Our Modern Emotional Lives

In this week's discussion, I explore the power of conscious thinking in the face of a world filled with rising tensions and fear. As we navigate the five elements of life - circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results - I make a compelling case for maintaining our sense of well-being as a profound contribution to the world. Unraveling the interconnectedness of thoughts, feelings, and ac...

Join me this week as I delve into the complexities of family dynamics during the holiday season. Following the feedback I received around episode 64 in which I shared a coaching session about Thanksgiving anxieties, this episode explores another client's struggle with family dynamics. The client, happily married but grappling with her brother-in-law's behavior, seeks guidance on how to navigate he...

Join me today as I reflect on the changing nature of downtime in our lives, from the simplicity of listening to vinyl in high school to the constant bombardment of information in today's digital age. I seek to rediscover solitude, not the lonely kind, but the intentional act of being alone with our thoughts. In a world where constant distraction becomes the norm, let's challenge ourselves to embra...

I want to welcome you as I take a dive into the concept of female empowerment, addressing the common struggle women face in seeking a definitive "right answer." I explore the tendency to be entangled in others' lives, especially in situations involving our loved ones, and how this fixation on someone else's thoughts and feelings can lead to confusion and agitation. Through the lens of cognitive be...

Join me this week as I sit down with Dr. Nicole Avena, an esteemed neuroscientist, as we delve into the fascinating world of sugar addiction. We explore Nicole's groundbreaking research at Princeton, where she uncovered the surprising parallels between sugar and drug addiction. From her early days battling imposter syndrome to her profound discoveries about sugar's impact on the brain's opioid sys...

Today, I want to revisit a fundamental concept that can revolutionize how you perceive your existence: the idea that your thoughts are optional. This realization is profound; it marks a turning point where you begin to recognize that the meaning you assign to events is within your control. We so often confuse facts with thoughts, letting our interpretations dictate our emotions and behaviors, but...

Reflecting on my recent move to a new house, join me today as I explore the inherent stress and uncertainty that comes with change, drawing parallels between physical relocation and the emotional upheaval that occurs when unexpected circumstances force us to dismantle our existing realities. Together, we examine the power of deliberately directing our thoughts, embracing temporary discomfort, and...

It is officially Autumn, and as we gear up for Thanksgiving, I have been thinking about something that might just change so much for you. When I mention Thanksgiving, you're probably thinking about those family gatherings that either warm your heart or make you cringe. We all have that one person, like my client's brother-in-law, who seems to ruin every occasion, but here's the revelation - it's n...

Listen in today as I dive deep into the essence of what it means to be human: having wants and desires. Desire is more than just a yearning; it's a fundamental force that shapes our lives, and I unravel the layers of our wants, exploring how they define us, push us to grow, and connect us to the universe's creative energy. I encourage you to challenge the notion that wanting is inherently negative...

Tune in to this episode as I interview Rae Tsai, ​​an individual whose life journey is both inspiring and deeply introspective. Rae shares her experiences of growing up in Taiwan, her early struggles and responsibilities within her family, and her determination to pursue education against the odds. She discusses her transition to the United States, her marriage, and the challenges she faced in ada...

As we journey through life, we often find ourselves mirroring the emotions of those around us, whether they are loved ones, colleagues, or even our children, but what if there was another way, a path to emotional maturity and true personal power? Tune in to this episode as we explore the concept of emotional mirroring and how it influences our relationships and decision-making. Join me as we delve...

Listen in today as I dive deep into the power of embracing our emotions, even the uncomfortable ones. Through a compelling client story, I explore how the fear of disappointment can hold us back and how societal norms have taught us to avoid negative emotions. I also share insights on why it's essential to make room for all our feelings, as they are a significant part of the human experience. By a...

Listen this week as I dive into the challenges of couples therapy and how it's often seen as the solution for dissatisfied relationships, but what if just getting to therapy seems impossible? What if you and your partner have different ways of dealing with conflict? I share insights on how to shift your perspective and approach, emphasizing the importance of focusing on yourself and your own growt...

In this episode, I am diving deep into the world of FOMO, and it's not just about those sneaky social media comparisons. We're getting into the nitty-gritty of why some of us feel that gnawing FOMO more intensely than others, and you're not alone if it feels a tad overwhelming. Join me as we uncover the root causes of this sensation and explore five empowering ways to flip the script. Let's tame t...

On today's episode, I sit down with Krista St.-Germain, creator of The Widowed Mom Podcast . Krista shares her story of resilience after the tragic loss of her husband. From navigating the complexities of grief to embracing post-traumatic growth, Krista's experiences offer invaluable insights for anyone dealing with loss. We dive into the myths around grief, emotional processing, and how becoming...

My clients have made the courageous decision to change. In this episode, I share one client's experience of showing up more authentically at work, inspired by the changes she has made in her own self-concept. I have been so inspired by my clients' transformations and wanted to use this episode to shed light on the power of commitment, consistency, and self-discovery. Through their journeys, you'll...

I hope that you will join me today as I delve deep into the intricate world of parenting, a world where love, concern, and an impulse to help often intertwine. As the founder of my coaching platform, I've had the personal privilege of guiding professional midlife women through the labyrinth of their emotions, and it's a recurring theme that keeps surfacing – the delicate balance between offering a...

I want to share with you in this episode about how to really make lasting change in your life and in your work. I know we often think we need to get that perfect plan and perfect motivation first, but the truth is that action is what makes things happen. Taking that first step, even if it's a baby step, gets the ball rolling and helps momentum and clarity build. Once we begin to act on our goals,...

Join me in this episode as I discuss the various things that we were trained from a young age to believe that we might still believe today even though they don't serve us. Maybe you have thoughts like, "I'm not good at math" or "Knowing the answer is what makes you smart." However, these are just ideas that became 'truths' because we've thought about them so much.  If we can try on new thoughts, w...

I hope that you will join me for this momentous occasion - the podcast turning a year old. Listen as I reflect on a year of podcasting, reminiscing on some of the challenges that I initially faced as a new podcaster and how this podcast has grown over the last year. The podcast initially began as a free, accessible source of advice for clients, but it has truly morphed into so much more. The feedb...

Many clients come to me because they want to feel more in control. They don't want to feel like a passenger in the car of life but rather the driver. However, the desire for control can also sometimes have adverse effects, such as wanting control through food, alcohol abuse, and so forth. Control is not always needed. We sometimes tell stories about ourselves and frame them as if they are conflict...

We have so many dilemmas that come up about wanting to improve something about our lives such as our relationships, our financial situation, the quality of our health, and so forth. I am here to tell you that the answer to all of these is in the decisions that you make. That's why it is so important to be making decisions regularly, especially conscious decisions. We really want to get to the poin...

You may recall how I talked on the podcast back in January about my trip to a spa resort and what I learned on that trip. Well, on that trip, I met Dr. Melissa Sundermann, and I am so happy to have the opportunity to talk to her on this podcast. Melissa is a double-board certified physician in internal medicine and lifestyle medicine and has been practicing for over two decades, always adding new...

We sometimes feel stuck, like we have goals that we feel we cannot reach, and sometimes, we really need to take a step back and ask ourselves what our beliefs are about our ability to make it happen. Everything stems from what we believe, so if we don't believe in ourselves, we aren't going to see the results that we want, and it's just that - ourselves - in which we need to believe. If you are fe...

During the pandemic when we were under lockdown, I took an incredibly powerful class from Anita Moorjani. Anita has an amazing story that really inspired me in several ways, so I am spending today's episode sharing what I learned from her class, including but not limited to the idea that being spiritual is at our core, that a challenge can come with a blessing that we might not see until we are pa...