Pure Victory Podcast

Welcome to episode #79! This week, Matt and Braden chat about family dysfunction as this will often play a part in our current behaviour, specifically a porn addiction. We all have degrees of dysfunction in our family A perfect family doesn't exist. Because of this, we all have layers of dysfunction that stem from our family of origin. That isn't to say that our parents or family didn't provide us...

Welcome to episode #78! This week, Matt and Braden slip n' slide into two of the slippery slopes to addiction you might find yourself on without even knowing it. Slippery Slope #1: The things we do Do you scroll social media, watch movies, or escape into other activities to avoid conflict that's brewing in your life or your soul? These things aren't all bad, but when we use neutral vices to pass t...

Welcome to episode #77! This week, Matt and Braden discuss fantasies and why it matters to expose those destructive thought patterns! Fantasies are often linked to past experience or hidden desires Many of us have experienced moments in the past that have shaped our current fantasies. Trauma, early sexual experiences, hurts, and shame are all components that may have been part of our past and when...

Welcome to episode #76! This week, Matt and Braden chat with author and speaker, Brett Ullman, about the connection between sex and media and what the church can do about it! Media can take us down a dark path - but it doesn't have to Media can be bad, but it can also be good. Really, our phones are nothing until we do something with them. The algorithms will show you what you've shown to be inter...

Welcome to episode #75! This week, Matt and Braden chat with author and speaker, Brett Ullman, about mental health and mental illness, and what affect pornography can have on mental health. Mental health is different than mental illness We have more control over mental health than mental illness. We can control health by doing things like eating well, sleeping, praying, exercising, and a variety o...

Welcome to episode #74! This week, Matt and Braden relieve some guilt people feel about their sexual desires by differentiating between lust and sexual desire. God gave you a sexual desire When porn has run rampant in our lives, it's common to wish for no more sexual desire. We need to instead pray for wisdom in discerning what is lust and what is a healthy sexual desire. God gave us sexual desire...

Welcome to episode #73! This week, Matt and Braden talk about how the company we keep could help or hinder our journey towards freedom from porn and other bad relational/sexual patterns. Are you being influenced negatively by others? When we are battling to get porn out of our lives, one of the challenges that can keep us stuck may be the people and social structures in our lives. We tend to adopt...

Welcome to episode #72! This week, Matt and Braden continue talking with renowned author, blogger and speaker, Sheila Wray Gregoire. In this episode they discuss why there is an orgasm gap between men and women, and how we need to change the way we think about sex for the better! Frequency is not the issue Often frequency is not the issue even though it has been advertised as such! Usually there a...

Welcome to episode #71! This week, Matt and Braden chat with renowned author, blogger and speaker, Sheila Wray Gregoire on her newest book, "The Great Sex Rescue." The messaging around our sex education can be harmful Often the teaching in Christian circles can be that sex is one sided, in that women's needs are not addressed or sex is only seen as a man's need. This is harmful as sex is designed...

Welcome to episode #69! This week, Matt and Braden bust the myths that say porn use is tied to libidos and will be an overwhelming, lifelong battle. Myth 1: Porn use is tied to your libido Porn use doesn't increase and decrease in correlation with people's sex drives. If that were the case, people in their 50s and 60s wouldn't ever experience an increase in their porn use, but in reality, they oft...

Welcome to episode #68! This week, Matt and Braden bust myths about the expectations surrounding the wedding night, as well as taking sex for a "test drive" before getting married. Myth 1: The Wedding Night There is a myth in our culture that the wedding night is supposed to be fireworks. Some people think that if it doesn't work out that way, the relationship might lack sexual compatibility. This...

Welcome to episode #67! This week, Matt and Braden bust myths about blue balls and wet dreams. Tune in to hear yet another episode about things you've probably never heard talked about in public. Blue balls are real - but not nearly as common or bad as men claim This is the definition of blue balls from healthline.com: "Blue balls, known medically as epididymal hypertension (EH) , is a condition t...

Welcome to episode #66! In this brief episode the guys chat about Covenant Eyes and the importance of using it to protect your devices and to help in building better accountability. Share With Your Friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Stay Tuned Next week, Matt and Braden begin a 3 part...

Welcome to episode #65! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about the importance of filling the void that is left after we get porn out of our lives, specifically with proactive choices that move us towards healing, growth and impact. Have an attitude to grow and to be a lifelong learner! We can be tempted to stop growing when we get porn-free, but there is a void that porn once occupied...

Welcome to episode #64! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about why we need community in our lives and how to powerfully set up effective community in both 1-on-1 settings and group settings. This is a practical 'how-to' if you're looking for an added boost in your journey to freedom! Community is a non-negotiable We all want to be the person who can win battles on our own, but we aren'...

Welcome to episode #63! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about getting honest, what that means, and how it plays an integral part in getting free. They also chat about what forgiveness actually means and the importance of receiving it in our freedom journey. Honesty moves us towards healing. Hiddenness and half truths hinder healing Being fully honest means sharing the full truth inste...

Welcome to episode #62! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden touch on a wide range of things a porn addiction will effect in a person's life. Tune in for some much needed motivation to address habits that hinder you! Be aware Mental health is something people often think of as a separate issue from porn. Other times, they'll see it as the reason they go to porn. Rarely will they think of porn a...

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Welcome to episode #60! In this week's episode, Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, shares his story and talks about how to break free from a culture of shame. Trying harder doesn't work Attempting to beat porn in a a try harder mentality leads to a binge purge cycle, and it led Nick to years of struggling behind closed doors and being bogged down in shame and guilt. When we...

Welcome to episode #59! In this week's episode, Richard De La Mora shares how he's been able to look past the history that his wife has in the porn industry and see her instead as a product of God's grace and transformation! Honesty leads to intimacy...but pray about it! Honesty and conversation leads to intimacy. Richard wanted to know everything about his wife's past because he desired for her t...

Welcome to episode #58! In this week's episode the guys chat with Keith Johnston as he shares his story about how a $15K phone bill due to porn use rocked his world. He also shares about how he came to terms with that moment and how it was a catalyst for him to get help! You will always look for affirmation that you're not receiving Brittni grew up in a home with verbal abuse and toxic relationshi...

Welcome to episode #57! In this week's episode the guys chat with Keith Johnston as he shares his story about how a $15K phone bill due to porn use rocked his world. He also shares about how he came to terms with that moment and how it was a catalyst for him to get help! Porn use progressively gets worse Often we think porn use will get better over time and that we can just live our lives thinking...

Welcome to episode #56! Trey and Lea have been married for 32 years and have more than one thing going for them. They're new grandparents and new empty-nesters, but there's one thing they're experiencing that isn't new to them: sex is better than ever. In this weeks episode Trey breaks down Intimacy busters that can hinder our sex life, and how identifying them can help us in being proactive! Ther...

Welcome to episode #55! Trey and Lea have been married for 32 years and have more than one thing going for them. They're new grandparents and new empty-nesters, but there's one thing they're experiencing that isn't new to them: sex is better than ever. Trey says it's been on an upward trend for years and shares how that's possible in this week's episode. God isn't embarrassed about sex God intenti...

Welcome to episode #54! Ben Bennett is 32 and single, living in victory over sexual sin, and leading a global movement bringing people into the freedom Christ paid for. Underlying issues are easy to miss Ben tried to white-knuckle his way out of his porn addiction for years on his own. Finally, when he pursued groups and let others into his battle, he was able to begin his journey to freedom. He s...