Parenting The Adlerian Way

Q1. Should we travel the world or enrol in SK? They have not had much socializing. Q2. Autocratic dad thinks his way is right, because older brother doesn’t bully his sister when dad is around to handle things his way. Q3. 6 yr old girl says “YOU’RE EMBARRASSING ME” whenever I compliment her.  Q4. 9 yr old has angry outburst (I model this too) and she is losing friends for being bossy.   Do you ha...

Tim is a prominent Adlerian, professor, and president of The North American Society for Adlerian Psychology (NASAP). He is also father to Jacob who has CHARGE syndrome.  In this episode, we talk about his own parenting and the work he does with parents who have children with disabilities and the application of Adlerian principles.   Tim and I also discussed the upcoming NASAP conference in Virgini...

Jamie Scrimgeour specializes in stepfamily dynamics. She hosts the KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast. In this episode we discuss the challenges of step parenting and how the changes begins with us.    You can find Jamie below:  On FB at www.facebook.com/scrimgeourjamie Or on IG www.jamiescrimgeour.com/jamiescrimgeour The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast – www.jamiescrimgeour.com/kickassstepmompodcast Get Jamie’s “...

Jim Bitter is one of our most esteemed Adlerians.  Because I had so many families asking questions about siblings who don’t get along, I wanted Jim to help unpack this family dynamic more deeply.    Jim’s website is www.jamesrobertbitter.com Jim also wants listeners to know about The North American Society for Adlerian Psychology ( NASAP) of which Jim is a diplomate and post president:  www.alfred...

Q1. 7yr old boy goes from sweet to angry and explosive with pushover mom Q2. Husband says our democratic approaches don’t work for teen who needs stricter rules re: eating Q3. 11 yr boy constantly blurts and talks over or repeats what he sees in the movie we are watching Q4. 4 year old lying by telling stories that are not true and sneaking candy to school.   Do you have a parenting question for m...

Q1. Boy yells at grandfather for eating “his” chips.  Q2.  4 year old has clothing sensitivities  Q3. 18 yr old daughter uses my toiletries and refuses to wash her clothes. Q4. 13yr son hates school and refuses to talk about with me.    Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com   Hosted on Acast. See...

In this episode, I speak with the most qualified person there is to answer parents tech questions:  Amber Mac, a mom and the nation’s leading tech expert.  We’ll talk about screen time, appropriate ages for apps, tracking and blocking apps, useful apps parents should know about, mental health impact from being online and more.  You can follow Amber on social media at @ambermac everywhere.  Check o...

Register for my upcoming webinar “Parenting Strategies for Tweens or Teens” here Q1. 15 yr old girl, A student, caught smoking e-cigs in the school bathroom Q2. 3.5 yr old boy, talkative at home, but won’t say hello / good-bye to others Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for...

Got stressed kids?  Check out my convo with child and adolescent psychotherapist Katie Hurley. She has 20+ years working with kids and used that experience to compiled her latest book called “The Stress Buster Workbook For Kids” to pull together all the tools, skills and techniques she has gathered for her clients over the years into one great book.  While it is written for children 4-11 it’s clea...

Terry Kottman is the creator of Adlerian Play Therapy.  In this episode we discuss what play therapy is, why Adlerian play therapy is different from other modalities, what types of children benefit from our work, what a session might look like, how gaming is integral to the process and so much more.    You can learn more about Terry here:  www.adlerianplaytherapy.com http://leapt.arlo.co/w/   Here...

Q1. 4yr girl leaves tables and sneaks food from fridge – do I lock it? Q2. 4.5yr boy can’t settle and wait in line at JK Q3. 11yr son refused to leave car.  We sat for an hour.  Did he win the power struggle? Q4. 15yr son is getting angry with my rule that his phone has to be in my room at night.   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my mont...

Feeding the family can be a chore.  Planning, cooking, table manners and picky eaters all present challenges, so I invited Canada’s Master of Mealtime, Claire Tansey, onto the podcast to give parents tips and tricks to not only navigate these challenges, but also to see the importance of happy meal times and teaching your own children to be inspired in the kitchen.  Listen in!    You can follow Cl...

