Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

Sending our babies out into the mission field can be hard. It can get complicated when they return before expected. We can want them to have a specific experience. Parents can have so many thoughts and feelings that keep us from helping our missionaries as well as is possible. LIsten in to today's episode with Jennie, the LDS mission coach, to hear all about everything!  About my guest: Jennie Dil...

In today's episode Robert Singleton II, MD and I talk about the merger between physical health and mental health, and how we model this for our kids. Robert talks about a new model for fatherhood, how resilience is key to a successful life, and how to spot drug use in your home.  Tune in as we discuss how your home can be one where both physical, mental, and spiritual health are alive and well.  A...

Ask a parent if they love their kid, and they will most likely say, yes. But are we loving our kids as well as possible?  When I ask my clients what they want most in their relationships with their kids, a common desire is that their children know they love them. They often believe that their teens think otherwise, despite the love they feel, and want to know how to get their teen to feel their lo...

Betrayal is hard in marriage, and it can mess with how we see ourselves as parents, our relationships with our kids and self. Today I speak with my friend Jessica, who shares her story of betrayal, how she found peace again, and how she showed up as a mother during and after. It is possible to be a great parent amidst the worst part of your life, and Jessica explains exactly how to do it.  About m...

In todays episode, I chat with teen coach, Joey Mascio about how we can help our teens succeed. We talk about apathy, encouraging our kids, and heros vs. villains when it comes to our parental approach. Joey shares the four distinct arenas that our kids can conquer in their lives, headspace, emotions, relationships, objectives, and how we can best support them while they do it.  You can find Joey...

In today's episode I discuss the nuance of one of the most frequent concerns of parents- Failure. Because this is such a pervasive fear, I run you through a self coaching exercise with these questions: -Where is your parenting focus?  -Do you believe that the things outside of you, that are beyond your control, dictate if you are failing or succeeding? What things do you credit? -How do you know,...

It's common to want to know if your family or something specific happening is normal. In today's episode I'll go over what to think about "normal", why one would ask this question, and how to answer it for yourself.  If you catch yourself looking around to see how you and your teens are measuring up, this episode is for you! To learn more, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

A common struggle that parents come to me with is fighting in their home. "Why does everything have to be an argument?!?" It's a great question, and In this episode of Pivot Parenting I explain why there is so much fighting and what you can do about it. I'll give you specific tools to diffuse situations before they get out of hand, and how to de-escalate the fighting if it's already blown up. If y...

When you hear the word, objectification, it's usually interpreted in a sexual way, and generally pertaining to women. Surely this happens, but it's not the only way that one human can objectify another. I see objectification happen all the time in parenting. Parents often see their children as an extension of themselves, with little regard for their child as an autonomous individual. Once objectif...

A most beloved Christmas story is that of the Grinch stealing Christmas. He makes some extreme changes in a very short amount of time, and they can be applied to parenting, yay! So of course I had to do a Christmas episode on it. Listen in as I break down where the Grinch missed the mark and how he so gracefully self corrected. I've got a simple 4 step process for you to be able to do the same if...

As a parent, your parents, friends and peers ask about your teen. What they're up to, who they're dating, what will happen after college. It's all fine until it's not. Everyone has that family member, every neighborhood has that person. The one that you don't want to find out whatever is happening because you don't want to have that conversation. I get it, and I am here to help.  Listen in as I ex...

"You are not broken." Britt wants this tattooed to her forehead. Listen in as she and I discuss how it's possible to not only overcome lifelong depression and anxiety, but turn them into superpowers. Britt keeps it real as she shares her experiences as both a mother with mental health challenges, and as the teen who overcame dark headspaces, what she has found helpful in her journey, and hope for...

We hold our babies in our arms and picture teaching them all of our favorite things... and they love it! We imagine having deep conversations, fun adventures, and holding the same views of religion, politics, and movies. Some parents get this fantasy, others do not. Many parents I meet have broken hearts over the lack of similarity with their kids. Here's the truth: I can't make your kid like what...

It's easy to think of things we like that we're grateful for, but what about everything else? This Thanksgiving episode is all about being grateful for the things that we may dislike at first glance. Listen in and see if you can find more to be grateful for in your parenting and life.  To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Not all parenting is created equal. No parent is completely one way or another. Listen in as I explain my findings on how most parenting presents in any given situation. Awareness is the first step in creating change. Are you ready? 

A common self judgement that I hear from parents is their lack of being present with the family. They can't tune in when their kid is talking, they withdraw from social settings, they see their brain off in the weeds and get really frustrated. It happens too often, they don't know what is happening or how to make it stop, and it's taking a toll. In this episode, Lindsay and I break down the what,...

If you're doing your best, but fear is never far from you- If you are nit-picking yourself and your kids- If you know that something's got to give, but can't seem to get there- ...then this episode is for you, and with so much love! To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit heatherfrazier.com

If you know, you know. Parenting and divorce come with their own specific set of struggles. Tune in as I break it down for those going through a divorce, or those who want to support a loved one going through divorce. To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In today's episode, I chat with my mentor, coach, and friend, Tyson Bradley. We discuss self concept as a parent, how to gain desirable qualities with ease and efficiency, and how to tell the difference between what is relevant to that process and what you can let go of. If you're looking to become a better version of yourself, this episode is for you! About my guest: Tyson Bradley is a father, hu...

The other day I was meeting with a prospective client for the first time. The issue at hand was readily apparent. I know this because I suffered from the same issue years ago, and many of my current clients have the same struggles. It is most basic and human. Listen in to learn how you might be part of the majority, and what to do about it if you are. To learn more about working with me, please vi...

It's easy to get upset when your teen turns to other adults with their listening ears, while discounting all of your wisdom. This doesn't have to be a problem and you haven't failed. Let's talk it out. To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com.

We get what we get, but we can throw a fit! Or avoid, or talk it out, or go for a run, or turn to food, alcohol, instagram, shopping, porn, etc. In parenting, things happen. Some of these things are around us, like school and jobs. Some are people we have relationships with, like our spouse, kids, our parents and siblings… they sometimes like to have opinions and desires that don't align with our...

In today's episode, Glenn and I discuss all things husbands and coaching. Glenn gives practical advice for wives who have found coaching and love it, but they can't get their husbands on board. There's a lot more nuance than you'd think, and we go over all of it. If you're loving the skills you're learning, but your spouse isn't so sure, this is a must listen episode. About my guest: Glenn coaches...

"Just tell me what to do." I hear it all the time. You read the books, listen to the experts, ask your mom and friends, and are still confused, frustrated and nothing is changing. What is missing?! Your ability to recognize and follow your intuition. Mother does know best, let me show you how... To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Between you and your kids, you and your partner, you and yourself... who has the last say, who is right, and how do you get people to see your point and change their ways!? Let's talk about all of the power struggles that present while raising teens. To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com