneficial for any relational dynamic to deepen sexual intimacy - including an erotic intimacy game that you could play TODAY to spice up your sexual life.  What have been some of your favorite aspects of queer sex along your own journey? We would love t...

It's true, this all started from a video E saw on TikTok. What does it mean to have a "soft life"? And what connection does that have for lesbian relationships?  This added layer of consideration that comes when you are born AFAB and raised in what a girl/woman should be and act like translates into a different experience in most lesbian dynamics. E talks about her perspective in da...

Welcome back to another episode! Today is all about what we learned we need to be aware of in being an AFAB (assigned female at birth) couple in this world - whether it be a challenge or superpower of this particular dynamic.  Sharing from both of our personal experiences and also as a couple, what is different about this type of relationship compared to others? What are the conversations that we...

New name, who dis? But, truly, welcome to the first episode with our new name! We are starting off with a bang with this episode that we have some opinions about...weaponizing boundaries in relationships. Is it actually a boundary or are you putting a rule on someone?  This is something that is so common when we start to weave in the language of personal and relational development into our everyda...

Ready to get a bit of a crash course into an exercise that we run coaching clients through when things are feeling "unfair" in relationships? What happens when you know what you want in your relationship, but for whatever reason, it just is not happening in the way or timeframe that you want it to be? What happens if you are seeing your partner as the block to getting what you want? This...

Maybe the answer seems obvious, but then why do we still avoid difficult conversations like the plague? We break down the importance of difficult conversations when it comes to deepening connection and understanding with whoever you are in that conversation with, be it a partner, parent, coworker, neighbor, etc. This is all about knowing your "why" so that you have that as your guide whe...

To start, there are trigger warnings on this episode around self-harm, suicidal ideation, sexual abuse, and other forms of trauma. Please do take care of yourself and reach out to someone for support. Another personal episode this week with an exploration into partnership when complex post traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) is present for at least one person involved. We are not experts in this fi...

This is a personal episode all around being in relationship with someone who experiences ADHD.  What are the challenges? What are the perks? What are the areas of learning available? And what happens when someone's experience of ADHD bumps up against different insecurities and limiting beliefs?  We explore all of this in today's episode and offer some practical tips and actions to take t...

We jokingly say this phrase often in our household, "don't talk about it, be about it". And it is our loving and fun way to express when there is a disconnect between what we say we want to do or see happen with the actual actions that are going on.  This episode is a deep dive into the misalignment with what we say and we are doing, especially when it comes to what we say we want i...

How quickly did you click on this episode because of this enticing topic? We have all had some experience around this - maybe it was your ex reaching out, maybe you were the ex, or maybe it was the ex of your best friend who continues to reach out again and again. It also makes for some dramatic story lines in movies and books so perhaps your mind also went there. We dive into this topic through t...

We're talking about those dating "check boxes" when it comes to finding partners in queer and/or poly spaces! This is something we know from our own experience and something we see A LOT with clients. You meet someone who seems cool and they happen to be queer and poly...obviously that means you should date, right? No. No, it does not. And this is something that is not always happen...

Here we are at part 2 of last week's episode all on E's creation - the Conflict Resolution Triangle! If you have not yet checked it out, give it a listen (it's a quickie!) so that you have an extra tool for your own relationships! Today we talk about one of our recent moments of conflict/tension in our own relationship and break down the steps of the Conflict Resolution Triangle in...

Are you ready to learn a new tool to help navigating conflict be a bit easier? Of course you are! Today is part one of a 2 part series all around the Conflict Resolution Triangle, which E created after seeing trends with clients around their main struggle with conflict in relationships. E breaks down the three parts of the triangle - repair, resolve, and reassure.  We go over some of the nuances t...

Update time from our previous episode! Last week, E shared about what was coming up for her around her sexxuality - thoughts, worries, excitement, doubts, insecurities...you name it. This week, E shares about what she is understanding more about herself around being a lesbian, how the conversations have gone that she mentioned last week were needing to be had, and what she has been learning in pro...