Not Your Average Counsellor

💭 Is full honesty always the best policy—or are some things better left unsaid? In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky terrain of past partners, present insecurities, and how much is too much when it comes to sharing.   Inside This Episode: 🧠 Why people ask. Is it genuine curiosity, insecurity, or a desire for deeper understanding? 💬 The case for honesty. Transparency can build trust, su...

💭 Trust, privacy, and that sneaky little urge to check. In this episode, we’re diving into the grey area of snooping—what it says about your relationship, and where the line is between curiosity and crossing a boundary.   Inside This Episode: 🔍 What does privacy really mean? Is wanting personal space in a relationship healthy—or hiding something? 😟 Why people snoop. From fears of cheating to ol...

💭 Is combining money a sign of trust—or a recipe for tension? In this episode, we’re talking dollars, independence, and the tricky terrain of shared finances in relationships.   Inside This Episode: 💸 Why money matters. How finances influence relationship stability, shaped by our upbringing and past experiences. 🤝 The case for merging. Shared accounts can build trust, simplify budgeting, and su...

💭 Can you truly have it all—deep love and career success—or does something always have to give? In this episode, we’re diving into the balancing act between personal connection and professional ambition. Inside This Episode: ⚖️ Why does it feel like a choice? Societal pressures and traditional roles often pit love against success. 🧭 What matters most to you? Self-reflection on whether you're car...

💭 Is love real without physical presence, or is it just an emotional illusion? In this episode, we explore how digital-age relationships are redefining what connection and intimacy mean today. Inside This Episode: 💬 What is love in the digital era? Emotional connection vs. physical presence—has technology changed the rules? 💖 The power of emotional bonds. Can strong love grow through screens an...

💭 Is “The One” a romantic fantasy or a harmful myth? This episode unpacks how movies, books, and culture have shaped our expectations of love—and whether believing in soulmates is helping or hurting modern relationships.   Inside This Episode: 📜 Where did the soulmate idea come from? Exploring the historical, philosophical, and spiritual origins of “The One.” 🎬 The Disney effect. How fairy tale...

💭 Does power imbalance strengthen or weaken a relationship? In this episode, we explore where power dynamics come from, how they impact both partners, and whether true equality is possible in relationships. Inside This Episode: ⚖️ What is power in a relationship? Emotional, financial, social, and decision-making power—where does it come from? 💰 The financial power struggle. Should the higher-ear...

💭 Are we mistaking emotional over-reliance for true love? This episode unpacks how society romanticises co-dependency and where we should draw the line between deep connection and unhealthy attachment. Inside This Episode: ❤️ What is co-dependency? The difference between healthy interdependence and losing yourself in a relationship. 🎬 The media’s role. How movies, TV, and books glorify obsessive...

Should Couples Have Access to Each Other’s Phones and Social Media Accounts?   💭 Does full access build trust, or is it crossing a boundary? In this episode, we’re diving into the ongoing debate over privacy, transparency, and control in relationships.   Inside This Episode: 🔑 Trust vs. transparency. Is sharing passwords a sign of honesty or insecurity? 🚧 Healthy boundaries matter. Personal spa...

💭 Is love about compromise, or should you be accepted exactly as you are? This episode dives into the fine line between healthy growth and losing yourself in a relationship.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ The nature of change. Relationships naturally shape us, but when does growth turn into self-sacrifice? 🎭 The pressure to change. Societal, cultural, and personal expectations can make you feel like...

💭 Could you be unknowingly enabling, experiencing, or even exercising coercive control? This episode unpacks the complexities of manipulation, power, and control—helping you recognize, address, and break free from harmful dynamics.   Inside This Episode: ⚠️ What is coercive control? How it differs from other forms of abuse and where it shows up in relationships, work, and family. 🔍 Recognizing t...

💭 Can you truly move on while keeping your ex in your life? This episode dives into the emotional, practical, and relational challenges of post-breakup friendships—when they work, when they don’t, and how to navigate them.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ Why do some people stay friends with an ex? Shared history, mutual respect, or just avoiding awkwardness? 🛑 When it’s a bad idea. Mixed signals, ling...

