Polycurious

Today, Annie Undone opens up about her long-distance Dominant/submissive relationship (where she was the dom) with an asexual partner and what it taught her about intimacy. She also shares her journey from monogamy to polyamory and back again, her experience leaving an abusive marriage and dating someone 14 years younger, and why staying grounded in yourself outside of romantic relationships is so...

Today Aryn and Josh from Couples Therapy discuss their decade-long journey navigating polyamory, including their experience in a triad, Josh’s process of overcoming discomfort with Aryn dating other men, and how they use conflict as an opportunity to model how they want to be treated by each other. Watch Couples Therapy on Paramount : https://www.paramountplus.com/shows/couples-therapy/ Listen to...

Daniella Guimaraes is a non-monogamous matchmaker and founder of Velvet Ties social club. Today she shares her CNM journey, why she prefers starting relationships fully open, and lessons from a past partner whose actions contradicted his words. She also tells us how Velvet Ties is bringing the community together and what you have to do to become a part of it. Learn more about the Croatia trip here...

Lamees and Nick are a monogamous couple who previously tried non-monogamy and decided it wasn't right for them. Today, they discuss their journey and introduce their "relationship fortification" framework for having honest conversations about relationships. Visit the relationship fortification website here : https://www.relationshipfortification.com/ Follow relationship fortification...

Today, I’m sitting down with my dear friends Luna and Leo for what might be the longest and most insightful conversation I’ve ever recorded. Luna shares her journey of leaving a toxic non-monogamous relationship and finding something healthier and more fulfilling with Leo. We dive into their personal triggers, how their past experiences shaped them, and the self-awareness they’ve gained through op...

Ellie and Cole went from both being non-monogamous to just Ellie playing with others. But that doesn’t mean Cole doesn’t benefit! Ellie shares videos and pictures of her encounters and brings the sexual energy into their relationship when she gets home. We dive into how this (some might say hotwifing) arrangement works, the conversations that made it possible, and their journey from playing togeth...

In this final episode of the Mono-poly mini-series, my assumptions about these relationships get seriously challenged! Shy is solo poly, non-hierarchical, and a relationship anarchist, while Gabrielle, who’s monogamous, has a surprisingly open (some might even say poly) mindset. We dive into what non-hierarchy actually looks like in practice and how even monogamous partners can benefit from polyam...

In this episode, I sit down with Cassie and Schuyler, a couple navigating a mono-poly dynamic—Cassie is open to dating others, while Schuyler has remained monogamous (so far!). We dive into their journey of embracing this relationship style, from Cassie overcoming feelings of guilt to how their dynamic has deepened their connection. Resources mentioned in this episode: Patreon Bonus Content: https...

In this episode Seth and I talk about why he’s never lost his confidence as a monogamous man in a non-monogamous relationship. We unpack how we approach "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" (spoiler: it’s not what you think!) and share what we’ve learned about making a mono-open dynamic work. Resources mentioned in this episode: Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth Book a fre...

Today I'm giving you a little sample of a Patreon episode. Feeling NRE (New Relationship Energy) in non-monogamy for the first time? If you're connecting with someone outside your primary relationship, you might freak out a bit (I sure did!). Here’s what I wish I knew: Thinking about your new lover more than your partner is normal and it will likely go away : Infatuation often comes with i...

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In the last episode of the Poly Parents mini-series I spoke to Molly Roden Winter, author of the  New York Times Bestseller  More: A Memoir of Open Marriage . We spoke about her experience overcoming shame as a non-monogamous mother and how opening up her marriage helped her grow and learn about herself. Get Molly's book here ! Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok...

Today, I talk to writer and coach Sarah Stroh ( Monogamish_me on Instagram), a week before giving birth. We speak of how becoming pregnant changed the dating game for her and put her identity as a flirty and adventurous person into question. She also tells us about what led her to decide to co-parent with a friend and how that influenced her partner.  Connect with Sarah: Instagram Substack Follow...

In the second part of my conversation with this couple, we discuss their transition from being open to polyamory, partially due to their three kids leaving for college. They each share their unique methods of dealing with jealousy and other challenging emotions, as well as how they've adapted to these feelings. Finally, they talk about their experience of revealing their non-monogamous relatio...

This couple decided to open up their marriage after two decades together. Today, they share some of the challenges they faced during that transition, such as learning how much to share about their outside relationships with one another. They also tell us how they used Craiglist (believe it or not) to find a match for their first non-monogamous date. Lastly, they give great tips around finding comm...

Abbey and Liam are the voices behind Evolving Love Project, a platform that explores non-monogamy and conscious relationships through Abbey’s writing, their podcast, and conversation evenings and retreats in Australia. In our conversation they tell us how being non-monogamous has helped them reconnect with their independence and return to their family life feeling refreshed. They also reveal how t...

Chamberlin and Michael struggled a lot in their relationship, having periods of opening and closing, cheating and hurting each other and ultimately breaking up. About a month after they broke up, Chamberlin found out that she was pregnant. And for reasons we discuss in the podcast, this pregnancy completely shifted their relationship, for the best. Today we also talk about Michael’s process gettin...

Today I chat with metamours JD and Lorena, as well as their common partner Aviva (a metamour is a partner’s partner.) Even though Aviva and Lorena were dating first, JD has become Aviva’s nesting partner. And today we chat about how even though that transition was a little difficult, Lorena was also very happy for Aviva and JD, someone she knew and really liked. I was left feeling warm from this c...

Today I speak to Sarah Tilley, Founder and CEO of Beautiful Space . Sarah is a psychedelic guide, integration specialist and couple therapist. Today she tells us about her work leveraging the power of psychedelics in relationships. We also talk about what couples might do to increase intimacy even without the use of these substances. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠...

In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey. Be Patient. Go as fast as the slowest person Find the right time to talk Check with your partner before making plans with other people Feeling guilt at first is normal Don’t sugarcoat. Be honest with your partner Determine how much you want to share with your partner Meeting your partner’s partners (metamours) he...

Today I bring to you the second part of my conversation with Natasha + Jeremy, sex coaches and educators behind All The Feels. They give amazing tips around communication in and outside of the bedroom. Jeremy talks about ways that are sexy and respectful to approach women and they both share how to have a threesome that is fun and sexy and where everyone feels safe. We also talk about what one can...

Today I had a wonderful discussion with Natasha and Jeremy, the couple behind All The Feels. They are certified sex coaches, working on empowering people to have better sex lives. Besides coaching, they also educate through their instagram and their porn videos . Today we chat about their journeys taking charge of their sexuality and navigating non-mongamy. Natasha also tells us how she went from...

Today I speak to Jessica Esfandiary, the host of the Open Late podcast. She tells us how she opened up her now 9 year relationship only a few months in, after an ‘accidental’ threesome. We talk about how she went from hiding her open lifestyle even from her closest friends to having a podcast about non-monogamy. She also tells us the reasons why she likes being polyamorous, including seeing a side...

In the second part of our conversation with Jenny and Kris we chat about a time when Jenny fell in love with a secondary partner and had a hard time managing both relationships. Jenny also tells us about the parties she organizes and how it all began as a way to connect the non-monogamous community. Follow ⁠Space Invader Social Club⁠ on Instagram Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠...

In today’s episode Mariah and I chat with Jenny and Kris, who have been together for almost a decade and navigated non-monogamy from the beginning. They tell us everything about their introduction to the non-monogamous world and what they learned in this process.  Follow Space Invader Social Club on Instagram Get tickets to their event Purple Haze on 420   Follow Polycurious on: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠...