Not Your Average Counsellor

You know, we often talk about the magic of weddings – the love, the excitement, the promise of forever. But what about after the confetti settles and reality kicks in? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode. It's all about delving into the journey from "I do" to the daily grind and the realities of day-to-day married life. In this episode, I tackle common issues like unmet expectation...

Get ready to laugh, nod along, and maybe even facepalm as we tackle one of the biggest relationship roadblocks: miscommunication. Yep, we've all been there, expecting our partner to magically read our minds or completely misinterpreting what they're trying to say. It's like a comedy of errors, but in real life! From those confusing text exchanges to the dreaded silent treatment, I've got stories t...

You know that feeling when everything just clicks in a relationship? That's trust at work. It's the secret sauce that keeps relationships steady and strong. But here's the kicker—it's often misunderstood. In this episode, I'll dive deep into the essence of trust, revealing its critical role not only in romantic connections, but also in friendships, family dynamics, and work relationships. I'll sho...

Ever walked into your bedroom after a long day, only to be greeted by your partner's stinky jocks lounging on the floor, just inches away from the laundry basket? Yep, been there, felt that frustration. In this episode, I’m diving into the messy world of household chores, where laundry, leaving the toilet seat up, and dirty dishes become the epicentre of relationship drama. As a therapist, I've ha...

When change comes knocking, do you find yourself hesitating to answer? Hey, you're not alone! That's why this episode is all about change – that inevitable part of life that has a knack for leaving us feeling stuck. Listen as I take a deep dive into the psychology of change, unravelling why it can feel like such a head-scratcher. I'll chat about why we resist change, even when it could lead to som...

My latest episode features Jo, whose journey to self-advocacy is nothing short of inspiring. Despite being in her 60s and having limited experience with therapy, Jo discovered her voice and courage through participating in my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program.​ In this episode, you'll hear Jo's personal story of growth and empowerment, where she: Proves that it's never too late to embark on a journey...

Ever feel like life's a constant battle between trying to be in control and dealing with unexpected craziness? Yes! I feel you and that’s why in this episode I’m going to unpack the whole idea of mastering control and finding some calm in the chaos. I’ll also dive deep into something I like to call the 'Control Conundrum, why absolute control is just an illusion and how to handle the stuff that's...

In this episode, we dive into something special: a conversation with one of my  #memyselfandi Mastery Program  participants as she shares her journey from feeling unsupported and unappreciated to becoming empowered and deeply connected with everything she needs. Theresa’s story is one many women can relate to… Juggling the demands of being a young Mum while trying to balance work, marriage and fam...

Negative thought patterns, we all have them, right? It's like a never-ending loop of "worst-case scenarios" running through your head. At the core of negative thoughts is fear and in this week’s episode I’ll give you the tools to take back control. Join me as we uncover why we tend to let negative thoughts run amok and how to challenge them. We'll also explore common thinking traps and learn how t...

This episode is your ticket to mastering overwhelm. I'm sharing practical tools and tips to help you navigate life when it's in overdrive because, let's face it, overwhelm is just part of the gig. Whether it's work, family, or just the everyday chaos, I've got your back. Tune in for: Personal insights: Understand how overwhelm may hit you. Signs to spot: Learn to identify your unique "Hold Up" sig...

In this episode I tackle the fascinating and equally frustrating world of assumptions and how they can either make or break the bonds we have those with those around us. Tune in for: Real-life, relatable examples of how assumptions can sneak into your relationships, causing misunderstandings. Practical tips for managing assumptions in your relationships. Insight into the power of empathy in transf...

In this episode I spill the tea on preventing burnout and keeping that inner fire ablaze. We'll cover: Exploring the essence of your inner fire. Spotting subtle signs of burnout and how it can sneak up on you. Easy practices to integrate into your life for burnout prevention. Finding that perfect balance between stoking the flames and taking a breather. And here's the extra scoop – I'll be sharing...

