OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

Your people can make or break you so why do most of us pay so little attention to where our energy actually goes? This week, I'm making the case for auditing your people: leaning into the ones who lift you, gently leaning away from the ones who drain you, and getting prescriptive about the good ones you're still missing. Because hope is not a plan. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take r...

You're the biggest brainwasher in your own life and most of the cruel stories you tell yourself came from other people years ago. I want you to catch it. Course correct. When you hear yourself say something cruel, talk back. Grab a friend to pull you up. And find your line — mine, from Louise Hay, is "I'm safe and loved." That's the good kind of brainwashing. The Energy Club is for anyone who want...

Busy is a choice, stress is a choice, joy is a choice. And here's the uncomfortable bit. If you don't make a decision, that's still a decision. Sometimes there's no good option, just the best bad one. So what's yours right now?

We sit around thinking "soon I'll feel amazing and then I'll do something." Flip it. Go do something then see how you feel. The energy comes after the action.

I'm not a natural rester. My ADHD and my packed life don't make space for it. So I taught myself, and after a weekend lying down at a retreat in the Coromandel, I'm not tired for the first time all year. This week, I'm talking about why rest goes deeper than sleep, what trees can teach us, and why "I haven't got time" is the exact belief keeping you exhausted.

Your life moves in the direction of your strongest thought. So what's yours right now? Mine is lucky. This week, I'm talking about why that one word is changing everything, plus a moment at a women's conference in Queenstown that absolutely got me, and why everything, the tea you drink, the person you sit next to, the time you go to bed is an energy decision.

Sometimes you have to reintroduce yourself from scratch. This week, I'm talking about getting to know myself again at 55, why "what are you into?" is a better question than "what do you do?", and why having an answer matters more than you think.

I got a cold and it reminded me that having a system matters. This week, I'm sharing everything I reach for when my body starts sending warning signals potassium broth, a hot whiskey remedy that a Scottish friend swears by, and the permission to tap out before you actually need to. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountabil...

I used to exercise because I felt like I had to. Now I do it because it's a privilege and my body can and that shift has changed everything. This week, I'm talking strength, flexibility, coordination, and why falling in love with taking care of yourself is one of the most powerful decisions you'll ever make.

find another layer waiting underneath. This week, I'm talking about how to actually do it. The list, the plan, and yes, burning the paper, whether it's clutter, a habit, or a person who's been glued into your life way past their expiry date. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisao...

This week when I opened my planner to page 146, I found Byron Katie's quote staring back at me: I am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, because it hurts when I argue with reality. I've been using her four questions for about 20 years and I'm still not done with them. They're that good. The four questions are simple. Is it true? Can you absolutely know it's true? How do you rea...

I'm great at buying supplements. Taking them? That's where it falls apart. This week I'm talking about why I think every woman needs them, how to figure out what you actually need, and the simple tricks that help me remember to take the damn things. Your body has been asking for this. Time to listen. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want s...

When life throws rocks in your path, you can't always move them - but you can be the water that flows around them. This week Lisa shares the visualisation keeping her grounded through a genuinely ridiculous week, plus discovery calls, a seafood boil, and why you should watch the Jacinda documentary even if you hate politics.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is about asking for help. We're shit at it because we're really capable. When you ask for help, you're giving people an opportunity to be generous, so do it as a game. Be specific, and don't feel guilty. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill...

Elizabeth Lisa wrote the most stunning book called Broken Open and there's a quote that says, "the difficult times we fear might ruin us can break us open and help us blossom." My cup has overflowed with hard stuff but it's making me better not bitter. Hard is good because it stretches us. I'm in that stretchy bit where you can feel your muscles tweaking.

The Marianne Williamson quote in my planner says "everyone is on a spiritual path, most people just don't know it." What does your soul need? Not just courage, but permission or a shove to be braver. Our triggers are our teachers, crisis is a curriculum, the cave you fear holds the treasure you seek, and when was the last time you had your head held?

I'm recording this from Shanghai and I am absolutely living my best life. Eight incredible women, markets where the answer is always yes, and a city that runs entirely on possibility and contrast. This week I'm staying in the moment, because that's where the magic is.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about spiritual energy and beliefs. Some people were told what to believe, but I was raised by an atheist father and Presbyterian mother, so I got stuck in the middle and got to choose, which is actually a gift. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up no...

Iris Apfel says, "You don't find out who you are unless you work at it." The greatest project we ever work on is ourselves, and you're not a $5 note so don't find yourself. Try different things and reinvent yourself every two years instead of becoming forgetfully the same.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about mental energy, the stuff that either makes you mental or stops you from being mental and how much clarity you have when your brain feels fuzzy, scattered, muddy, or crunchy. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I get concerned about all the energy going into people being stressed and hating. Here's the recipe for an amazing life: stay present to where your feet are and find ways to enjoy every moment, hour by hour infusing your world with fun because it's hard out there.

nspiration is energy and if you feel uninspired, it's because you've abandoned yourself doing boring shit instead of living. Make a list of what inspires you. Movies, recipes, podcasts, sunsets, everyday people doing good human shit and go find some wow this week. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiratio...

We are awake for 100 hours a week: 30 hours to be human, 40 hours of work, leaving 30 hours, but where does it actually go? Keep a tally this week because the Buddha says "the trouble is you think you have time" and maybe you haven't.

Today's question is: how youare you? Are you at the epicentre of you or miles away from it? Look at what you're wearing. Is it the you or just the cleanest shirt? You're an unrepeatable person, so how can you be 100% you today?

I just found the most gorgeous poem, Dear Body, written by Jan Brierton. It really aligns with my view on our bodies and how we need to look after them and love them and make friends with them. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz