Pure Victory Podcast

Welcome to episode #26! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss why being sorry is only part of the equation towards healing. They break down why repentance is a far better mindset to have and what that means for our lives. There is a difference between being sorry and being repentant When someone is sorry they look at porn it is often because they feel bad they got caught or feel guilty f...

Welcome to episode #25! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden tackle one of the biggest traps in porn addiction - the victim mindset. Victim thinking will keep people stuck in sin forever if it's not recognized, addressed, and done away with. Learn how to do just that, so you can come away with the mindset of a conqueror. Victims Blame Anyone and Anything When someone has taken on the mindset of...

Welcome to episode #24! In this week's episode, Braden and Matt interview Pastor Vern as he shares his story of having porn in his life as a pastor. He also shares specifically about how those in ministry can get porn out of their lives to better help others!   Share With Your Friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so...

Welcome to episode #23! Wrong expectations can set people back in their journey to getting porn-free so it's important to manage expectations well so they can empower us, instead of discouraging us. Putting Expectations on Others is Damaging Expecting God or others to be the key to your freedom, instead of taking the onus onto yourself will be damaging in the long-run. Seek help from God and other...

Welcome to episode #22! In this week's episode, Braden and Matt discuss identity and why it may be the single most important thing in having freedom and victory over things like porn! Identity shapes our mindset We tend to make choices based on what we think about ourselves and what we think about our world. Pornography and other addictive behaviors are destructive and those behaviors can shape ou...

Welcome to episode #21! Our sexualized world is promoting and making way for hook-ups more than it has in 50 years. We're seeing the damage of it, but yet single people are pressured into dating and hooking up with others, just to be seen as valuable. Be Proud Of Living Clean! Because of how normalized the concept of hooking up is, we can sometimes feel like there's something wrong with us if we'r...

Welcome to episode #20! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk with trauma and sexual abuse therapist, Dr. Kelli Palfy. You can order her book, Men Too: Unspoken Truths about Male Sexual Abuse , here .  What is Sexual Abuse? Not everyone is 100% sure of what sexual abuse is. Being old enough to consent is a key factor in determining what qualifies as abuse. Legally in Canada a child under th...

Welcome to episode #19! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden chat about why trying hard to get porn out of your life will leave you feeling stuck and defeated. Practically learn the difference between 'trying hard' and 'training yourself in godliness’ and why it’s absolutely essential that you have the right approach. We Try Hard in Our Own Strength We often try hard in our own strength and und...

Welcome to episode #18! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden go taboo, tackling what goes on behind closed doors to help make sure you can have guilt-free, enjoyable sex in marriage. People Have Questions Not everyone is 100% sure on the sex acts God wants us to enjoy and what He wants us to stay away from in marriage. If that's you, it's okay. Your heart is likely for God and for your spouse i...

Welcome to episode #17! In this week's episode, Bonnie Ragan leads us through the process that wives go through when their husbands are engaged in porn so that both wives and husbands can understand the process from the wife's perspective. Setting up a Marriage for Trouble Bonnie was pregnant when she and Brian got married. During her pregnancy, Brian lied about an encounter he had with another wo...

Welcome to episode #16! In this week's podcast, Matt and Braden go deep into exposing where fantasies come from What's the harm in fantasizing? Fantasies lead us to act out. If we learn how to eliminate fantasies, we won't continue on in the journey to eventually acting out in porn, masturbation, or fornication. Our brains don't know the difference between our thoughts and reality, so the more we...

Welcome to episode #15! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt discuss the importance of living for God's standard, and not the world's standard when it comes to sexual behavior. They discuss the mindset when we have God's standard and how it helps us move away from things like and addiction to porn or other unhealthy sexual behaviors.  Here is a brief summary of the episode. The Porneia Standard...

Welcome to episode #14! In this week's podcast, Matt and Braden take a deep dive into the relationship between sex and covenant. There is much to God's design for sex, but the idea of covenant is one of the most powerful aspects to this design. Here is a brief summary of the episode. Covenant means to commit to relationship forever, unconditionally To enter into a covenant with someone is to commi...

Welcome to episode #13! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt interview the regional director for Saskatchewan for FamilyLife Canada, Sheldon Dean. Sheldon shares about how porn and addiction almost destroyed his life and marriage. He also shares how he came back from the brink to rebuilding his life and marriage, and how he got porn and addiction out of his life.  Here is a brief summary of the...

Welcome to episode #12! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt discuss the importance of intentionally addressing pornography in the church. Find out what the Bible says about it, what happens when church leaders take action, and practical ways to implement programs in your church. Here is a brief summary of the episode. Church leaders need to understand the threat porn is presenting The time for...

Welcome to episode #11! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt discuss triggers and how they lead to porn use. Understanding what triggers are is an important component in getting free from porn as we need to be self-aware of the process we go through when battling an addiction. Here is a brief summary of the episode. What are 'triggers?' Triggers are the first part of the addiction cycle. They a...

Welcome to episode #10! In this week's podcast, Matt and Braden discuss in detail what God's view on masturbation is, why the Bible doesn't talk about it, and why it's so important that Christians are solid in their view on this subject. Here is a brief summary of the episode. Why doesn't the Bible talk about masturbation? The Bible doesn't say the word 'masturbation' outright, so some people beli...

Welcome to episode #9! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt interview FamilyLife Canada staff, Val and Al. They share about how porn almost ended their marriage - and how they chose to fight and save their relationship! Here is a brief summary of the episode. Denial and hiddenness create secrecy and mistrust Al and Val share how a veneer of secrets may keep the outside appearances looking okay,...

Welcome to episode #8! In this week's podcast, Braden chats with a special guest - his wife, Kristen! They share about the journey of healing they went on in getting porn out of their marriage and what it's like now to be totally free from porn. Here is a brief summary of the episode. Getting porn out of our marriage began with a false start Early in our marriage, we had no concept of how to get p...

Welcome to episode #7! Tune in to hear God's heart for those who battle a porn addiction while wanting desperately to do great things for God. Here is a brief summary of the episode. God can work through anybody anytime God works through Christians, non-Christians, donkeys, and whatever other vessel He sees fit to use. He is the one that makes things happen and we don't bear fruit for God's kingdo...

SHOW NOTES Welcome to episode #3! In this episode, Braden Hafner talks about his journey with porn, misunderstanding his addiction, and how he ultimately moved towards healing and freedom! Listen to his story and see what you can apply to your own life! Here is a brief summary of the episode. Pornography use has a natural progression that almost always leads to addiction Since porn is highly addic...