Ownit! Powercast

  Today we introduce this month's topic:   all the ways we avoid sitting with our feelings and facing truths that seem too overwhelming to confront. We'll explore the psychological mechanisms behind our avoidance behaviors, such as staying task-focused, fixating on others' needs, and using distractions to numb our emotions. By examining these patterns, we can better understand how avoidance often...

In this episode we talk about the importance of maintaining your sense of self in relationships and avoiding the pitfalls of getting lost in crises created by others. We introduce a daily checklist designed to help you stay grounded and prioritize your well-being. Additionally, we explore how high cortisol levels, resulting from chronic stress, can impair your ability to stay in tune with your emo...

In this episode we talk about the importance of being mindful about who we allow into our lives: It's crucial to be mindful about who we allow into our lives because the people around us significantly influence our thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. Positive, supportive individuals can inspire growth, boost confidence, and encourage healthy habits, while negative, toxic people can drain...

In this episode, we sit down with Emily Cleghorn, an award-winning Trauma Recovery Coach, author, podcaster, and inspirational speaker. Emily is dedicated to helping trauma-surviving mothers navigate the challenges of parenting while healing from their own childhood traumas. With a deep passion for creating positive, lasting impacts for future generations, Emily shares her personal journey of over...

In this episode, I am thrilled to have Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and group facilitator, share his invaluable insights into the transformative power of men's groups. With over two decades of experience, Jason has worked alongside leaders like John Wineland and Dr. Robert Glover, honing his approach to helping men find clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He advocates stron...

Wel come to episode 252 where we look at the power of how our boundaries and integrity are symbiotic…and so important for our self-concept. In this episode we explore the vital role of boundaries, self-discipline, and integrity in cultivating self-trust and confidence. By setting and honoring boundaries with others, we protect our integrity and maintain healthy connections, fostering a sense of au...

Wel come to episode 251 where we look for the safe people – and how to recognize them! In this episode we explore the essential role of healthy boundaries and self-awareness in fostering trust and safety within relationships. We discuss how individuals with healthy boundaries maintain a sense of separateness while still fostering connection, emphasizing the importance of understanding these traits...

Wel come to episode 250 where we look at the behaviors that put "eggshells on the floor" in our relationships.   In this episode, we talk about the intricate dynamics of relationships impacted by "eggshell creators" – individuals whose behaviors consistently force others to tiptoe around them to avoid conflict or upset. We explore the various manifestations of such behavior, where it comes from, a...

Wel come to episode 249 where we look at how interactions in childhood can create fear in our adult relationships. In this episode, we delve into the intricate ways childhood emotional survival strategies shape our adult relationships. From observing parental behavior to adapting to avoid conflict, these learned behaviors often lead us to walk on eggshells in our interactions. The "eggshells on th...

  Wel come to episode 248 where we explore how our brains impact our ability to set boundaries in the moment. In this episode, we explore the impact of childhood coping mechanisms—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—on adult boundary-setting behaviors. The limbic system, our emotional brain, often guides our immediate reactions in boundary-setting situations, stemming from survival strategies develope...

Wel come to episode 247 where we explore how boundaries in relationships make it safe to be open and connecting. In this episode, we describe the delicate balance of vulnerability within boundaries. We explore how sharing our vulnerabilities can deepen connections, but also discuss the importance of discerning when it's safe to do so. By setting clear boundaries, we create a safe space where authe...

Wel come to episode 245 where we get into the magic of detachment that allows us to have boundaries, and to grieve instead of trying to control. In this episode, we delve into the transformative journey of setting boundaries through the lens of detachment and grieving. We explore how detaching from others' emotions, behaviors, and choices is not about indifference, but rather creating the emotiona...

  Wel come to episode 246 where we focus on the fears that can keep us from setting healthy limits. In this episode, we dive into the journey – and often a bumpy ride - of navigating discomfort and fear when setting boundaries. We explore the common fears that arise, such as fear of rejection, conflict, or disapproval, and how these fears can be deeply rooted in past experiences. From enmeshed fam...

