Ownit! Powercast

  Welcome to episode 232 where we begin the conversation about how your childhood shaped your understanding of healthy boundaries. In this episode, we   explore the myriad factors within family dynamics that can contribute to a lack of clear understanding of healthy boundaries for children as they grow up. By dissecting these, we uncover the struggles families can create when there aren't clear te...

Welcome to episode 231 where we  explore the intricate ways in which unmet childhood needs can shape our self-esteem and identity. From emotional neglect to a lack of validation, we delve into the lasting impact these experiences can have on our perceptions of self. By recognizing these patterns, listeners are empowered to begin or continue their journey of self-awareness and intentional healing,...

Welcome to episode 230 where we talk about ways to take care of yourself this Thanksgiving holiday. In today's discussion on setting boundaries during the holiday season, we explore the importance of self-discipline in maintaining a healthy balance between family commitments and personal well-being. We discuss strategies for saying 'no' to family requests with clarity and kindness, carving out ess...

Welcome to episode 229 where we look at how expressing needs requires healthy boundaries.   In this episode, we look at the complex terrain of expressing needs and setting boundaries in our relationships. We discuss the everyday challenges we often face when navigating these conversations, exploring the fears of sounding needy, the dance with vulnerability, and the assumptions that hinder open com...

Welcome to episode 228 where we get into how to identify what we need and work on getting them met. In this episode, we explore the art of recognizing and addressing your emotional and psychological needs. Many of us struggle with understanding what we truly need, which can have a profound impact on our overall well-being. We discuss the common signs of unmet needs, such as stress, anxiety, and em...

Welcome to episode 227 where we process the importance of vulnerability in asking for what we need.  In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of vulnerability and its role in meeting our needs in healthy ways. We explore how embracing authenticity and openly expressing our desires, fears, and insecurities can create deeper connections in our relationships, both personally and profes...

Welcome to episode 226 where we explore how important it is to make sure we are getting needs met in healthy ways.  In this episode, we explore the intricate dance of balancing our individual emotional and psychological needs with the needs of our personal and professional relationships. Navigating this delicate equilibrium is essential for building and maintaining healthy connections. We discuss...

Welcome to episode 225 where talk about how to know when it's time to make a big change in our life.    In this episode, we dive into the essential topic of recognizing when it's time for a significant life change. We discuss common signs and indicators that might be telling you it's time to take a bold step towards personal growth and a more fulfilling life. From feeling unfulfilled and trapped i...

Welcome to episode 224 where get into a profound topic: shame.  In this episode, we delve into the profound emotional consequences of shame, exploring its impact on individuals' self-esteem, self-criticism, anxiety, and overall mental health. We discuss how shame can lead to a perpetual cycle of self-doubt and social withdrawal, making it challenging for individuals to form meaningful connections...

Welcome to episode 223 where start the month with a brand-new episode all about confidence! In this episode we dove into the profound connection between self-doubt and the establishment of healthy boundaries. Self-doubt can be a pervasive force that affects personal and professional life, often leaving individuals questioning their abilities and self-worth. Today we explored how boundaries play a...

Welcome to episode 222 where we pull another one forward…an episode all about how being real is necessary if we want to be assertive. In episode 98, we discuss how b eing brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need.   The ability to do these things is crucial if we want to have healthy relationships. We explore how to be asserti...

Welcome to episode 221 where we go back to the vault and dive into what living in a self-created box looks like and feels like, and how it can truly limit our potential.   We explore how our box gets created, and how to climb out. In this episode we get into how our "box" (the symbolic one) can determine how we live our lives, how we see ourselves, and the world. We talk about how courage means lo...

Welcome to Episode 220 where we grab another one from the vault that focuses on the importance of creating agreements to have trust in our relationships. In this episode we talk about how healthy negotiating requires us to work on letting go of control and allow others to choose for themselves, while we just keep our stuff about us.   That's the magic of boundaries and detachment.   That allows us...

Welcome to Episode 219 where we grab another one from the vault that's all about how to negotiate what we need.    In this episode we explore how important it is to know how to negotiate needs in healthy ways, so that we can enjoy strong connections with those we care about, problem-solve and resolve conflict without hurting the trust in the relationship.   We identified how our families were our...

Welcome to Episode 218 where we grab another episode from the vault that focuses on how all the little things really do add up.  In this episode we look into how even though we may not see it yet, it's all the tiny choices we have made every day that have brought us to where we are today, for better or worse. Therefore, it is the intentional healthy choices we can begin to make TODAY that will add...

Welcome to Episode 217  where we grab another episode from the vault – one that looks at what it means to keep yourself, and the other person, in a place of choice when communicating.    In this episode we explore what it means to keep choice in our connections with others.  To demonstrate healthy boundaries, detachment, and therefore personal ownership of what belongs to us, and allowing the othe...

EP216 Podcast Rewind: EP119 The Essence of Assertiveness is Integrity Welcome to Episode 216 where we grab episode 119 from the archives and spend some time talking about a big aspect of being assertive and standing in our truth: integrity. In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become mo...

Welcome to Episode 215 where we grab episode 163 from the archives and spend some time talking about one of the core concepts of the show, and that is Personal Empowerment. We started out the podcast defining this, yet it's been a while and time for a great refresher.  This month as you get ready for this current season to wind down and the new one to begin, let's take some time to focus in on wha...

In this episode we pulled from the vault, we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment.   We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out.   When we do these things, we aren't vulnerable, and we especially aren't being emotionally honest...

EP213 From the Vault: EP101 We Want to Hear You! Putting Your Voice Out There Vulnerably In this episode we pulled from the vault, we get into what it looks like when we're afraid to use our voice, why that happens and how to work on it.   As we usually talk about on the show, vulnerable emotionally honest conversation IS assertive and healthy, and what creates genuine connection in conversation....

In this episode we pulled from the vault, I discuss the importance of healthy communication in relationships. I emphasize the need for clarity, directness, and emotional honesty to establish trust and safety. I then highlight the detrimental effects of emotional dishonesty, such as hiding feelings and desires, which can create distance and anxiety. Owning one's truth is crucial for building trust,...

In this episode we open the vault to get into episode 103 which opens the conversation about damaging manipulation can be to a relationship. In this episode, look back at an important topic: manipulation and other passive-aggressive behaviors that can destroy the emotional trust in a relationship, and even the receiver's ability to trust their own reality after awhile! Key Elements: ·       Talk a...

In this episode we open the vault to get into episode 143 which is all about  a big part of assertiveness, and that is emotional honesty. In this episode, we explore the importance of emotional honesty as a key component of assertiveness. We emphasize the significance of expressing what we truly think, feel, and need, and being transparent about our boundaries. By owning our truth, we instill trus...

In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 170 which is all about what it means to get really honest with ourselves if we want to feel confident.  On the show we dive into the topic of confidence and how it stems from being honest with ourselves. We then emphasize the importance of taking accountability for our communication and behavior in our relationships to boost confide...

In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 145 which is all about what assertiveness truly is.    In episode EP179 of the Own It Powercast, I get into the topic of assertiveness and emphasizes the significance of detachment and setting boundaries. Assertiveness, is about making choices and maintaining clear boundaries without seeking control. I highlight the importance of di...