Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

Tune in as I highlight 10 common tricks our brains pull on us that sabotage our best parenting. We all do them, but don't worry, once you learn to recognize them you'll never unwittingly fall victim to them again. Knowing whats what is the biggest hurdle to overcome in being your best parenting self. I've got you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Being wrong is bad, right? nope, it's magic.  Come with me on a journey of finding peace and freedom in the simple embrace of one basic truth. It will immediately and forever positively effect the way you interact with your children and self. If things aren't shifting and you're about to throw in the towel when it comes to your teens, this could be exactly what's missing. I've got you. xoxo To lea...

Feeling triggered? Life and teens have a way of lighting up our nervous systems. Our brains are very complex beautiful helps to life- until they aren't. In today's episode I break down how we can use our brain's instincts to help us rather than leave us in the, post-yelling (or passive aggressive, or totally avoiding them and everyone) slump of shame.  If you've ever thought: "why did I just do th...

  All of the things we don't want our teens doing: Drugs, sex, porn, suicidal ideation, cheating, lying, vaping.... there's a common thing parents tend to say. Repeatedly. "How did I NOT know!??"  There are specific reasons parents do this and effects this has. Tune in to understand and therefore have more power and peace in your parenting.  To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me...

With kids, a spouse, a household to run, work, friends and family, it's easy to feel like there isn't enough of us to go around.  We want to be there for our teens, we also have so much going on that we don't want to drop the ball on. We're falling into bed, dead on our feet, not having done it all, feeling defeated.  Tune in to todays Pivot Parenting episode as I talk about coaching so many paren...

Is modesty a key player in your home? Is it what they're wearing? Is it how they act? Are modesty and sexuality linked together? Let's discuss all things teens, modesty, sexuality, appearance, and how to parent through all of it.  It can be tricky, as many adults are uncomfortable around these topics, but they're important to help our teens navigate. I never shy away from an awkward discussion, so...

Parents like to help. Sometimes it's helpful and sometimes it's not. Want to know what makes the difference? Listen to this weeks episode to find out. It's the deciding factor for if the help will actually help or hinder.  To learn more about parenting your teen and to preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com xoxo

We say we want one thing- Love, kindness, quality relationships... But sometimes our behaviors give us away. It's easy to prioritize chores, grades, and obedience above what we think we want. There's an easy explanation as to why we do this. There's also a simple fix.  I've got a simple exercise for you that will expose if your parenting actions align with your values. Want to make 2024 your best...

We want them there. It won't be the same, plus it's awful to have to tell Grandma that they didn't want to come. But they didn't and now there's contention.  Nobody wins in this situation, but it doesn't have to be like this. Today I'll walk you through other options, offer you better understanding around this common phenomenon, and generally help make the holidays a little better when it comes to...

We all know that our money has limits, so why do we think we should have limitless emotional strength and spending? Today I want to teach you a new way of looking at budgets. It's got nothing to do with money and everything to do with having reasonable expectations for yourself.  Lost your cool? Have no emotional bandwidth by the end of the day? Feeling drained and hating yourself for not being at...

Family life is wonderful, and that includes times where we want to cry, scream, and throw in the towel. Mental health, physical health, and tough situations can happen to everyone. In Today's episode I'll walk you through the three most common mistakes parents add needless pain and suffering on top of a hard situation. I will also talk you through the only two places you need to be in for maximum...

Parent's find out what I do and ask me how to get their teen to: like cleaning their room, turn in homework, help out, be nice, stop lying... they want to know how to fix the problem that is their teen's choices. I get it. I was that parent several years ago.  When we see our teen's as something to be fixed, we parent in a very specific way, and it's not so helpful. Tune in to learn more and how t...

The holidays are wonderful and also we're so glad when the busy, chaotic hum is over. But what if we could enjoy them at a more measured pace so that we didn't have to take that exhausted sigh of relief when they're over?  It's possible, and Kristen is here to tell us exactly how! If you're feeling the holiday overwhelm, this episode is for you. No more snipping at the kids because they don't want...

