Own Your Identity

One of the biggest struggles I’ve faced has been with my romantic feelings toward other men. It felt true that giving myself over to a man sexually would somehow be the answer to this deep longing I felt—to be wanted, to be loved, to feel whole. But it was a lie.

When we experience a strong unwanted attraction towards a guy, we’ve got a few options. We can move in the direction our mind and body are suggesting, fight against it, let it pass, or - my favorite - get curious. Would you like additional resources? Visit ownyouridentitynow.com

You have two choices: Believe others are ALWAYS better off for your presence or believe they MIGHT BE better off. In this episode, I'll share the benefits of believing with certainty that when you walk into a room, others are better off for it.

In this episode, I unpack two powerful actions to leverage our past and future to empower us in the present: 1. Decide that everything in our past is an asset rather than a liability.  2. Develop certainty that our future will exceed our expectations.

In this episode, I share the two meanings of this podcast name, Own Your Identity, and the answer to why my college classmate told me I was gay.

In this episode, I walk through the times I was courageous in sharing my unwanted same-sex attractions with others, my desire for close connection with other guys, and my belief that vulnerability is worth the risk.

Discover how my unwanted attractions transformed from heavy, big, and complex to light, small, and simple . In this episode, I'll share the one decision that made the biggest impact on my journey and highlight how increasing self-agency and a belief in a compelling future are critical to moving forward into a life of purpose and possibility, free from obsession over your attractions. At the end, I...

Are you in the habit of waiting until you or circumstances look different before allowing yourself to feel good and love life? Life doesn’t wait—and neither should we. God has given us his presence to enjoy now, gifts to be shared now, and his gospel to be spread now. Embracing this mindset allows me to enjoy the present moment and confidently engage in the hard work of personal growth and change.

Where did my false beliefs come from, and why did they feel so true? How did my beliefs change? I’ll share my understanding of it. As you listen, consider your beliefs. Decide whether they are true and empowering and ask God to make His truth feel more real than the lies.

Today, we're diving into an incredibly powerful topic - our thoughts, and how the statements and questions we say to ourselves can hold us back or propel us forward. I would love to meet you. Register for an upcoming Zoom Masterclass on same-sex attractions or negative habits at ownyouridentitynow.com/masterclass

In this episode, I share my story and my understanding of how unwanted same-sex attractions developed and resolved in my life. Would you like additional resources? Visit ⁠ownyouridentitynow.com⁠

I used to believe my unwanted same-sex attractions were bigger than me and my dreams. I've learned that's not the case. It was the fear, shame, and judgment I inflated them with that caused them to overwhelm me.