Pure Victory Podcast

Welcome to episode #53! This week, the guys chat with well known apologist, author and speaker Josh McDowell on the pervasiveness of porn, and how to effectively deal with it in and outside of the church. Porn is an epidemic and it affects us all! The affects of porn are far reaching and building awareness of its prevalence and the way it damages us all is a key part in moving towards health. Porn...

Welcome to episode #52! This week, the guys discuss rituals that are a pattern of behaviour we often aren't aware of that keep leading us back into porn use. Porn use has a pattern of behaviour that runs in the background without us knowing When we struggle with a porn addiction, there often is a routine that we enter into before and after each instance of porn use. This behaviour becomes a ritual...

Welcome to episode #51! For the second week in a row, Braden's wife Kristen leads a wives roundtable with Rosie Makinney and Charity Munoz. This week, the ladies share incredible advice on what a wife needs to do feel safe with her husband in the recovery from betrayal trauma. You need real support As a wife, you just need to hear that you aren't crazy. Through having community, you'll get to see...

Welcome to episode #50! This week, Braden's wife Kristen takes the reigns to interview Rosie Makinney and Charity Munoz on what a wife needs to do when she discovers her husband is watching porn. Seek understanding at all costs Wives - his porn consumption is not about you. It's so easy to react, freak out, and go to the worst-case scenarios in your head about who he really is, but do research and...

Welcome to episode #49! This week the guys discuss what we can learn from the moral failures of Ravi Zacharias and others, while navigating the feelings we have when we learn the dark side of those we looked up to. A mature faith isn't dependent on others We will be often disappointed if we put our faith in Christian leaders and not Jesus because a person of mature faith trusts in God alone! That...

Welcome to episode #48! This week, Pastor Gary Taitinger shares wisdom on living a life free from sin and overcoming temptation. What we do and say eventually ends up on the evening news Sin is insanity. We think we can live in a way opposite to God's design and live in God's blessing. Sin love darkness, obscurity, and anonymity. It's an illusion that has a way of being revealed. God's law is such...

Welcome to episode #47! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Dalton Harrisgreen about his struggle with a porn addiction and the added shame that comes with feelings of same sex attraction. Share With Your Friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Next week, Matt and Braden talk wi...

Welcome to episode #46! This week, Matt and Braden share the God's heart and love for each listener. Whether you've struggled with habitual sin for decades or not, being assured of how He loves us is so vital to flourishing in life. God Constantly Pursues When we're in sin and feel distant from God, He is always pursuing us. He is desiring relationship with us above anything and is continually dra...

Welcome to episode #45! This week, Matt and Braden continue their chat with Dr. Ted Fenske. Dr. Fenske goes into detail on how to rewire our brains after porn and sexual addiction has negatively impacted it. Give Your Brain A Chance To Heal Get off the internet. Dr. Fenske says that because of the highly addictive nature of internet pornography, where videos have a higher impact than still picture...

Welcome to episode #44! This week, Matt and Braden chat with Dr. Ted Fenske, a cardiologist who deals with addiction medicine and is an expert on the effects of addiction on the brain. Dr. Fenske discusses what porn use does to our brains and how it affects out day-to-day living! Porn takes advantage of our natural reward pathway in our brain Porn acts much like cocaine and fentanyl (along with ma...

Welcome to episode #43! This week, Braden and his better half (wife Kristen), continue their chat with former NHL player Ryan Walter and his wife Jenn. They discuss how they built and maintained intimacy in marriage while navigating a pro hockey career.   Connection Requires Intentionality Ryan and Jenn were able to build intimacy and connection because they were intentional in doing so. They both...

Welcome to episode #42! This week, Braden and his better half (wife Kristen), chat with former NHL player Ryan Walter and his wife Jenn. They discuss what it meant to have healthy boundaries in marriage while navigating a pro hockey career.   Healthy boundaries start with an agreement Ryan and Jenn were able to build health in their marriage because they discussed and were in agreement about their...