I am so excited to introduce you to Ned Johnson, co-author of  What Do You Say: How to talk with kids to build motivation, stress tolerance and a happy home . Written during COVID but useful anytime. I met Ned years ago when he attended a presentation of mine in MD for the Adlerian organization in the Washington DC area known as PEP ( Parent Encouragement Program). Ned and Bill Stixrud have writte...

Could it be that your “monkey child” who annoyingly hangs upside down from the furniture is actually not seeking your attention, but is a kid solving their own vestibular issues? Sabrina Adair (M. Sc. O.T.) discusses her new book “Understanding a Child The Occupational Therapy Way; Recognizing and Communicating the Unique Potential of a Child.  Sabrina is not your every day occupational therapist!...

Q1. How do I deal with perfectionism? Beats themselves up if they don’t win, get a good grade.  Q2. How do you make a kid more organized? Q3. Getting your child started on a clothing allowance. Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. My 14 yr old lies and we don’t want her dating  Q2. What are the signs of anxiety and how can we help kids manage? Q3. How do we manage FOMO in the age of social media?   Centre for Humane Technology:  https://www.humanetech.com Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast....

Jane and Chip just launched their co-authored book “Positive Discipline in the Montessori Classroom”.   We discuss the shared philosophies of Adler and Montessori, and the need to incorporate a consistent classroom management plan. You can find more about Chip here:   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chip-delorenzo-53568a10/ FB:  https://www.facebook.com/pdformontessori You can find out more...

Q1. 5yr old son is biting in kindergarten class  Q2. 3.5yr son keeps sitting on his 5 mo baby brother  Q3. 3.5yr daughter makes shy / anxious with strangers  (esp. men)   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Encouragement is one of the main tenets of Adler psychology, so I called on my friend and colleague Pascale Brady, Parent Educator and Certified Life Coach to help unpack this complicated word while sharing our personal stories.   You can find Pascale here:   https://www.facebook.com/Pascale. Brady. TheChallengeCoach www.linkedin.com/in/TheChallengeCoach https://twitter.com/PascaleBrady https://ww...

Q1. Best way to help kids wind down after school and prevent them from meltdowns. Q2. Help with creating consequences versus punishment for when a kid is turning off the bathroom light and jumping on the bed.    Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...

End of summer is a common time for parents to decide to end their marriage.  Family Law Lawyer Nathalie Boutet is my guest this week to discuss the different options available to parents as they move through separation and divorce.   There is much that parents don’t know!  I learned a lot myself.  Here’s where you can connect with Nathalie:  LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/nathalieboutetlawyer   Twi...

Q1. My boyfriend’s kids are not vaccinated and not following protocols which puts my kids in danger.  Q2. How can I help my 14yo and 16yo discover themselves and their career / job skills?  Q3. What are your thoughts on setting boundaries and guidelines for dating?  Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschaf...

Kathy Buckworth has spent the last 20 years speaking and writing books about modern motherhood.  Now that she is a grandmother, she’s on to new subject matter and has launched her own radio show and “grandfluencer” brand “ The Go To Grama”.   Come listen to how grandparenting is in 2020 and this important relationship.  Here’s where you can keep up with Kathy:  www.kathybuckworth.com Linkedin Kath...

Q1. 15 yr son used $2K money we put in his savings to pay for uber eats and games.  Q2. Grade 3 daughter is clingy and likely won’t want to go back to school in the fall.  Books on teaching children financial literacy:  Financially Fit Kids   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast....

Q1. 9yr old can’t explain why she is crying Q2. 9yr old says “don’t cheer for me” when I say “way to go – you did it” Q3. 9 &13 yr old boys who complain about nothing being fair between them Q4. 9 &13 yr old boys who constantly fight and bicker  Q5. 9 & 13 yr old boys with a dad who is a bad role model and the marriage is not working Q6. 13 yr old boy who is sneaking Aug 4th Do’s and Don’ts of Man...