Pure Victory Podcast

Welcome to episode #104! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author, podcaster and co-founder of authentic intimacy, Dr. Juli Slattery. Purity culture creates sexual sinners and sexual pharisees When the message from the church is that we should save sex for marriage, it creates two classes of people. One class of people who have screwed up and are now impure. The other class of people did...

Welcome to episode #103! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author, podcaster and co-founder of authentic intimacy, Dr. Juli Slattery Our sexuality and spirituality are intertwined Sex (sexuality) is a bigger deal than the world makes it out to be as it has such a profound affect on our lives and is connected to our spiritual lives as well. It can shape how we view God, and because we all...

Welcome to episode #102! In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, podcaster, and founder of Husband Material, Drew Boa. Body memories have power We have different kinds of memories and some are more powerful than others. When we have a memory that's attached to a song, hearing that song will probably bring us back to an initial or emotional memory we had while that song was playing. In t...

Welcome to episode #101! In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, podcaster, and founder of Husband Material, Drew Boa. Befriending our sexuality Often we feel frustrated with our sexuality because we either take an avoidance approach or completely give in to our sexual desires. Both approaches miss out on the fact that sexuality is a God-given thing and it is good, so in our brokenness...

Welcome to episode #100! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about hidden patterns of behaviour that can lead to porn and discuss the importance of building awareness around these "default responses." 4 things we need to know (plus a bonus point) Mike's book, "Sexpectations," outlines four key points about sex: Sex is good Sex is work Sex is fiery Sex is unnecessary An underlying message that Mi...

Welcome to episode #99! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author, speaker, and pastor, Mike Novotny, on forgiveness and confession, and why both are vital to healing from things like abuse and pornography. There is no one size fits all approach to healing from abuse We are all different and our lives are all different. So, there is no button we all can push to heal in an instant that will...

Welcome to episode #98! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with Travis and Adelle Graham from The Noble Marriage about how to talk through hard issues in marriage, the consequences of staying silent, and the beauty of learning to be real. Travis and Adelle swept big issues under the rug Travis and Adelle didn't know how to communicate when red flags and concerns arose. Adelle was scared of talk...

Welcome to episode #97! In this episode, Matt and Braden hear Travis and Adelle Graham of The Noble Marriage share their personal story of total transformation in their marriage. Travis' body was shutting down Travis had endured abuse as a child and extreme trauma in his career as a police officer, among other things. Because of suppressed pain, not having a safe place to share his trauma, and ind...

Welcome to episode #96! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about sexual compatibility, and whether it holds up or if it is potentially damaging our ideas surrounding sex. We are different- and that is ok! Our society elevates the idea of sexual compatibility, and often it is rooted in the idea that we need to be the same sexually with our partner, in libido, desire, and in our needs. If we don'...

Welcome to episode #95! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about hidden patterns of behaviour that can lead to porn and discuss the importance of building awareness around these "default responses." Default responses are reactionary Over time when we respond to feelings or circumstances in a particular way, it becomes ingrained in our minds as well-traveled neural pathways of behaviour. These r...

Welcome to episode #94! In this episode, Matt and Braden share their experiences about unplugging from technology, along with some stats Unplugging technology and intimacy with God often go together Braden started off 2022 with a break from social media and immediately felt more at peace and more sensitive to God's presence and leading. When Matt had to take Facebook off of his phone in order to s...

Welcome to episode #93! In this episode, Matt and Braden continue to chat with sexual betrayal coaches, Dave and Kirsten Samuel, who are making a major impact. Healing cant be fast-tracked Once the pathway to healing is determined (accountability, support, counselling etc), it cant be rushed or taken for granted. It takes a consistent effort and a commitment to the process as a couple, as well as...

Welcome to episode #92! In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Dave and Kirsten Samuel, sexual betrayal coaches who are making a major impact. Discovery-day will come! Dave wanted to beat his battle with lust alone, so he spent over 25 years of his marriage not opening up about his problems. Kirsten saw red flags, but ignored them only to find out that she had legitimate concerns years earlier...