Wel come to episode 244 where we talk about how boundaries and control are two very different things, even if they are often confused. In this episode, w e talk about the power of boundaries and the misconceptions that often cloak them as tools of control. We explore how boundaries are not about dictating others' actions but about taking responsibility for our own well-being, choices, and values....

Wel come to episode 243 where we look at ways fear can rob us of having the life we deserve. In this episode, we confront the insidious nature of fear, which often masquerades as a protector while robbing us of our dreams and aspirations. Fear whispers lies of inadequacy and failure, creating barriers that keep us small and confined within our comfort zones. We explore the personal costs of living...

  Wel come to episode 242 where we talk about how to tap into your inner wisdom when you need it most. In this episode, we talk about anxiety and how it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes, it's like our inner GPS, trying to tell us something important. When we feel anxious, it could mean there's a conflict between what we think we should do and what our gut feeling is telling us.   Our higher sel...

Wel come to episode 241 where we look at the longstanding impacts unhealthy behavior has on our emotional safety. In this episode, we explore the profound impact of acknowledging and addressing unsafe moments in our lives. We look at the multifaceted nature of these moments, especially the emotional, physical, and psychological harm, and discussed the importance of validating these experiences to...

Welcome to episode 240 where we explore the true costs of not owning a very important emotion.    In this episode, we discuss the intricate relationship between disowned anger, negative self-image, and the belief in one's powerlessness. Expanding from the psychological dynamics within unhealthy family setups to the impact on personal well-being, we explored how suppressed anger can lead to a disto...

Welcome to episode 239 where we focus on the process of gaining the most important approval: from ourselves.    In this episode, we explored the concept of gaining self-approval as opposed to relying on external validation to feel good about ourselves. We began by discussing common ways we can outsource our sense of approval, examining the roots of this behavior in childhood experiences, and delvi...

Welcome to episode 238 where we explore what is kept quiet, yet at the core of so much emotional pain.    This episode focuses on the exploration of shame as a complex and pervasive emotion takes center stage. We shed light on the impact of shame, revealing its ability to thrive in silence and secrecy. Then we got into the huge emotional, psychological, and physical toll of shame on individuals. L...

Welcome to episode 237 where we explore the impacts of avoidance on our relationships – with others and ourselves. In today's episode, Today, we explore the pervasive nature of avoidance in our lives, focusing on its impact in both relationships and social situations. We delve into the consequences of evading difficult conversations, highlighting how it leads to communication breakdown, unresolved...

EP236 Don't Make It Yours: How to Detach from Others' Reactions Welcome to episode 236 where we focus on not making the feelings and behaviors of others about us.   In today's episode, we talk about emotional detachment, specifically focusing on understanding and responding to others' acted-out emotions. We explore the importance of approaching and interpreting behaviors with empathy, active liste...

Welcome to episode 235 where we get ready for a fresh start by first looking at what needs to go. In this episode, we dive into the transformative theme of emotional reset as we bid farewell to the past and welcome the new year. We explore the common emotional burdens people carry, such as grudges, self-doubt, fear, and unhealthy relationships, and discussed practical strategies for letting go. Fr...

Welcome to episode 234 where it's all about looking at what you tolerate…especially the invisible things! In this episode, we look at one of the aspects of life that often go unnoticed—what are you tolerating? Unveiling the hidden elements we endure, whether in personal relationships, work environments, or within ourselves, becomes the catalyst for personal growth and positive change. We discuss t...

Welcome to episode 233 where we continue the conversation about how your childhood shaped your understanding of healthy boundaries.   In today's episode, we discuss the profound impact of challenging family dynamics, particularly those marked by addiction, mental health issues, and emotional chaos. Our discussion focuses on how these factors create an environment where healthy boundaries are often...