Parenting The Adlerian Way

Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach for ambitious and overwhelmed women.  Sound familiar?  In this podcast we talk about her personal journey as a cancer survivor and how the cultural norms for motherhood have to be challenged.  Being a good mother should not kill us.  Listen as Heather shares advice for how to make parenting a beautiful spiritual journey instead.    Here’s where you can keep up...

Raffi is a music legend.  He has been touching the lives of children with his music for 5 decades.  Just over 10 years ago, he founded the Raffi Foundation for Child Honouring.  We discuss its mission and how parents can learn online through the foundation's parenting course, and MORE!    Here are links to the topics we discussed and more:  Raffi’s new single and video, “Song For Healing” – video,...

Talk to our children about the news of mass children’s graves at residential schools.    Q1. Do I monitor the money my teen is earning at his job?  Q2. My 12 yr daughter does not want to take a 3 week vacation with dad (divorced 10 yrs). Q3. My 23 yr daughter is living at home. Her 18yr old BF has basically moved in here. They never go to his place.     Raising Financially Fit Kids – By Joline God...

Ria Simon is a Registered Early Childhood Educator and worked 6 years in the classroom. She taught all ages but mainly preschoolers.  In this episode, we chat about the relationship between parents and their children’s teachers, and why communication is so important. We discuss what is too much, too little and how the pandemic impacted our ability to connect.  Check out more about Ria and the reso...

Q1. My 18 daughter has come out to us but not her 15 yr old sister. Can we tell her? Q2.  My 3yr old’s grama is dying and I don’t know how to tell her.  Q3. My 4 yr old undoes his seatbelt in the car   https://alysonschafer.com/home-responsibilities-by-age/ June 22nd Power Struggles webinar link for details and registration here .  Home responsibilities by age is here :  Support for parents of LGB...

Q1. 1 of 3 triplets has sensory issues and getting her dressed is making us late for work. Q2.  9yr old daughter prefers to be topless, how do I get her to cover up without body shaming? Q3. 15yr daughter is defiant and I am afraid to DROP the rope – but it worked!    Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonsch...

Today, I interview another one of our Adlerian greats, Dr Jon Sperry.  Jon is a multi-generational Adlerian like myself.  He joined me on the podcast to talk about how he uses drumming in a variety of ways and settings to build community, social interest and co-operation.  Trust me, you’ll want to dust off your bongo drums as soon as you hear this.   Check out more about Jon on his website .  Or a...

So excited to bring you a great convo with my Adlerian colleague Calvin, about his book that was launched this month. I had an advance copy and was blown away! Calvin is a Senior Associate at Travelers Rest Counseling Associates in Travelers Rest, SC, where he counsels young adults, couples, and parents. He regularly lectures on Adlerian psychology at regional universities, and facilitates trainin...

Q1. 2.5 twins girls peeing in the park Q2. How to heal a broken relationship with your child Do you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my webinar May 18th on Parenting Strategies for Tweens and Teens https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/parenting-strategies-for-teens-and-tweens-tickets-153343535643?af...

Fionnuala gave up her teaching job to become a full time Adlerian Parent Educator and now has expanded to train educators too.  Originally from Ireland, and working in Germany, Fionnuala shares her journey and how others might seek out this fulfilling career, or at least explore more about Adlerian psychology outside of just a parenting class.    You can check out training programs with Fionnuala...

Q1. 2.5 yo tantrums in public on way home from daycare Q2. 7yo whistles just to bug us all.  Q3. 9yo having sleep issues since the pandemic Q4. How to get child to do homework without both of us ending up in tears?   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Frank Walton is an internationally acclaimed and well respected Adlerian psychologist with more than 40 years’ experience working with families in private practice in Columbia, South Carolina.   He has taught Adlerian family counselling practices around the globe. He has produced and published many resources, articles and manuals on teens and teen suicide. He was the psychological consultant fo...

