Now That You Ask

I love finding a loophole and thinking that I can cheat the system just a little bit. Over the years, I've become quite good at identifying ways to do less and still achieve the same result. However, I've also learned that there are some areas where there are no loopholes. As I've grown older, finding loopholes has become more challenging, and the consequences seem more significant. Despite this,...

I am deeply saddened by the sudden passing of my friend. Her death has left me grappling with the grief, questioning why her and why now. As I navigate through the hole her passing has left, I am confronted with the loneliness that we all may experience at some point in our lives. The truth that there is no certainty about what's next resonates with me, urging me to make the most of the present. A...

What happens when a baker is preparing for a colonoscopy and has to make do with jello and popsicles? Making the jello was easy however, eating the jello turned out to be a messy and challenging experience. Overall, the experience was unpredictable and unpleasant but it was an adventure nonetheless. Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range from death to desire, and from wondro...

As an Alabama football fan, I share the bittersweet emotions surrounding legendary coach, Nick Saban's retirement, and find myself reflecting on the impact he has made on the team and the fans. Through his philosophy of excellence and personal growth, Saban reminds us that happiness is not just about momentary pleasures or achievements, but about the meaningful contributions we make to the world a...

This year I spent Christmas with my adopted family. The house was beautifully decorated, with multiple trees, gingerbread houses, and adorable handmade gifts from the children. It was a wonderland filled with laughter and imagination. The highlight of the holiday was when the little girl in the family received a very special surprise present. The joy and excitement on her face were truly priceless...

I love hot dogs. From the hot dogs served at baseball and football games to the ones from carts in New York City, I have a particular fondness for their flavor. And there is nothing quite like the unique satisfaction of having a hot dog handed over by someone at a game. Join me as I share my love for hot dogs and the significant role they play in my football-watching rituals. Now That You Ask is a...

As I contemplate the road ahead, I find motivation in the challenge of taking action and starting something new - specifically, in writing a book. I find the prospect quite intriguing. What will I learn about myself this time? I know I have a desire to be unique and resist conformity (surprise, surprise), as well as the need to begin before the universe can provide assistance. I know I must r...

I see myself as a special kind of mystic, embracing the unexplainable mysteries of life. I believe a mystic possesses a strong sense of self, calmness, trust, curiosity, and acceptance. Through various experiences and moments of connection, I have glimpsed my mystical self and felt the vastness of being alive. Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range from death to desire, and...

Did you know that I was in a beauty contest? It's true. It was called the Maid of Cotton contest. It all started when my mother decided it would be a good experience for me to participate. Reluctantly, I agreed and went through the rigorous preparations for the contest. To my surprise, I won the first round and had to continue to the next level. However, as the pressure built up and I faced catty...

Lately I've been asking myself "What is going on with me?" I am a little worried about myself to be honest. I have always loved the holidays, but this year I am really struggling with the social aspects. Of course, the pandemic shaped my perspective on solitude and I now delve into the joys and challenges of being alone, but what is going on with me? Join me as I explore the complexities of my emo...

If you were born in the South, say, 50 to 60, 70 years ago, you were baptized with an unquenchable love for college football. In this episode, I share my personal story of growing up in Alabama and being immersed in the passionate world of college football fandom. From the fierce rivalry between Alabama and Auburn to the exciting game-day parties with friends and family, football became a part of...

The holiday season brings me such me joy. And it's in the little things. From the excitement of finding surprises for loved ones to the joy of giving and receiving, the holiday season is a time of celebration and togetherness. I just love Thanksgiving and the opportunity it provides to reflect on the things I am grateful for. The small acts of kindness that brighten my day, such as people holding...

As someone who has been both an activist and a spiritual seeker, I desire for humanity to embrace hope, even in the face of current chaos. I believe that personal growth and kindness is important and that our purpose is not just about acquiring material things but evolving into the best versions of ourselves. This episode delves into my evolving understanding of spirituality and the role of humor...

Contemplating age, I realize I have a choice: to define myself by years or by how I truly feel. This awareness becomes crucial in navigating moments of feeling low. Despite occasional dips, I acknowledge the power to decide whether to carry these emotions with me or let them go. From a simpler lifestyle abroad to an introspective journey within, I've learned to appreciate life by slowing down, tak...

With crisis comes lessons. In this episode, I reflect on the lessons I learned and the determination that arose from a medical event I experienced in my twenties. It was scary. It was frustrating. But with that challenge I discovered that I know my body best and made a vow to take control of my healthcare decisions. Please enjoy this intimate exploration of resilience and the power of self-advocac...

I recently had a truly transformative experience visiting Kehinde Wiley's exhibit, "An Archaeology of Silence," at the de Young Museum in San Francisco. In an attempt to capture the profound impact of the artwork, this episode is a heartfelt letter to the artist, expressing my gratitude and awe. Wiley's colossal paintings of young black individuals, both living and deceased, set against nature and...

I'm savoring the first rain of the fall season. Though fall isn't my favorite season, the soft rain nurtures my plants and my spirit, making me grateful. In this episode, I reflect on and find solace in the rain's soothing presence, making me smile and feel happy. Fall's arrival prompts me to appreciate nature's gentle transitions and the gift of continued experiences in life. Now That You Ask is...

What would you do if you only had six months to live? In this episode, I grapple with the profound question of how to make the most of one's time on earth when faced with a limited six-month horizon. Finding joy in everyday moments seems like a good place to start. From laughter to savoring a warm dish and admiring Art Deco jewelry, I share the unique experiences and musings that shape my perspect...

I was raised with strict rules about how to be, how to act, and what to say. But I was born with the instinct to defy societal expectations and strict rules that don't align with my true self. Despite getting caught and facing punishment as a child, I found joy in pursuing activities that resonated with me, ultimately learning the importance of embracing one's authentic self. Today, I look back wi...

Amidst the chaos of today's tumultuous world marked by a pandemic and global challenges, I have discovered the importance of fostering peaceful moments and embracing gratitude and cherished moments. I believe that even when times feel dismal and even dire we can add some some light and positivity to a world forever in flux. What do you think? Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that...

I try to pay attention to messages from the universe before they reach a critical point. I also have a love for shrimp, passed down from my father. Our family business sold shrimp in bulk, but it was rarely on our table. This is a story about how a surplus of shrimp lead to series of eerie events and reminded me to heed the universe's subtle messages ... or else. Now That You Ask is a podcast that...

Recently I've been pondering ways to find deeper rest and contentment. I have managed to find a connection with my passion for football (especially Alabama football) of all things. Yes, watching football, despite not offering deep rest, reconnects me to joy and my family's traditions. While there's a fear of missing out on new experiences, I'm content with my quieter lifestyle, embracing football...

Today I am reflecting on the invaluable gift of deep connections with friends. From cherished childhood companions to the bonds formed in a foreign land, I truly treasure all of the moments of support, understanding, and companionship. Listen in as I celebrate the unique and enduring friendships that remind me of the beauty of vulnerability and the universe's ability to provide us with the gift of...

Today, as I walked around my condo complex, lamenting the lack of amazement in my life, I stumbled upon a remarkable event. A distressed baby deer, trapped in a wrought iron fence, and its concerned mother and sibling became the unexpected stars of my day. This unexpected encounter left me in awe and served as a poignant reminder that amazement can still find its way into our lives when we least e...

I am having a horrible time coming to terms with my age. I constantly find myself grappling with the challenges and changes that come with it. From navigating the physical shifts and discomforts in my body to my ever-changing relationship with the world around me. As I get older, I am realizing that my priorities have shifted towards valuing peace and comfort over adventure. But I feel that findin...