Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this episode, we speak with Retired NYPD detective turned author Vic Ferrari. Vic is the author of NYPD: Law & Disorder, Grand Theft Auto, The NYPD's Flying Circus, NYPD: Through the Looking Glass, and Dickheads & Debauchery, is a retired New York City police detective and probably the funniest person you've never heard about. With no formal training or Harvard degree, Vic has managed to carve...

In this episode, I am sharing a perspective and insight on the power of shame and how it is blocking us from being seen authentically. Releasing shame is one of the first steps to starting to share your story and this is the first step we will be moving through with the authors in the Write Your Damn Book Mastermind. In today's episode, we discuss: 1) Shame can only be released by giving yourself...

In this episode, I am sharing a reframe of the story vs. the narrative of the story. The story is the story, it is the details of the event, simply the facts. The facts have no emotion, no bearing, no personal responsibility, blame, or meaning behind them. The narrative of the story is what creates the problem that keeps us stuck in a loop of a story that we don't want to be in. In today's episode...

In this episode, we are speaking with New York Times Best-selling Author & International Speaker, Michael Hingson. Michael has been in countless TV and radio appearances, feature articles, and speaking engagements, Hingson does much more than simply tell his own 9-11 story; he continuously explores the broader lessons of his life and experiences inspiring and motivating audiences. In this episode,...

In this episode, I am sharing a reframe of a statement or language that we all fall into using. What if the obstacles in front of you are not there to break you down or see how badly you want something? What if they aren't breaking you down at all, but they are shaping you into the person that you are capable of being? In today's episode, we discuss: 1) The ocean smashes into the rock thousands of...

In this episode, I am sharing a quick message, mindset shift on what if you are closer than you think? Regardless of what the goal is, however, "long you feel it will take" will dictate how you choose to show up. In today's episode, we discuss: 1) The intention, the energy, and the focus of how you choose to show up are directly related to how far away it feels for you. 2) You will change the resu...

In this episode, we are speaking with the Executive Director of the Sound of Freedom, Paul Hutchinson. Paul Hutchinson has dedicated over a decade to creating a world where every child can experience safety, freedom, and hope. He has personally led or played a critical role in over 70 undercover rescue missions in 15 countries, saving children enslaved in child sex trafficking. In total, Paul has...

In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts on asking and allowing yourself to receive. As we approach the release of episode #600, which is crazy and exciting, I am sharing an experience with one of my mentors and colleagues on asking and receiving. In today's episode, we discuss: 1) Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. In order to give at a much deeper and fulfilling level, it co...

In this episode, we are speaking with the CEO & Senior Consultant of BtR Impact, Jerry Dugan. Jerry is the CEO and Senior Consultant of BtR Impact, LLC, a consulting and training company focused on helping leaders define success on their terms so they can live fulfilled, meaningful lives with impact and not lose their faith, their families, or their health. His work experience includes serving in...

Connect with us on Patreon https://patreon.com/ownyourchoicesownyourlife In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts about unexpressed emotions and how we end up carrying what we are trying to avoid dealing with. Sigmund Freud said, "Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways." We become closed — not only to people's pain — but also to their...

In this episode, I am sharing some takeaways from a book I am reading on resiliency. The book is called "The 5 Practices of Highly Resilient People", by Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal, and I am only part way through and the concept is so freaking powerful. It starts with asking yourself "what story would people think I was crazy, if they knew about me?" That is the vulnerability story that builds resist...

In this episode we are speaking with Motivational Speaker/Author, Jason Pike. A decorated combat veteran with multiple deployments, LT. Col. Jason Pike, served 31 years in the US Army including nine years overseas in five countries. Jason earned over 30 service awards & badges and his diversity of Army jobs, assignments, and schools from age 17 to 48 sets this military memoir up differently than m...

In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts to support you in writing your book. Maybe you have had a deep knowing that you were meant to write a book, you want to share your story and you are stuck in the cycle of overwhelm with where to start; concerned with what others might think of you for sharing your story or you might be wondering who your story could help or if it is big enough to share?...

