Pure Victory Podcast

Welcome to episode #129! Matt and Braden begin a two part discussion on deconstructing our fantasies, and why it is a key component in our healing journey away from porn and masturbation. The link between porn and fantasy When we are battling a porn addiction, we can lack self awareness and tend to focus on the surface behaviour (porn use) and we miss the roots of why we struggle with porn. Our fa...

Welcome to episode #128! Matt and Braden are joined by Samye Flock and Jayme Davis of Reflection Ministries about what it looks like to practically help survivors break free from the trap of sex trafficking. Survivors expect to be used Those stuck in sex trafficking have had it drilled into them that they are only good for one thing: sex. Since traffickers prey on people in vulnerable situations,...

Welcome to episode #127! Matt and Braden are joined by Samye Flock and Jayme Davis of Reflection Ministries to discuss human trafficking and pornography. Human Trafficking isn't like what it is seen in the movies! Often when we think of trafficking, we think of kidnapping and images of Liam Neeson saving his daughter in Taken . But in reality trafficking is much broader and nuanced, and it runs in...

Welcome to episode #126! Matt and Braden dig into growing your emotional maturity, which will help you have success in your journey out of sexual bondage! Emotional quotient is vital Our emotional quotient is the combination of understanding how to identify and steward emotions and then being able to implement what we know. First, we have to learn to actually be aware of what we are feeling. Then,...

Welcome to episode #125! This week, Braden and Matt talk about sobriety and if it should be our main focal point when we are battling pornography. Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Resour...

Welcome to episode #124! This week, Braden picks up on his conversation from last week with fellow FamilyLife Canada leader, Matt Andres. Matt's porn addiction stopped him from working in ministry Matt and his wife were looking at working for FamilyLife Canada to help other marriages grow healthier. Although they were interested and had multiple meetings about it, they both knew his porn addiction...

Welcome to episode #123! Braden interviews fellow co-worker (FamilyLife Canada), Matt Andres, as he shares about how porn greatly affected his formative years and how it almost destroyed his marriage. Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any p...

Welcome to episode #122! Matt and Braden chat with Patrick, a man with an amazing story of knowing God's strength after enduring many trials and life-altering sexual mistakes! Sexual abuse is devastating Patrick was sexually abused by multiple men in his childhood. He told his mom once, but she didn't speak of it again and then invited the abuser to live in their home. From this, Patrick was convi...

Welcome to episode #121! Matt and Braden chat about the redeeming power of Jesus in our lives - and why that matters! The Bible is a redemption story! The Bible's message speaks towards God's plan to redeem humanity, and that message is revealed fully in Jesus and how He has redeemed us all! It is amazing to see just how powerful the work of Jesus is and how it restored all that was broken. This i...

Welcome to episode #120! Matt and Braden go in depth at how Jesus viewed temptation and what adjustments we need to make Temptation is an opportunity for victory Jesus was never scared of being tempted. When temptation came, He knew how to live in victory because He had spent so much time with His Father, growing deeper spiritual roots to help Him stay grounded. When temptation has kept us bound f...

Welcome to episode #119 with Shawn Bonneteau of Secret Habit! True surrender to God is necessary Shawn's wife, Helena, asked him what life would look like if he never got porn out of his life. She then asked what life could look like if he did. Thinking about these questions hit Shawn on a soul level and led him to get on his knees and surrender to God. This was the start of him engaging in the fi...

Welcome to episode #118! In this weeks episode (not really an episode), co-host Braden gives a brief update! Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Resources Pure Freedom Community for men 18+...

Welcome to episode #117! In this episode the guys discuss how and what to talk about in regards to sex, when you are dating or engaged. As a single When we are single, the conversations we need to have about sex are in regards to our own values. What are our values, do they align with God's design for sex, and if they do how do we build healthy boundaries so that we choose to live out of said valu...

Welcome to episode #116! Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Resources Pure Freedom Community for men 18+ Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Book a FREE call (men) Course for marriages...

Welcome to episode #115!  In this episode Matt and Braden discuss purity and how it really is a matter of the heart! They also discuss purity culture and how it focused more on behaviour modification vs transformation which caused unintended harm when it comes to understanding sex and God's design. Purity culture and messaging Purity culture in the church really stemmed from a response to our worl...

Welcome to episode #114! Even our good works are worthless We often feel more worthy to go to God when we haven’t screwed up and gone to sin. The truth is, we are worthy to be in God’s presence only because of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross. Whether we go to sin or not doesn’t change our status in God’s eyes. Going to God in prayer only when we’ve stayed away from sin is putting more emphasis on ou...

Welcome to episode #113! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about being aware of what we are looking at and what we are taking in. Now that summer is here, the heat is on, figuratively and literally! So how will we all prepare ourselves for the onslaught of visual temptations? Is there a pattern? When we are struggling in an addiction/shame cycle with things like porn or fantasy, we have visual...

Welcome to episode #112! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk to the author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures and founder of Defend Young Minds, Kristen Jenson about how to talk to our children about porn in age appropriate ways. What do I tell my children about porn? Kristen has a three-step outline to help you know how to talk to your young children about porn. Definition Warning Plan Defining porn...

Welcome to episode #111! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about whether it is possible to affair proof a marriage, and what steps we can all take to strengthen our marriages so that we are not vulnerable to having an affair. Pray Together Studies show that couples that pray together regularly and consistently have a much higher rate of marital satisfaction and success. Carving out time every...

Welcome to episode #110! In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Bryan and Bonnie Pue, leaders and founders of the Union Movement . Why do church leaders hesitate to talk about porn and sex? There are a variety of reasons for pastors to not talk about porn and sex in their church. Awkwardness is a real issue that often hinders the pastor from even knowing where to start. Purity culture took pla...

Welcome to episode #109! In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Bryan and Bonnie Pue, leaders and founders of the Union Movement . Can we learn from history about sexuality? The historical climate that the Bible was written in (Old and New Testaments) has many parallels to our current sexual climate that we can learn from. Further, God's heart and truth is revealed in His word in how He relate...

Welcome to episode #108! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with David, a leader in Pure Freedom Journey. David shares about the transformation he experienced when he learned to not repress his sex drive after his wife died, but to let God satisfy that area of his life instead. There are layers of sorrow in times of loss David’s wife passed away when they were just in their 40s. As a single man...

Welcome to episode #107! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with Pure Freedom Journey leader, David, as he shares about how he made the choice to get help with his battle with porn and masturbation, even though he was crippled with apprehension. Blessings on the other side of awkward It can be really hard to admit we have a problem with porn, but it is even harder to admit our problem to others...

Welcome to episode #106! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author and podcaster, Sathiya Sam on the 3 pillars that he walks people through in their recovery from porn use. Building self-awareness We have to be aware of our behaviours, our heart posture, and our thinking patterns if we're going to get a deep-rooted behaviour like sexual addiction out of our lives. Self-awareness that is de...

Welcome to episode #105! In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author, and podcaster, Sathiya Sam. The personality ethic Our unique personality is God-given, and much has been made of it in the past few years, discovering our specific personality make-up with things like Enneagram and myers-briggs. These are great tools, however an unhealthy mindset can birth itself out of this when we decide...