Life can be a wild ride, full of unexpected twists that leave us shouting, "WTF!" Yet just like a rollercoaster ride there can be ' breathtaking ‘Aha!' moments too. In my latest podcast, we're tackling the art of making sense of it all – from the confusing 'WTF' to the eye-opening 'Aha!' Join me as we explore: Why the strong urge to make sense of life's curveballs? The secrets to turning head-scra...

In this episode, I dive into the world of anger and rage – those powerful emotions that can really shake things up in our relationships, wellbeing, and how we see ourselves. I clear up a common misunderstanding about anger – it's not always a bad thing; it's more about not handling it well. Plus, I'll spill some of my own stories about what sets me off, highlighting how understanding your triggers...

After a two-year hiatus I’m back with the goods! In this episode I talk about those people who get too involved in your life. You know the ones that offer advice even when you didn't ask for it. We will cover why these people might be attracted to you, different types of meddling and the importance of setting boundaries to keep these meddlers at bay. I’ll share some stories, too, like the time my...

YAY! I’ve finally launched the new iteration of my podcast and I’m so excited to introduce to you: Not Your Average Counsellor with yours truly, Vee Vinci. In this brief introductory episode, I delve into the inspiration behind the podcast title, give you a sneak peek into what lies ahead, and spill the beans on my biggest competition to date. To win a FREE 1:1 online or in-person session* with me...

Beliefs are powerful and necessary. They govern our societies, our day-to-day lives but also our inner lives, our thoughts, hopes, plans, and relationships. You believe that the plane will leave the runway or that the sun will come up tomorrow. There are even things you can believe despite logic (like winning the lotto). But no matter who you are, how well you are educated or what you have been th...

It’s easy for human beings to get stuck in patterns. Our brains love routine and habit. The problem is that many of us can get stuck with unhealthy habits and wiring without even knowing it. Patterns drive our subconscious decisions, meaning we are not fully aware of the driver – we just end up at the destination. Nothing highlights this more than relationships. In this episode I’ll discuss patter...

The final part in my Routines and Habits series. “A river cuts through rock, not because of its power, but because of its persistence.” — James N. Watkins  ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via  Podbean  or  Apple Podcasts .   Join the  HQCS Community facebook group  it's FREE!   Follow Vee Vinci on: Facebook Instagram

What motivates you to ? A) I like doing it B) To earn a reward or avoid punishment Now ask yourself what motivates you to ? Did you pick A or B? Which is better? You might think it’s obvious, but it’s not so black and white. Listen now for some more tips to help you create strong, successful habits over and over again.   ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44)...

This episode continues on from the last, find out how to make new routines and habits stick. I'll also answer the all important “how long will it take?” question. ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via  Podbean  or  Apple Podcasts .   Join the  HQCS Community facebook group  it's FREE!

Get off the couch and onto the treadmill? Ease off on the UberEats and prepare gourmet dishes yourself? Stop hitting the snooze button and get up 30 minutes earlier? JOIN ME for a gentle kick up the butt and some EXPERT TIPS to get you back on the wagon to START or RE-START those positive ROUTINES and HABITS that you have been thinking about. ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up pr...

How often do you “say no” because you are afraid of being judged, ridiculed, rejected, or criticised? It might come in the form of not wearing shorts when it’s 42 degrease outside because you don’t look like Kendell Jenner, avoiding going out because you’ve had a breakout, not asking that guy or girl out because possible rejection scares the living sh!t out of you or not wearing bunny ears out of...

Learn how to gain Control and Calm during uncertain times.   As soon as the news of lockdown 3.0 broke I knew I just had to deliver a FREE LIVE MASTER CLASS to help you focus on what YOU CAN CONTROL during these challenging times and how to MANAGE the all consuming and overwhelming FEELINGS that may also come up.   JOIN ME as I share with you one of my favourite tools to help you get a grip on you...

Do you ever crack the sh!ts because nothing ever changes? Are you frustrated because you’re stuck in the same situation and find yourself making the same “justifications” for the lack of action on your part? Well, I can bet my bottom dollar that YOU ARE ENABLING your own behaviour. Yes! You read that right IT'S ON YOU! Find out the HOW you do it, WHY you do it and WHAT to do about it in this episo...