Parenting Today's Teens

In this episode, Mark Gregston tackles some more of the toughest, most heartfelt questions sent in by listeners. From managing frustration and anger as a parent, to navigating complex family dynamics like custody battles and divorce, Mark shares practical, compassionate advice. He also addresses concerns around screen time, gaming rules and the challenges grandparents face when supporting teens st...

Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how parents can wisely talk about politics with their teens. They emphasize that while politics can be divisive, parents shouldn’t avoid the topic — teens need guidance to think critically and biblically rather than absorb culture’s extremes. Parents should model respectful dialogue, listen more than lecture and allow their teens to proces...

Today, Mark Gregston explains that parents must look beyond their teen’s behavior to understand the deeper heart issues driving it. Drawing from Proverbs 3:21–24, and a moving story about a past Heartlight student, he illustrates that a child’s anger or rebellion often masks pain, loss, or a longing for love and value. He reminds parents that all behavior — good or bad — is the visible expression...

Every troubled teen has a story that goes much deeper than their behavior shows. Behind acting out, running away, or self-destruction, there's often a world of private pain and confusion. Today, Mark Gregston sits down with two teens from Heartlight whose journeys reveal how struggles like addiction, grief and low self-worth can drive choices that seem shocking to outsiders. For one young lady...

Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how many parents lose their personal identity by becoming overly consumed with their children’s lives. While involvement is vital, Mark emphasizes that parents must maintain balance — nurturing their marriage, friendships and personal interests so their sense of purpose isn’t tied solely to parenting. They remind us that when a parent’s en...

In this episode, Mark Gregston draws on over three decades of experience to tackle the questions parents are most desperate to have answered. From navigating trust issues after years of monitoring a teen’s tech usage to finding healthy ways to motivate an unenthusiastic senior, Mark offers down-to-earth advice rooted in real-life stories. Whether you’re dealing with curfew battles, shifting relati...

Sexual abuse leaves deep scars that affect a teen’s safety, relationships and self-worth. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd share both personal and ministry experiences, emphasizing how abuse creates lasting feelings of loss, shame and confusion. Parents are urged to respond without blame or anger, instead creating a safe environment where their child feels valued and heard, while...

Today, Mark Gregston reflects on Matthew 11:28–30, emphasizing the need for homes — especially grandparents’ homes — to be places of rest and refuge for weary teens. He contrasts lifeless or overly rigid environments with welcoming spaces where kids feel safe, accepted and free to be imperfect. Mark encourages grandparents to design a warm setting, create a positive atmosphere, establish clear but...

So much changes when teens and parents start talking — and really listening — to each other. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight students who open up about the struggles that kept them silent and the pain that came from not feeling heard at home. Both share how a lack of open communication fueled their anxiety, rebellion and sense of isolation. Now, through counseling and new ex...

Divorce deeply impacts teens, often leaving them with feelings of abandonment, loss, guilt and confusion. Mark Gregston explains that many teens internalize divorce, believing they were the cause or feeling like life will never return to normal. These unresolved emotions can manifest in isolation, grief and strained relationships. Parents can help their teens heal by spending intentional time with...

In today's Q&A episode, Mark addresses heartfelt questions from parents and grandparents facing the everyday struggles and big transitions that come with raising teens. From navigating financial support for adult children choosing different paths, to dealing with rebellious behavior, loss and the complexities of blended families, Mark offers seasoned advice grounded in empathy and real-wor...

Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the importance of preparing your children for adulthood before they reach their late teens. Parents should gradually give their children responsibility — encouraging jobs, decision-making and independence — so they don’t become dependent adults living at home without purpose. Mark warns that too much provision can quickly turn into enabling if parents conti...

Listen in as Mark Gregston shares a personal story and scripture to illustrate the importance of perspective. While he complained about having the worst seats in the house at a concert, his granddaughter reminded him they were actually the best because you could see everything. He connects this lesson to parenting, emphasizing that many teens today lack perspective and rely more on peers than pare...

Running away isn’t just about escaping home — it’s often a sign of deeper issues beneath the surface. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens who share what led them to leave home and the pain that fueled their choices. Through candid conversations, both young ladies reveal the impact of unstable family dynamics, the pain of isolation and the courage it takes to face their str...

Join us today as Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LeFleur explore whether dating is right for teens. The three discuss how dating can provide valuable opportunities for teens to learn social skills, understand the opposite sex and begin shaping their ideas about future relationships. While parents often worry about issues like trust, influence and premature sexual involvement, the hosts...

In today's episode, Mark tackles some more of the toughest questions that parents are facing in today’s world. From navigating strict parenting styles and the ongoing battle over technology, to addressing issues of identity, sexuality and peer bullying, Mark offers practical advice rooted in decades of experience working with teens and their families. He also shares insights on setting boundar...

Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore why listening is one of the most powerful tools parents can use with their teens. Teens don’t always need more lectures — they need safe spaces where their voices matter. When parents ask questions, stop correcting and truly listen, teens feel valued and are more willing to open up. This atmosphere of understanding not only strengthens the relationship, but...

Mark Gregston shares the most effective way to influence a teen — by spending intentional, consistent time together. He encourages parents to set aside weekly one-on-one moments starting around age 13 to build trust and open communication before conflict arises. These times should focus on listening, creating a safe space and being authentic, not lecturing or correcting. Over time, these consisten...

Every teen faces pressures, but some feel compelled to hide behind a mask — covering up pain or anxiety with risky behaviors or a perfect facade. On today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens whose struggles took them down very different paths, but revealed their deep need for acceptance and authentic connection. For Santana, it was tough to take off his "mask." Despite alwa...

Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore how parents can guide teens away from foolish choices and toward wisdom. Teens often repeat negative behavior when the pleasure outweighs the pain, so parents must set consequences strong enough to spark change. But it’s not just about stopping foolishness — teens also need positive direction and opportunities to grow. When parents help their kids see the r...

In this episode, Mark Gregston takes on some of the most pressing and sensitive questions parents face in their journey with teens. From handling a daughter's unexpected relationship choices to supporting adopted children with behavioral challenges, Mark offers practical advice grounded in wisdom, empathy and experience. Listeners will find guidance on balancing discipline with understanding,...

Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why it’s essential for parents to live out their core beliefs while raising teens. Parents need to know which values are nonnegotiable and hold firm, while also allowing flexibility as their children grow and form their own perspectives. Conflict is inevitable, but it can lead to meaningful dialogue and deeper understanding when handled well. The key is mov...

Today, Mark highlights the danger of perfectionism in ministry, parenting and life. He shares how early experiences working under a demanding pastor led to burnout, a strained marriage and the constant pressure to perform. He connects that same perfectionist mindset to parenting, where children often misinterpret well-intentioned encouragement as criticism or impossible standards. He reminds us th...

Behind every rebellious act or risky decision, there’s often a story of shame that teenagers carry alone. Shame can trap teens in a cycle — fueling destructive behaviors and pushing them further from the people who love them most. In today’s episode, Mark welcomes two young men from Heartlight, who bravely open up about what drove them to self-medicate, rebel and run from home. Through honest refl...

Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss a difficult but very important topic: teen suicide. Mark emphasizes that parents must pay close attention and listen more than judge, watching for sudden withdrawal, changes in sleep/eating, talk of hopelessness or social posts that sound like a cry for help, as these behaviors must be taken seriously. Teens need safe chances to speak honestly and sh...