Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to Episode 157 where we focus on some of the qualities seen in a confident, loving man that feels good about who he is, and can be open and connect with others and with life.  In this episode we focus on the confident man, one who is strong yet allows himself to be vulnerable and therefore genuine.  He can connect with others, share his feelings in healthy ways and be emotionally present f...

Welcome to Episode 156 where focus on how men can struggle to be open and assertive in their relationships. In this episode we focus on how men's childhoods can set them up to avoid vulnerability and instead to cope via passive aggressive behavior in order to stay away judgment and conflict. Of course, that is exactly what they end up embroiled in because they are not stepping up confidently and b...

Welcome to Episode 155 where we talk about how this month we will be focusing on men and how they struggle in relationships. In this episode we get into the topics that will be helpful for men to focus on such as owning feelings, looking at how early experiences have shaped them, and finding healthier coping skills.  We also explore how society and families can greatly impact a man's ability to ha...

EP153 Stopping the All or Nothing: How Our Binary Beliefs Create Stress Welcome to Episode 153 where we talk about how we can add a lot of stress to our life by staying in black and white thinking, as well as being rigid to play it safe and not take risks. In this episode we  explore how we can create a lot of stress for ourselves by staying in the rigid all or nothing, perfect or horrible thinkin...

Welcome to Episode 152 where we add on to the idea of how doing TOO much can be an easy distraction from feeling and facing things we don't want to contend with. In this episode we talk about how for so many of us, piling on too much to do, keeping too many things going on at one time not only creates chaos and stress, but can also conveniently keep us from sitting in feelings we are avoiding.  We...

Welcome to Episode 151 where we talk about how one of the biggest ways we can create chaos in our life is if we struggle with people-pleasing.  In this episode we talk about a common and insidious struggle that so many people have – people pleasing behavior.  At its core it is fear-based impression management, that has some hidden costs that are important to look at and can certainly create lots o...

Welcome to Episode 150 where we explore how the stress in our lives can cause longstanding problems, and how this month we will explore the causes and the cures. In this episode it's all about how to figure out what is crazy in your life right now, some of the typical culprits, and how to get grounded and create and maintain some much-needed balance. Sometimes it's obvious to us why life seems lik...

Welcome to Episode 149 where we look finish out this month about change by talking about the need to let go of what no longer works for us. In this episode we finish out the month all about change, by focusing on what we need to let go of in order to move forward.  From old, limiting beliefs to old habits and fears, we explored how we may be holding onto things without realizing it. Until we are t...

Welcome to Episode 148 where we look at how important boundaries are if we want to change things in our life, especially our self-discipline.   In this episode we focus on an important aspect of self-love, and that is self-discipline.  Loving ourselves enough to say no to what isn't working in our life and saying no to hurting our health, draining our energy, and sabotaging good things for ourselv...

Welcome to Episode 147 where we take a hard look at how no matter what we SAY we want to do, we can sabotage the very steps we need to take to move forward, and there are valid reasons why we may do this. In this episode we get real about the ways we can hold ourselves back from what we say we want…the healthier habits and the steps toward our big goals that are just waiting for us to begin and ma...

Welcome to Episode 146 where we interview Life Coach Tabatha Perry, MSW all about her strategies for helping you make small edits that can change your life. In this episode we are talking to Tabatha Perry, who is a life coach who helps you change your life, one small "edit" at a time.  With her background in social work, Tabatha is all about the logistics of how to empower others to make important...

  Welcome to Episode 145 where we talk about how assertiveness is actually made up of several aspects that all work together. In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is actually a package of things that all work together so we can stand in our truth, speak our truth, and live our truth all while being calm, considerate and consistent. Assertiveness is not just a skill, and it's not just on...

Welcome to Episode 144 where we look at one of the most important aspects of healthy communication: owning your truth in the moment. In this episode we talk about what it means to really own your truth: which means everything about you from your feelings, thoughts and needs to your dreams and everything in between.  Owning our truth when we communicate creates self-confidence and helps to create e...

Welcome to Episode 143 where we talk about how important emotional honesty and assertiveness is to building trust in our relationships. In this episode we explore what it means to begin getting emotionally honest, being brave by being assertive, and why it helps create trust and allows for more meaningful connection in our relationships.  We contrasted healthy connecting with passive-aggressive an...

Welcome to Episode 142 where we explore the importance of learning how to practice healthy detachment and expressing empathy. In this episode we focus on a very important part of creating safe communication and that is practicing detachment and empathy.  We explore how we may struggle to let go, to refocus on ourselves and to allow them to be wherever they are, or the outcomes to simply unfold as...

Welcome to Episode 141 where we open up the new month and zone in on what healthy communication looks like, and how to do it. In this episode we discuss how this month we will be focusing on ways to clean up our communication so it's more emotionally honest, positive, and connecting, and healthier for both of you to experience.  To do this, so much of this work as many of you already know via expe...

Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary. In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries.  I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what t...

Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary. In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries.  I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what t...

Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary. In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries.  I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what t...

Welcome to Episode 139 where we talk about how taking the emotional risks in the moment is the only way to create genuine connection.   In this episode we take it a step braver. We are actually going to go a little more in depth about connection, and how important emotional intimacy is to our relationships. Why we NEED to bare our souls and be there when others bear theirs…to heal, to connect to b...

Welcome to Episode 138 where we explore what to work on if we want to become more grounded and confident when we connect with others. In this episode we talk about making the connection real…in the moment, and how so many of us struggle to feel confident and grounded enough to connect genuinely and take relational and emotional risks in real time. We talk about how confidence is built by doing som...

Welcome to Episode 137 where we give an overview of emotional connection, and ways this month we will dive into how to get better at it. In this episode we do an overview of how this month we will be going a bit deeper on emotional connection, specifically ways to actually put it into practice.  We defined it and talked about why it matters so much to our well-being and determines not only the qua...

Welcome to Episode 136 where we define aspects of a truly trustworthy, emotionally safe person. In this episode we discuss how trustworthy people are those who have SHOWN that they can be trusted. With our money, our time, our friendship, and our vulnerability.  Clients who get themselves out of toxic relationships then ask me well Mar "Now What? I don't want to pick another unsafe person !" This...

Welcome to Episode 135 where we get honest about ways we can try to control outcomes rather than get close to people. In this episode we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment.  We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out.  When we...