Welcome to episode #41! This week, Matt and Braden share little tips that they have found powerful in making prayer and Bible reading come alive and help them grow their relationships with Jesus.   Don't Chase A Feeling We can certainly feel God at times, whether that's emotionally or physically, but the feeling isn't what we should chase. God says, "Be still and know that I am God," not ' feel' t...

Welcome to episode #40! This week, Matt and Braden chat about the different ways we connect to God, and why it is important to understand this so that we can build into better health in our own lives.    Porn can cause an intimacy disorder, and that means broken connections When porn is in our lives it twists and distorts the way we connect to others and often it robs us of any true and lasting co...

Welcome to episode #39! This week, Matt and Braden discuss how to rebuild intimacy in marriage after porn or other sexual immorality has destroyed your unity. There are many forms of intimacy When we talk about 'being intimate,' we are usually talking sex, however, there are several different forms of intimacy. Building a relationship with sex as the foundation is not going to go well when we igno...

Welcome to episode #38! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss why marriage isn't the solution to a porn problem like so many single people hope it will be. Porn Isn't About Sex It's easy to think that more sex will cure the need for porn - until we realize that aren't sex drive isn't always related to porn use. Going deeper and finding the reasons why you use porn as a single person will...

Welcome to episode #37! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss three important questions in building self-awareness; when, where, and why we look at porn!  The When Understanding the time that we are most susceptible to looking at porn is a key component in building good self-awareness. Usually, when an addiction like porn plagues us, we are far more reactive than proactive. Being reactiv...

Welcome to episode #36! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden continue talking with Marilyn Evans about the practical steps parents can take to protect their kids! Lies In The Marriage Led To "D-Day" Clinton told Charity that porn was a past struggle, when it was actually still present in his life, along with strip clubs and massage parlors. To help set us free, God will always bring our sins in...

Welcome to episode #35! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden continue talking with Marilyn Evans about the practical steps parents can take to protect their kids. Start talking about porn and sex in the home As parents, we need to get comfortable talking about porn so that our kids feeling safe talking about it in the home. Start small by discussing porn and sex with your spouse if you're marri...

Welcome to episode #34! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk to Marilyn Evans from Parents Aware to help create awareness on how porn will affect their child. Porn Targets Children Porn companies attach misspelled words like 'gummy bares' or 'hot weels' that kids might type into search engines as tags and keywords to their videos. This way, when kids do searches with these words, porn vide...

Welcome to episode #33! In this week's episode, Braden is interviewed by his wife, Kristen, on what changed once he was porn free. Our life goal should be more than just getting free from porn! Our main goal in life should be to know Jesus more in a process of growth and healing. If we just fixate on porn and believe that getting sober is the source of our joy and happiness, we will be left feelin...

Welcome to episode #32! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden share essentials every person needs to know to help a friend out of a porn addiction. Set Expectations and Establish Boundaries To have an accountability relationship last and end in success, expectations and boundaries should be established right from the start and then communicated about throughout. Boundaries with time, how to comm...

Welcome to episode #31! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about four simple steps everyone should take to get porn out of their lives and move towards growth and healing! Must-Do #1: Remove Access If we have access to our drug of choice (sexual vice), it will be very hard to have any degree of success and we can stay stuck in a rut. We have to get drastic in removing our access to porn,...

Welcome to episode #30! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about the link between insecurities and porn, where insecurities come from, and what can be done to overcome them. Insecurities Negatively Impact How We Perceive Life Typically, insecurities come from a legitimate situation that hurt us. The hurt that we feel gets rooted in us and attaches itself to our identity. This then change...

Welcome to episode #29! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss the link between porn and social media, and how social media actually creates more disconnect in our lives than healthy connection. Social Media Is Highly Addictive Social media is designed to keep our attention. The various platforms are all created in a way to wire our brains to keep coming back for more. Even though there i...