Welcome to episode #91! In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Brad and Lisa Valencia (hosts of the Unrelenting Pursuit podcast ) about what restoring their marriage looked like after Brad's affair almost led them to divorce. You need guardrails in your marriage Brad had to rebuild trust with Lisa and he did it through establishing guardrails in their marriage. She was able to see his phone an...

Welcome to episode #90! In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Brad and Lisa Valencia (hosts of the Unrelenting Pursuit podcast ) about how God saved their marriage after facing porn addiction, infidelity, and an imminent divorce. Prayer is vital! In all seasons of marriage, prayer is an essential component to a healthy and thriving marriage. But is it always the first go-to when we are faced...

Welcome to episode #89! In this episode, Matt and Braden discuss a big question: Does Jesus matter? Does Jesus matter for life? Since we are created by God, we have purpose and have value! This speaks to our identity, that we are accepted and that Jesus' death on the cross paid the price for our sins. All we need to do is receive that gift and follow Him! Does Jesus matter in getting free from por...

Welcome to episode #88! In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, speaker and director of reKindle.tv, Doug Balzer about the connection between spiritual deliverance and sexual activity. The stats prove the effectiveness of deliverance According to the research that Doug did, there is a direct connection between deliverance and sexual immorality. Here are some his stats: 47% of people who...

Welcome to episode #87! In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, speaker and director of reKindle.tv, Doug Blazer. They discuss with Doug a biblical understanding of deliverance ministry (getting rid of demonic activity), and why it matters for all of us! We live in a physical and a spiritual reality Often we are only focused on the physical reality of our world and lives because it is w...

Welcome to episode #86! In this episode, Matt and Braden interview the first ever Miss Wheelchair Canada, Vahen King, about the restoration God did in her marriage after she committed adultery and wanted a divorce. Insecurities came to the surface Vahen was newly engaged when transverse myelitis attacked her body, putting her in a wheelchair. This compounded insecurities that already existed becau...

Welcome to episode #85! In this episode, Matt and Braden chat about why marriages need support in all seasons and all stages of life! Support for Marriage (3 A's) When there is the presence of addictions, abuse or adultery in a marriage, third party help is not just an option but is vital/essential to the survival of the relationship. These are areas that need the support of professionals, and oft...

Welcome to episode #84! In this episode, Matt and Braden go over the two ways shame manifests in our lives, the specific factors that allow shame to grow, and what to do to crush it for good! There are two ways shame manifests itself When we have shame, we will engage in soul isolation, physical isolation, or both. Soul isolation is when we are with people, but don't let anyone in. We are protecti...

Welcome to episode #83! In this episode, Matt and Braden cover a scary topic for husbands! What should they tell their wives about their porn addictions, what they should not tell, and how should they go about it. Every marriage is different Every person and every marriage is different. There are dynamics that work for some that don't work for others, so when thinking about when and how to share h...

Welcome to episode #82! In this episode, Matt and Braden interview special guest, Dave Hafner, who just happens to be Braden's Dad! They discuss his story of how he met Jesus in prison, and how that hope relates to us wherever we are! Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as...

Welcome to episode #81! In this episode, Braden is running solo talking with author, speaker and counsellor, Debra Fileta to discuss her book Are You Really OK? Emotional Health Often the mindset we have with emotions is that they dictate our response to life and we don't give any thought to the roots of our emotions or that they are signals for something that may be going on under the surface. Em...

Welcome to episode #80! In this episode, Matt and Braden follow up on last week with two more roots to addiction: trauma and the impact of the world's subtle messaging. There are various kinds of trauma 10/10 traumas - Identifying what the biggest traumas in our lives are usually doesn't take too long. Abuse that we've endured, tragedies, or some other big event will stand out. However, there are...