A special surprise for you, today! I'm writing a book, How I FIxed My Teen , and this is the trailer! I'm so excited to introduce you to my baby that I've been working on this past year. We're set to publish in early 2024 and you'll want to preorder. Visit me at  heatherfrazier.com to get on the list. I'll be mailing out signed copies from my website, and even giving you a book club deal if you ge...

Is it a sneaky hack like, the magic words that get them to like chores? Could it be how to never be ruffled by their harsh words? Perhaps we're missing the key to understanding teen behavior? What if it's a secret consequence that they actually respond favorably to? A way of saying it that they don't get mad at? So many confused, exhausted parents ask me what they're missing, why it's so exhaustin...

In today's episode I speak with marriage expert, Aimée Gianni. We discuss how to be on the same side of the table with your partner on several pointed struggles parents often face: - how to see eye to eye when you disagree on phone/video game/curfew/dating rules -how to 'fight' in front of your kids (show them healthy ways of disagreeing) -how to be a unified force in your parenting when you don't...

"And the truth shall set you free..."  It's applicable to parenting as well. I've got two formulas that teach us how truth in parenting is the best way forward to where we want to be. Having a poker face for your family isn't the best approach if you want a close relationship.  Vulnerability + Truth = Intimacy/connection Knowledge + Skilled application = Wisdom I'm going to walk you through 4 poin...

"I'm over it." "I give up!" "I have no idea what I'm doing, so I make it worse." "I can't keep doing this." "They're killing me." "I'm just avoiding them until they move out." "I just want to run away/disappear/hide all day..." Its burnout, and there's a logical explanation and fix for it.  Raising kids is so wonderful and terrible and the best opportunity to grow ourselves. And sometimes we're re...

We've heard words like enmeshment or codependency within a peer to peer relationship, but did you know that they can also be at play with us and our teens? It messes with us when they don't want to play along with our ideas of what the family should be like, or how they should lead their lives.  When we misattribute who's responsible for creating our feelings and who needs to change before they ca...

  "You can have it all", we're told, as if it were the best prize ever. So we shoot for it and try to hold all the balls in the air and beat ourselves up when we discover that it's hard to live up to society's standards. Today, Monica and I talk about perfectionism in our parenting, how it affects our kids, how to identify unhealthy tendencies in our kids, and when they point out our mistakes. (So...

Okay, in today's episode I keep it real with the fact that sometimes we just want to be on vaca, far from everyone... including our kids. (Ohh! I said it. And without feeling any mom guilt or shame, to boot.) We all have human monents, and I'm here to normalize that fact. So sit back, push play, and prepare to feel better about not loving parenting your kids every second of every day- no guilt att...

Lying, vaping, cussing, fighting, and being obnoxious in class. Parents get a call or email from their teens' teachers and the shame sets in. Gossiping, bullying, and causing neighborhood backlash and you want to hide under a rock.  Our teens do stuff that we don't appreciate and we try everything to get them to knock it off. Yet they persist. Good news, your kid isn't bad and you aren't a terribl...

Having heard it all- a few times over, there are repeat parenting offenders that never end well when you're trying to parent your teens. Listen in as I outline ten of the most popular such as contempt, control, and power struggles. Also, these ten common pain points often come up when trying to negotiate things like phone rules, curfews, dating, and other points which parents and teens need some k...

Do you have a hard time knowing what is true? You're not alone. We tend to not want to see what IS, our brains spin tails about future truths, and others project thier judgments on us like truths. All the while, we parents are trying to love and teach our kids the best we can. With so much confusion, it's easy to not know which end is up when it comes to truth, even when we are interenested in kno...

What do you think about being selfish? In todays episode, I outline the two ways we can be a selfish parent and where each one leads. I also outline five key pieces of how "selfish" plays out in ideal parenting.  Don't worry, you're not going to feel bad about about the time you spend sitting in your car or needing a break every once in awhile- I've got a fresh persepective for you that will help...