OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

I don't know who said it, but someone famous said that we die twice. We die the first time when our heart stops beating and the second time we die is when people no longer mention our name, when they stop talking about us.

People don't really know what makes them happy and people don't know how to get happy. And I've spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I reckon there's ten steps that we have to go through to get happy.

In the Energy Book, I wrote about the five major contaminators that we can come across. The Drama Queen, the Human Dumpster, the Control Freak, the Virtuous Victim, and the Mighty Narcissist. In this episode, I'm sharing with you how to handle each and what they're teaching you. You've always got power: journal, practice "fuck off" in the car, and remember it's not your job to fix them. The Energy...

This week, the quote on my planner is a Brené Brown one of choosing courage over comfort. Outside of the comfort zone is the stretch zone. Courage means to be scared and do it anyway. and that's where you have to step into courage.

Today's quote is Emily Dickinson's "I dwell in possibility" and I love that hope is the thing with feathers that perches in your soul.

Taking responsibility for your body means investigating what's wrong, asking why it's happening, making informed decisions, being proactive with tests, and not just outsourcing everything to doctors without understanding what's going on. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneil...

If you're a high capacity human, you will often attract low capacity people. You give other people permission to be an underdoer and you over function.

My greatest piece of advice this week is organise, don't agonise by Nancy Pelosi. Whatever you're stressed about, organise it.

Re-mattering and re-membering are about rejoining yourself (reconnecting with your soul's desires) and reclaiming your importance (teaching yourself and others that you matter again). The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Maya Angelou wrote that we need to treat life as art because the routines we follow, we often forget that life is an ongoing adventure. The sooner we realize that, the quicker we'll be able to treat life as art, to bring all of our energies to each encounter, to remain flexible enough to notice and admit when what we expected to happen did not happen. We need to remember that we are created, creat...

Marty Supreme got me thinking about Rabbi Simcha's teaching: carry two pieces of paper saying "I'm everything" and "I'm dust." This year, I'm committed to being intentional, asking "what is my intention?" in every moment, knowing what deserves my all-in commitment and what deserves letting go.

Energy isn't something that happens to you. It's the result of conscious (or unconscious) decisions you make every single day about what you eat, wear, surround yourself with, and do. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I'm taking my five words (authentic, creative, responsible, thoughtful, kind) and applying them to what they look like to myself, to my people and in my business. Five words, three categories. That's a little matrix that I'm playing with.

I'm filming a brand new podcast with my friend Peter Cook. It is a podcast to support business owners because it's hard out there being one. We want to add some inspiration and a few ideas out there into the world of business.

I've always been very keen on people having power. I have five different ways for reclaiming personal power: saying no, creating a daily spiritual practice, auditing relationships, receiving help, and caring for your physical body. Go get your power back.

A really freeing way to look at your energy is just to play a game of could. There's so many possibilities. Think about what you could change and see how that makes you feel. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Happy first week back for me and maybe for you. What's happening in your week? What are you doing? What is your focus? Go out there and have an amazing day.

Pottering and pondering is what I've been doing. I think that is the greatest thing you can do right now, to start pondering what's possible. Start pottering, get a journal, start pondering what you want and what is your year going to look like. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign u...

I've learnt over the years that when you're in the hectic times, you've just got to slow all the way down.  This is the time of year we're going to need a lot of kindness.

"If you're exhausted about your heart's obsession with the fixed past and your mind's focus on an uncertain future, your lungs are the perfect place for you."  I love this line from John Roedel's poem, My Brain and Heart Divorced. It's just divine. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration.&nbs...

There's always a bit of organisation in my world, but I think this is the week. It's the week to get things done. 

For today's Standing Observation, we're revisiting an old episode about the stories we all got, shit that happened to us and people did to us. These stories are like boxes. We need to process our stories and move forward without carrying these boxes.

I reckon we're disconnected from ourselves. I think we've just lost who we are because we're so busy. I think being connected to yourself comes from space. I love just sitting down and thinking about what's going on, what my focuses are, what I need to do, what I have to do and what I want to do.

Transforming yourself is a lovely opportunity and you might need a tablespoon of courage or bravery. This is the year of transformation. Have a think about what you'd like to transform. How could you be braver? 

How much of a luxury is it to have the first week of December, just to think about what you want to create, be, do and have in 2026? That's what I'll be doing. I'm literally off the grid and just 100% focused on repotted. We plant dreams, we pull out weeds, and we grow the next stage of our lives.