In this episode, I am sharing the concept of creating results using your conscious vs your subconscious mind, and the difference between the two. Conscious change is hard, takes consistent effort and feels like you're starting over and over again. Conscious change is using ~ 5% of your brain's capacity and ability to create change. Subconscious change is using the 95% powerhouse part of your brain...

In this episode we are speaking with Peer Coach, Joe Tlustos. Joe suffered from multiple addictions (including opioids, alcohol and others) for more than 20 years, mainly due to undiagnosed mental health conditions including Bipolar Disorder II, severe depression, anxiety and adult ADHD. Joe voluntarily entered inpatient treatment in November of 2008 and has been in recovery ever since. Prior to g...

In this episode, I am sharing some personal thoughts of something I have been walking through. It is based on the quote, "What got you here, won't get you there," by Marshall Goldsmith. The basis of the quote refers to the fact that 'Successful people become great leaders when they learn to shift the focus from themselves to others.' I had a real life experience that brought this quote to the fore...

In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts about authenticity and how it is connected with our ability to let ourselves be disliked. This is a tough one as so many of us have struggled with pleasing people, wanting to be liked, not wanting to rock the boat or upset others. We may struggle to be authentic due to lack of self-esteem, fear of judgment by others, and a strong desire for others to lik...

In this episode we are speaking with Kellan Fluckiger. Kellan is the Ultimate Alchemist for radical transformation and performance. He is a certified master coach, a certified extraordinary coach and holds several other certifications. Kellan is a Coach, Speaker, Award-winning author, and an alchemist for exponential personal growth. He is the founder of "Your Ultimate Life" which helps people cre...

In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts from a previous masterclass on how to share a story authentically and what authentic storytelling is. When it comes to sharing a story, writing a book, or even building an online brand it comes from who you are as a person, what you have walked through and knowing that you are your brand. It's important to learn how to share it authentically. In today's...

In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts on walking in someone else's shoes. To walk a mile in someone else's shoes means before judging someone, you must understand his experiences, challenges, thought processes, etc. We never know someone's full story especially when we think we do, we don't. In today's episode we discuss: 1) This is one of the most common questions I hear on podcasts as a gu...

Today we are speaking with Mindset Coach, Vin Infante. Vin is a therapist, master mindset coach, mentor and speaker. He has spent over 13 years in mental health, working with thousands of people to help create transformation with the people he serves. Currently he is on a mission to impact 1 billion lives positively. In this episode we dive into: 1) Vin shares his journey through being bullied, ch...

Today we are speaking with Energetic Alignment & Human Design/Gene Keys Guide, Miranda Mitchell. Miranda is an Energetic Alignment & Human Design guide that supports high level leaders in their industry to redefine and reconnect to what truly lights them up so that they create more impact with sustainability and ease. In this episode we dive into: 1) Miranda's early journey of a life of chaos, str...

In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts on reframing. Reframing is a strategy that people can use, either on their own or in therapy, to help adjust their mindset. It often involves focusing on more positive thoughts, but it can also be centered on changing excessively high expectations to be more realistic. In this episode we discuss: 1) Reframing is a powerful skill to have as it can give us...

In this episode, I am sharing a quote that spoke to me deeply, "People who have overcome darkness in their life typically have a fire inside of them that is almost impossible to extinguish." ~Stephen Timoney. It feels like the more darkness or challenges we walk through the more I feel the fire to do something with it. In today's episode we discuss: 1) Suppressing that fire burns me, yet expressin...

Today we are speaking with Professional Podcaster, Voice Narrator and Speaker, Adrian Starks. Adrian Starks is known as the champion of conversation. He is the host of a thriving and influential podcast Your Purposeful Life. He is also a speaker, narrator, writer and entrepreneur. In this episode we dive into: 1) The power of our failures, the lessons we are learning and how often these blocks are...