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Send us Fan Mail Connect with Lily! Website - https://www.bodyintelligenceacademy.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/bodyintelligence_academy Her Medium article-  https://medium.com/@lily_56950/love-bombs-and-red-flags-a-story-about-self-trust-703e50041bbc What happens when two women discover they've been manipulated by the same man? In this raw, intimate conversation, we meet Lily - a woman w...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever watched a show that unexpectedly cracked your heart open? That's what happened when I watched Netflix's "Forever" - and I'm still processing all the feelings it brought up. This adaptation of Judy Blume's 1975 novel follows two Black teenagers in 2018 Los Angeles through their experiences of first love. But what struck me most powerfully...

Send us Fan Mail "Why didn't she just leave?" It's a question that reveals how profoundly we misunderstand the dynamics of abuse. Drawing from personal experience as both a childhood sexual abuse survivor and domestic violence survivor, I'm pulling back the curtain on why this question hurts victims and protects abusers. The truth is that leaving an abusive relationship is...

Send us Fan Mail The journey to inner peace often begins in unexpected ways. For me, it started with a desperate search for financial independence while trapped in an abusive marriage. In 2018, I turned to meditation not for spiritual enlightenment but because successful people in an MLM claimed it helped them make money. What began as a practical pursuit transformed into the cornerstone of my hea...

Send us Fan Mail When Tracy Ellis Ross mentioned dating younger men, she faced an immediate wave of criticism and bizarre comparisons to Shannon Sharp – a man facing multiple sexual assault allegations. This glaring double standard perfectly illustrates the misogynoir Black women face when simply discussing their dating preferences. As a 48-year-old Black woman navigating modern dating, I deeply r...

Send us Fan Mail That voice inside your head telling you something feels off? It might be your inner child trying to protect you from making painful mistakes. In this deeply personal episode, I share how a seemingly perfect romantic connection triggered a surprising healing journey that saved me from potential heartbreak. After 20 years of marriage followed by dating in my 40s, I found myself expe...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you walk the opposite path of the "influencer to evangelical pipeline"? As someone who spent 16 years as a minister with a nearly-completed Master's of Divinity, my journey away from evangelicalism toward a more liberated spirituality offers a powerful counternarrative to what we often see in today's culture. The evangelical world I inhabited...

Send us Fan Mail Black women across America are drawing boundaries and prioritizing self-care as they "quiet quit" a country that has historically demanded their emotional labor while offering little in return. This revolutionary act of self-preservation represents a profound shift in how Black women approach their relationship with America. • Recognizing the roots of the "strong Bl...

Send us Fan Mail The accusations of narcissism against Meghan Markle have reached a fever pitch, but do any of them hold water? As someone who survived severe narcissistic abuse and later coached other survivors, I bring a uniquely qualified perspective to this conversation. When researching my previous episode about Meghan's new ventures, I discovered an entire ecosystem of content dedicated...

Send us Fan Mail When you strip away the noise surrounding Meghan Markle's Netflix show "With Love Megan," what emerges is a powerful narrative about a woman reclaiming her identity after trauma. Before becoming a royal, Meghan had a lifestyle blog and philanthropic pursuits that she was forced to abandon. Now, freed from those constraints, she's returned to her authentic creat...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like life knocked you flat, leaving you to start over when everyone else seems firmly established? You're not alone in that journey of rebuilding. At 48, I found myself making just $10,000 a year after once having a stable career, retirement savings, and a home. The crushing weight of feeling "behind" where society says I should be had me question...

Send us Fan Mail What if you could transform your harsh inner critic into a voice of warmth and understanding? Join me, Grace Sandra, on a heartfelt exploration of self-compassion, where I reveal the deeply personal journey that shifted my perspective from self-criticism to self-kindness. Through this episode, we unpack common misconceptions surrounding self-compassion and learn how it can be a pr...

Send us Fan Mail Can a powerful group of women change the political landscape of a nation? In this episode, I explore how Black women have consistently been at the forefront of political activism in the United States. With the startling statistic of 92% of Black women supporting Doug Jones in Alabama, I delve into the critical role they play in pushing back against alarming executive actions. As p...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 15, I'm exploring the journey of reclaiming one's voice after experiencing trauma. Sharing my personal story of abuse, the deep-rooted effects of silence, and actionable steps to empower YOU to find your authentic selves. In this episode I'm covering... • The silence around trauma and its impact on self-worth   • Recognizing signs of a silenced voice   •...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of love and pain that you just can't seem to escape? Join me, Grace Sandra, as I uncover the truth behind trauma bonds and why breaking free is so much harder than it seems. Sharing my own journey through a manipulative relationship, I reveal the addictive cycle of abuse and affection that binds victims to their abusers. This ep...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode we're talmout setting intentions for the entire year using just one word. I'm sharing a little bit of my tumultuous journey of the past few years & how I've gotten through it. BOOK MENTIONED: Shonda Rimes, The Year of Yes - https://amzn.to/3WuHnYd 📚MY BOOK📚 Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood 🔗 https://amzn.to/2I2u...

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Send us Fan Mail Episode 11: There's a time to shed & a time to birth. Join me this week & we discuss shedding, releasing control & giving birth to new things! Thanks for joining in! JOIN OUR NEW PODCAST COMMUNITY -- https://www.facebook.com/groups/bwbfreegroup ✍🏽SILK & SONDER - USE MY CODE 0HTS15 FOR 15% OFF! http://shrsl.com/38ewb 📚MY BOOK📚  Grace, Actually: Faith, Love,...

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Send us Fan Mail Learning to Romanticize Yourself is a skill that needs to be learned. In today's episode we're talmbout how to embrace the present & find beauty in the imperfection of our lives. There's a bit of Love is Blind round-up (after the first set of epi's dropped) & a few of my own stories. How do you romanticize yourself? ✍🏽SILK & SONDER http://shrsl.com...

Send us Fan Mail Codependence. I had no idea I was operating in this way for years! On today's podcast epi, I'm talmbout codependence. I'll be giving a few examples from my own life & providing a few suggestions for how you can begin to heal from #codependence & #codependentrelationships. I'm also briefly hitting on Diddy & Cassie & the much needed HipHop/Rap #M...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, I'm talmbout how much healing can happen when we get in touch with and fall in love with our inner child. Thanks for being a listener! xo ✍🏽SILK & SONDER -http://shrsl.com/38ewb 📚MY BOOK📚 Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood 🔗 https://amzn.to/2I2uqBE 💌SIGN UP FOR MY NEWSLETTER! 💌 https://www.outheretrynasurvive.com/newsle...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, I'm talmout the unfortunate need to end relationships with women in our lives that have become toxic. I'm hitting a little bit on the boundary issues with KeKe & also, Jonah Hill... and the overall story of letting go.  I hope this helps you feel a little less alone! ✍🏽SILK & SONDER http://shrsl.com/38ewb 📚MY BOOK📚 Grace, Actually: Fai...

Send us Fan Mail Thanks so much for listening! In today's episode I'm talmbout all the ways we can protect ourselves from getting into a narcissistically abusive or highly toxic relationship by being who we need to be beforehand. Here's just a few of the things I wish I had knew or been about before I met my ex. ✍🏽SILK & SONDER http://shrsl.com/38ewb 📚MY BOOK📚  Grace, Actuall...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode I'm talmbout  How to survive ourselves, if we should get married a 2nd or 3rd time, our ONE WORD for 2023 & a quick dating shenanigan story. Join us! Reach out anytime! grace@outheretrynasurvive.com ✍🏽SILK & SONDER http://shrsl.com/38ewb 📚MY BOOK📚  Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood is available on Amazon digitally &amp...