💭 Is honesty always the best policy, or can some secrets do more harm than good? Today, we’re tackling one of the most controversial relationship dilemmas—should you confess to infidelity, or take it to the grave?   Inside This Episode: ❤️ What counts as cheating? Emotional affairs, physical infidelity, blurred lines—everyone defines it differently. 🤔 Why do people cheat? Unmet needs, emotional...

💭 Are open relationships the key to deeper connection, or a fast track to heartbreak? Love isn’t one-size-fits-all, and today, we’re exploring the world of non-monogamy—its challenges, its benefits, and what it really takes to make it work.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ What exactly is an open relationship? It’s not just one definition—every couple creates their own rules. 🔄 Why do people choose it?...

Is It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If You’re No Longer in Love? 💭 What if love isn’t gone, just buried under routine? Or what if staying means sacrificing your happiness? This is one of the toughest questions in relationships, and there’s no simple answer.   What We’re Covering in This Episode: ❤️ How do you know if you’re truly out of love—or just stuck in a rut? 🔥 The difference between pass...

Welcome to Not Your Average Counsellor 2025! I’m back with bold, thought-provoking conversations on relationships, mental health, and personal growth. This season, we’re shaking things up with big questions like: 👉 Should you stay in a relationship if you’re no longer in love? 👉 Should you tell your partner if you cheat? 👉 Have we turned co-dependency into a love story? No sugar-coating. Just r...

Have you ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship but just can’t quite put your finger on what feels off? Maybe you’re questioning if it’s you or them. Toxic relationships aren’t limited to romantic partners. These unhealthy dynamics can show up with friends, family, and even colleagues. You might not even realise how much they’re affecting your mental and emotional well-being until you kno...

Jane’s story is one I can’t keep to myself—it’s too important. Jane walked into my office with a smile that hid the pain she had carried for years. On the surface, she seemed to have it all—young, intelligent, beautiful, and financially independent. But beneath that, she was grappling with a toxic relationship that drained her energy, poisoned her self-worth, and left her questioning her reality....

Are you in the position where you're not just a son or daughter anymore, but also a caregiver to your parents? This is something I’m going through myself right now, and I know how overwhelming it can feel. In this episode I explore what this generational role reversal really means and why it happens. I also share my own experience navigating this journey, which, to be honest, I’m still figuring ou...

Let’s face it—every relationship has its share of arguments. Whether it's over something small like leaving the toothpaste cap off or bigger issues like money, disagreements are totally normal. But here’s the thing: conflict doesn’t have to be a bad thing. When handled right, it can actually bring you closer! In this episode I talk about why these arguments happen and, more importantly, how to get...

This one is for couples who have embarked or are about to embark on the exhilarating roller-coaster ride of parenthood – the ups, the downs, and everything in between. Join me and Chelsea Morgan, (Counsellor, Teacher, Rapid Transformational Therapist, and Mum) as we share practical tips, tools, and insights to help you navigate the unpredictable waters of parenthood with resilience and unity. We d...

When you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? If your thoughts go straight to the bedroom, you're not alone. But intimacy is so much more than what happens between the sheets. In my latest podcast episode I sit down with Sexologist Erika Shaw for an open and honest conversation about the true essence of intimacy. We’ll chat about: The real deal on intimacy: It’s not just about the physical...

You know that feeling when everything in your relationship feels just right? But then, suddenly, things start to shift, and you're left wondering why? Well, it often comes down to evolving priorities. In this podcast episode, I explore why our priorities shift and how this impacts our relationships, because relationships aren't static, they grow and change just like we do. Understanding these chan...

Ever feel like money talk in your relationship sets off a ticking time bomb? This podcast episode is all about defusing that tension and finding financial harmony with your partner. In this episode, I'm thrilled to have Breanna May with me. She's an educator, business mentor, mindset magician, CEO, speaker, and the mastermind behind the Money Mindset Program. Together, we dive into our personal mo...

You know, we often talk about the magic of weddings – the love, the excitement, the promise of forever. But what about after the confetti settles and reality kicks in? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode. It's all about delving into the journey from "I do" to the daily grind and the realities of day-to-day married life. In this episode, I tackle common issues like unmet expectation...