Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to Episode 134 where we explore why our early experiences with boundary violations can imprint us to not let people in later.  In this episode we talk about an important aspect of the ability to be vulnerable, and that is all about our first experiences. The boundary issues that happened meant that our sense of self was threatened, our sense of emotional safety and trust and our ability to...

Welcome to Episode 133 where we start the new year exploring why healthy connection with others is a core need, and how it isn't easy for everyone to establish. In this episode we talk about how this month's focus will be on connection, why we need it, what healthy looks like and what is doesn't, and why even though it's so important, many of us are not that great at it. So, all month we're going...

Welcome to Episode 132 where we look ahead to what we want our life to look like in the coming year or so. In this episode we identify what we want to either begin working on or continue to work on so we can reach our goal of becoming the best version of ourselves.  Then we do the hard part: evaluating how ready we are to truly do this, as well as ways to get back on the horse if we fall off.   Th...

Welcome to Episode 131 where we take a moment to do a year-end retrospective of our life. In this episode we take a moment and look back on how your year has been…from things you are proud of, to the difficult things and all the learning, practicing, realizing and coming to terms with as you walk along. We benefit from the self-care of reflection, validation, and honesty as we evaluate what's happ...

Welcome to Episode 130 where we explore what it means to actually practice self-care during the holidays.    In this episode we talk about different ways to take care of ourselves as we are now in the holiday season and the coming to the end of another year.  We focus on how you can create a set of intentions for your self-care, along with ways to have an ongoing assessment of how that's going – t...

Welcome to Episode 129 where we talk to Joseph Corella, Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher.   Joseph Corella  is a Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher.   Using his dance, theatre, and fitness background, he has traveled the globe, spreading this lov...

Welcome to Episode 128 where we explore how being intentional helps us to feel grounded and empowered. In this episode we talk about being focused on who you want to be and what you intend for yourself this holiday season.  Being prepared and getting back to yourself, means taking your power back from maybe years of being compliant, of being enmeshed with family or others and losing who you are ov...

Welcome to Episode 127 where we talk about going home for the upcoming holidays well…different.  In this episode we talk about how this is the time of year we may be "going home" in a sense – seeing family and old friends perhaps after a long time.  With Covid, that may well be most people's reality and so this may be a big adjustment.  I have many clients who have felt secretly relieved that they...

Welcome to Episode 126 where we explore how to embrace the letting go that's necessary when we outgrow relationships. In this episode we talk about one of the "side effects" of growing and changing, and taking our lives in a different direction.  When we heal, we want better, and so we begin to need better in our environments to support this new information.  Our bar gets raised in terms of how we...

Welcome to Episode 125 where we talk about how to set boundaries with family and friends around the holidays. In this episode we explored some things to consider about setting healthy boundaries for yourself this holiday season with the people you care about. Holidays can be wrought with expectations, perfectionism and guilt.   We explored honoring what you need, how to detach with love and allow...

Welcome to Episode 124 where we explore the concept of mentally preparing for your self-care around the holidays. In this episode we focus on the upcoming holidays and how it can bring us face to face with some great relationships where we can practice our new behaviors, and not so great situations where we definitely will need to practice new behaviors. We start the month off with an overview of...

Welcome to Episode 123 where wrap up the month focusing on what changes you can begin making right away. In this episode we explore the how and the why behind the basic foundational pieces we must look at if we want to create sustained change.  We identify specific tasks we need to complete in order to make it happen, and we need patience and perseverance to keep working it through. I would not do...

Welcome to Episode 122 where we have an important conversation with Donna Tashjian, Life Mastery and Health Coach about how to turn your life around. In this episode we get to talk to Donna, who is a down-to-earth inspirational speaker. She has been speaking and coaching for over 20 years. She is the founder of Vibrant Living International, author and host/founder of the  "You Were Designed for Gr...

Welcome to Episode 121 where we explore the areas we most need to look at when we are focusing on changing for the better. In this episode we get down into identifying some important areas to look at so we can see if we need to work on some things to become healthier.  These areas I believe hold the components for a confident, healthy self.  They are also crucial if we want to have healthy relatio...

Welcome to Episode 120 where we begin this month by exploring what it means to be truly ready to make big changes in your life. In this episode we talk about when we reach that point in our adult life when we get serious about needing things to be different. Maybe we are hitting an age milestone, a big change or loss, or we simply can no longer ignore the symptoms that show us things aren't ok. Al...

Welcome to Episode 119 where we wrap up this month focusing in on the biggest confidence builder of all:  Integrity. In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become more honest and open.  Being assertive requires that we are first proud of who we are, and more certain of our truth before we...

Welcome to Episode 118 where we look at how commitment and follow through create congruence and self-confidence. In this episode we talk about a very important aspect of assertiveness and self-confidence, and that is the concept of congruence.  Risking commitment to what matters and following through on those commitments to raise self-esteem and bring a greater level of trust in your relationships...

Welcome to Episode 117 where we explore how motivation is connected to holding onto who you are, and not losing yourself in your relationships. In this episode we talk about how motivation and is a big part of assertiveness, and how confidence is built – or broken by how much we can stay focused regardless of what life throws at us.  We explore the typical motivation killers that can creep into ou...

Welcome to Episode 116 where we introduce the concepts of motivation and commitment as integral parts of healthy assertiveness.   In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is an expression of confidence, which in turn is built on commitment and motivation. We dive into the conversation about how assertiveness is not just about speaking up, but also about owning our motivation and our commitm...

Welcome to episode 115 where we focus on how asking for what we need in the moment and honoring agreements creates emotional safety in our relationships. In this episode we get into just what it takes to negotiate needs in the moment – when the thing is happening – when we least want to – because we may fear conflict.  But learning how to practice healthy boundaries and detachment go a long way to...

Welcome to episode 114 where we identify the communication skills necessary to be able to negotiate in our relationships.    In this episode we talk about how important it is to be able to detach, have good boundaries, and be able to connect assertively and with emotional honesty and genuine caring – about yourself and them.  Good communication means no manipulation, no emotional immaturity and fo...

Welcome to episode 113 where we explore how our childhoods helped to shape our ability to negotiate or not, via how they managed conflict themselves, as well as how they tried to teach us to do so. In this episode we talk about how your family, your first friends and your community both taught you and modeled for you how to handle conflict, how to ask for what you needed, and how to problem-solve....

Welcome to episode 112 where we dive into some of the biggest obstacles to being able to negotiate needs in our relationships. In this episode we talk about some of the struggles that can get in the way of being able to negotiate in our relationships.  We explore the idea that grieving and detaching, setting healthy limits and honoring other's boundaries and health self-esteem wounds are at the cr...

Welcome to episode 111 where we spell out how we will be talking about a very important part of relationships: learning how to negotiate to solve problems and forge a strong friendship. In this episode we introduce the topic we will focusing on all month – healthy negotiating needs in our relationships.  We outline what gets in the way, how we may have never learned how to do it, and why it's so i...

Welcome to episode 110 where we finish out the month talking about how we underestimate the power of daily choices that can greatly impact our life. In this episode we look into how even though we may not see it yet, it's all the tiny choices we have made every day that have brought us to where we are today, for better or worse. Therefore it is the intentional healthy choices we can begin to make...