Polycurious

In the second part of my conversation with A and J, we talk about how J learned to face and work through his insecurities instead of letting them dictate how A connects with others. We also explore how differently they’ve each approached non-monogamy, with A actively dating while J has taken things more slowly as he continues to unpack his religious upbringing and lifelong monogamous conditioning....

A and J opened up their relationship after nearly three decades together, when menopause sparked a surge in A’s libido. In this episode, we talk about their process of untangling enmeshment, how they moved from a rule-heavy dynamic — with J, who was initially hesitant about non-monogamy, setting most of the boundaries — to having no rules at all. We also explore how those early rules revealed inse...

Today, Evita Sawyers ((@Lavitaloca34) shares how she went from letting jealousy and anger take over to becoming more grounded and less reactive. We talk about her experience being in a triad and how opening her marriage revealed gaps in her relationship with her husband, ultimately leading to their breakup. This episode explores how non-monogamy can uncover powerful truths about yourself, serve as...

Roshi and Frankie have been navigating a long-distance polyamorous relationship for over three years, where they both have other partners. Today, we talk about: How to balance multiple relationships without losing a shared vision Their experience building a long distance partnership Finding security even when your partner has a nesting partner Why non-monogamy is also an inner journey that can hel...

In my conversation with John, my secondary partner, we get into how our relationship grew from friends-with-benefits into partnership. We revisit an early incident that brought up his fear of disappointing partners and my own struggles with trust and safety, and how that shaped our early days. I share what it’s been like to face my fears around partnership and learn to find safety within myself, w...

Catherine and Brian went on Feeld looking for a threesome but things took a turn when Catherine fell for a woman who’s also married with a daughter. Now the two couples (and their kids) have formed a loving polycule built on honesty and care. In today’s episode, we talk about how Brian stays sensually connected to the dynamic by being submissive, even though he’s not sexually involved with Catheri...

Adam is the author of Seek the Risk, the only memoir I know of by a man about non-monogamy. In this episode, he shares how being with a female partner who was more sexually active than he was challenged his sense of masculinity. He talks about how he overcame those feelings using techniques from his extreme sports background, including recognizing harmful inner narratives and reframing fear. Patre...

In the second part of my conversation with Alex and Didi, we’re diving deep into MFM (male-female-male) threesomes, something they’ve explored together, and that Alex has a lot of experience with solo. He shares how he went from feeling uncomfortable with seeing his partner receive pleasure from another man to actually making it one of his biggest kinks. We talk about why this dynamic can be incre...

Today, Didi and Alex talk about what it’s like to be in a relationship where one partner is just beginning to explore non-monogamy while the other has years of experience. We also get into the complexities of couple-to-couple play, including the communication challenges, mismatched expectations, and lessons learned from their early experiences. Patreon Bonus Content: Navigating Couple-to-Couple Pl...

Today, Annie Undone opens up about her long-distance Dominant/submissive relationship (where she was the dom) with an asexual partner and what it taught her about intimacy. She also shares her journey from monogamy to polyamory and back again, her experience leaving an abusive marriage and dating someone 14 years younger, and why staying grounded in yourself outside of romantic relationships is so...

Today Aryn and Josh from Couples Therapy discuss their decade-long journey navigating polyamory, including their experience in a triad, Josh’s process of overcoming discomfort with Aryn dating other men, and how they use conflict as an opportunity to model how they want to be treated by each other. Watch Couples Therapy on Paramount : https://www.paramountplus.com/shows/couples-therapy/ Listen to...

Daniella Guimaraes is a non-monogamous matchmaker and founder of Velvet Ties social club. Today she shares her CNM journey, why she prefers starting relationships fully open, and lessons from a past partner whose actions contradicted his words. She also tells us how Velvet Ties is bringing the community together and what you have to do to become a part of it. Learn more about the Croatia trip here...

Lamees and Nick are a monogamous couple who previously tried non-monogamy and decided it wasn't right for them. Today, they discuss their journey and introduce their "relationship fortification" framework for having honest conversations about relationships. Visit the relationship fortification website here : https://www.relationshipfortification.com/ Follow relationship fortification...

Today, I’m sitting down with my dear friends Luna and Leo for what might be the longest and most insightful conversation I’ve ever recorded. Luna shares her journey of leaving a toxic non-monogamous relationship and finding something healthier and more fulfilling with Leo. We dive into their personal triggers, how their past experiences shaped them, and the self-awareness they’ve gained through op...

Ellie and Cole went from both being non-monogamous to just Ellie playing with others. But that doesn’t mean Cole doesn’t benefit! Ellie shares videos and pictures of her encounters and brings the sexual energy into their relationship when she gets home. We dive into how this (some might say hotwifing) arrangement works, the conversations that made it possible, and their journey from playing togeth...

In this final episode of the Mono-poly mini-series, my assumptions about these relationships get seriously challenged! Shy is solo poly, non-hierarchical, and a relationship anarchist, while Gabrielle, who’s monogamous, has a surprisingly open (some might even say poly) mindset. We dive into what non-hierarchy actually looks like in practice and how even monogamous partners can benefit from polyam...

In this episode, I sit down with Cassie and Schuyler, a couple navigating a mono-poly dynamic—Cassie is open to dating others, while Schuyler has remained monogamous (so far!). We dive into their journey of embracing this relationship style, from Cassie overcoming feelings of guilt to how their dynamic has deepened their connection. Resources mentioned in this episode: Patreon Bonus Content: https...

In this episode Seth and I talk about why he’s never lost his confidence as a monogamous man in a non-monogamous relationship. We unpack how we approach "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" (spoiler: it’s not what you think!) and share what we’ve learned about making a mono-open dynamic work. Resources mentioned in this episode: Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth Book a fre...

Today I'm giving you a little sample of a Patreon episode. Feeling NRE (New Relationship Energy) in non-monogamy for the first time? If you're connecting with someone outside your primary relationship, you might freak out a bit (I sure did!). Here’s what I wish I knew: Thinking about your new lover more than your partner is normal and it will likely go away : Infatuation often comes with i...

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In the last episode of the Poly Parents mini-series I spoke to Molly Roden Winter, author of the  New York Times Bestseller  More: A Memoir of Open Marriage . We spoke about her experience overcoming shame as a non-monogamous mother and how opening up her marriage helped her grow and learn about herself. Get Molly's book here ! Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok...

Today, I talk to writer and coach Sarah Stroh ( Monogamish_me on Instagram), a week before giving birth. We speak of how becoming pregnant changed the dating game for her and put her identity as a flirty and adventurous person into question. She also tells us about what led her to decide to co-parent with a friend and how that influenced her partner.  Connect with Sarah: Instagram Substack Follow...

In the second part of my conversation with this couple, we discuss their transition from being open to polyamory, partially due to their three kids leaving for college. They each share their unique methods of dealing with jealousy and other challenging emotions, as well as how they've adapted to these feelings. Finally, they talk about their experience of revealing their non-monogamous relatio...

This couple decided to open up their marriage after two decades together. Today, they share some of the challenges they faced during that transition, such as learning how much to share about their outside relationships with one another. They also tell us how they used Craiglist (believe it or not) to find a match for their first non-monogamous date. Lastly, they give great tips around finding comm...

Abbey and Liam are the voices behind Evolving Love Project, a platform that explores non-monogamy and conscious relationships through Abbey’s writing, their podcast, and conversation evenings and retreats in Australia. In our conversation they tell us how being non-monogamous has helped them reconnect with their independence and return to their family life feeling refreshed. They also reveal how t...