Q1. 5&7 yo refuse to go upstairs to bed when it’s 8:30 bedtime.  Q2. Son says “I am dumb” or “I am stupid” when he makes a mistake Q3. 9 yo daughter says she is not good enough and is a perfectionist Q4. My child has broken my trust and now I find myself ( wrongly) going through their room to “catch them in a lie”.   Q5. 14yo daughter used to love camp, couldn’t go last year, now refuses to go thi...

Another great interview with NYT best-selling author Jess Lahey discussing her new book! Jess shares how her own journey from addiction to sobriety that led her to want to dig into the research on how best to parent children to prevent them from becoming addicts.  Her book offers up the answers!    Buy The Addiction Inoculation book here.     LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b8...

Michele is an educational psychologist and author of 25 parenting books, including Unselfie. She is an internationally renowned speaker and media mainstay. In our discussion Michele explains just how short sited our modern parenting practices are. She explains how we set up our kids to be strivers, but they eventually fail and collapse. Instead she instructs us about the parenting practices to rai...

Emma Brown, an author and investigative journalist for the Washing Post, perhaps best known for being responsible for bringing the Dr Christine Blasey Ford / Bett Kavanaugh story to light. In this episode of the podcast, I chat with Emma about the surprisingly scary issues facing boys today.  We discuss boys as silent victims of sexual assault who are not taken seriously; why we should drop the te...

Q1. 12yo thinks he should have full access on his phone and is disrespectful. Q2. 7yo hits when he is mad. Worried he’ll be out of control at 13yo. Q3. How do I teach child to self-validate instead of looking outward for approval?   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michaeleen is a correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk. When her daughter Rosy was 3 years old, she bundled her up and left San Francisco to live amongst three ancient cultures to experience their parenting first hand.  She spent time with the Maya of the Yucatan, the Inuit of the Artic Circle and the Hadzabe in Tanzania.  In this interview we discuss the pitfalls of Western “WEIRD” parenting and th...

Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode.  In this episode I referred to a great book on encouragement:   https://www.amazon.ca/Skills-Encouragement-Bringing-Yourself-Others/dp/1574440047   ( I suspect it is crazy expensive because it’s out of print.)  another great book is:  https://www.amazon.ca/Encouraging-Children-Lea...

Amy Lang has been a sex educator for 25 years.  She has heard it all!  In this episode, Amy leads us through how and what to say about sex at each of age and stage of development.   Amy has also offered up a ton of resources to parents:  Books: Find all of these books and more  here. It’s NOT The Stork (2 - 4)  It’s SO Amazing (4 - 11 )  It’s Perfectly Normal (11+ - and you if you are feeling rust...

Got a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode.  Q1.  8 year old refuses to apologize  Q2.  Divorced w/ shared custody, but teens want to see friends instead of uphold the parenting agreement to be with me outside the city Q3.  Improve my patience levels  Check out my Feb 23rd workshop on sibling rivalry Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/...

Dr Belangee is an Adlerian clinician in private practice in Canton Georgia where she specializes in treating eating disorders from an Adlerian perspective.  In this episode we talk about social media’s impact on body image, family factors and personality traits of people who develop anorexia or bulimia, the difference between the two disorders, signs to watch for, preventative measures in your par...

Q1. Guilty about 3 year old being left in the dust, as parent is consumed with demands of helping 5 and 7yo with on-line school. Q2. 10yr son won’t take responsibility for his actions and just blames others Q3. My 13 yr daughter was confident as a child, but now fears what others will think of her. Q4. How much freedom should I give a 13yr old if they are hanging with people who vape and smoke pot...

Q1. Helping teens stay connected during COVID winter inside Q2. Left Canada for Costa Rica so my 15yo would go outside – still won’t  Q3. 13yr old finds world “loud and scary” after this long in her small bubble Q4. How to decide to pull a disengaged student from on-line schooling Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lauren is a sociologist, youth advocate and award winning educator.  In this episode, Lauren shares some of essential skills that students are developing right now that will be lead to later success after the pandemic.   Lauren talks about finding the balance being supportive while also nurturing independence as kids learn to do school remotely.  Drop the guilt,  get realistic, model healthy limit...