Overcome Pornography for Good

I offer how the 50-50 principle can be an incredibly powerful tool when we apply it to ourselves. I’m showing you what happens when we resist this fact, what happens when we can truly allow for our human duality, and I’m also giving you an exercise to practice to help you generate compassion for yourself on this journey.      Get full show notes and more information here:  http...

This week, I’m introducing you to a concept called hard vs. harder.   You might be framing your work to overcome porn with the question, “Is it going to be hard? Is it going to take too much energy and effort?” The truth is, it  will be hard, but it’ll be even harder to continue to give in, to stay stuck for even a day longer, riddled with shame, feeling unproductive, lost, and lonely. S...

Listen in this week as I offer my tips for building the skill of planning ahead of time. You’ll discover why this is such an integral part of being intentional about how you live your life, what happens when decision fatigue kicks in, and what to look out for as you begin practicing planning ahead of time.      Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabre...

If you currently believe your sexuality is morally wrong, or have bought into all the ways sexuality gets a bad rap, join us on this episode. Jennifer is dropping some serious gems around how we frame our human sexuality in unhelpful ways, the keys to creating an intimate partnership that feels amazing, and what drives our compulsions for things that don’t serve us.     Get full show not...

I show you how healing is the key to getting to the root of your porn habit. Overcoming pornography is not something you can force yourself through, and I’m showing you the reason so many people start here, and how it halts your progress.      Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/life-changing-healing-mindset

We are sexual beings, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I urge you to drop your sexual shame, and learn why demonizing our sexuality leads to more problems. Discover why this is the key to quitting porn for good, and how accepting your sexuality opens you up to so much more peace and calm.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/we-are-s...

If you’ve heard me say you have to fail, and you’ve interpreted that to mean it’s not worth trying, listen in closely this week. I’m sharing the difference between progressive failure and justification failure, why practicing the former will have you surprised at how much faster you’ll be able to quit, and showing you how applying this concept to other areas of your life&n...

In this episode, I’m inviting you to be willing to fail over and over again. The truth is that your success at quitting porn is literally built on your ability to fail and get back up to try again. The more tolerance you have for failure and slip-ups, the quicker you’ll succeed at overcoming the habit, and I’m showing you why this week.    Get full show notes and more information here:&n...

Quinn exemplifies how your past is not a reflection of your future and what's possible for you to accomplish. He’s sharing how our work together has created breakthroughs and transformations for him, and how, at 64, he’s now making career changes and putting himself out there to help others.   Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-...

Join me this week as I show you why staying in this cycle of unrealistic expectations is so problematic, and how to stop the cycle so you can move closer to the changes you want to see by taking small, realistic steps towards it consistently.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/realistic-expectations

Lindsay gives us insight into the importance of recognizing and addressing betrayal trauma. After her own experience of it and discovering the tools that helped her heal, she’s here to offer tips for minimizing the extent of your trauma, and to light a path towards empowerment and trust.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/betrayal-trau...

I share 5 of my best tips for staying committed to your New Year’s goals. I’m showing you why so many people quit on themselves, what progress really looks like versus what you think it should look like, and how to use the New Year energy to your advantage.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/new-years-goals

Listen in to discover the identity shift you are undergoing as you learn to quit porn. Becoming a new person is part and parcel of this work, but I’m showing you how to give yourself the permission to do so, and the only difference between who you are now and who you want to be.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/becoming-a-new-person

Discover why, without learning the skill of emotional regulation, quitting pornography will be impossible. I’m showing you why being able to sit with your feelings is the key to creating anything you want in life, and I’m sharing my best tips and tools to help you begin practicing doing just that.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/emo...

I share my 4 tips for learning how to mindfully manage your urges. I’m showing you why you might be feeling stuck in a cycle of willpower energy right now, and what it means to just allow your urges to exist so you truly don’t have to be afraid of them.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/mindful-urge-management

Discover how to develop the true shame-free commitment required for overcoming pornography. I’m sharing the conditioning and limiting beliefs that keep people stuck in their porn habit, and how you can move away from relying on shame and towards a porn-free life.   Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/shame-free-commitment

I show you the price you pay when you choose the short-term pleasure of overindulgence over your long-term wellbeing. I’m offering that it’s not only safe and loving to say no, but that it could even be beneficial to feel an unanswered desire.   Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/overindulgence

I introduce you to a mind-blowing concept that will teach you how to see yourself and the world around you differently. You don’t have to believe what your lenses are showing you right now, and you can choose to switch them up if you want, and I’m showing you how.   Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/lenses

I’m showing you how to become the observer of your thoughts and how doing so will enable you to change your pornography habit. Being the observer will teach you so many things about your porn habit that you need to know, so I’m showing you how to observe yourself and stop believing everything your brain is telling you.   Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabre...

I share the lessons I’ve learned in my work helping returning missionaries who struggle with porn use. I’m showing you why returning missionaries often struggle with porn, and I’m listing 8 things that are  not effective in solving for porn use, and showing you what to do instead.    Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/post-mission-po...

Discover how to give less attention to your present desires, so you can fulfill your future desire of overcoming pornography for good. So many people want to quit porn because they’ve been told to by their parents or their spouse, but I’m sharing why these reasons alone aren’t enough to stop the short-term urge, and how to come up with a truly compelling why  instead.   Get full show not...

This week I'm showing you why an all-or-nothing mindset stagnates your progress, and how minuscule improvements over time are more powerful than you might think. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be courageous enough to take it one day at a time, and I’m guiding you through it.   Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/compound-effect

This week, I lay out the 3 things we can do when we feel an urge. I’m showing you how two of those options have you either acting outside of your value system, or furthering you from where you ultimately want to be, and how the third option available to you is the key to handling any urge with confidence and ease.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.c...

I lay out the 3 biggest problems with believing Satan is in charge of your sexual urges. Your urges aren’t dangerous or evil, and trying to overcome porn with this framework is not effective, so I’m showing you where your urges actually come from, and why this will feel so much more freeing as you work to understand your over desire for pornography.    Get full show notes and more inform...

I outline some shame-inducing thoughts about porn that you might be believing right now, but that simply aren’t facts. For so many people, shame is the root of their porn use, and I’m inviting you to notice how you show up when you’re drowning in shame, and recognize that choosing shame is completely optional.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/b...