No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

I’m going to tell you how I quit porn. I’ll talk about some very crucial turning points in my life that led to both my porn addiction recovery (and recovery from other addictions) as well as my conversion to Jesus Christ.  I grew up in a Christian family - traditional Christian values, parents dedicated to their faith, very conservative. Porn, to say the least, was not considered a “normal thing t...

I received a question from one of my clients this past week about what I really mean when I say porn addiction comes from resistance, and how resistance leads to addiction. I wanted to address that question directly this week. It can be very challenging to overcome porn addiction. In part, this is because pornography addiction masks many underlying issues that are hard for us to see. Addiction is...

Have you ever been told that addiction recovery requires humility?  Do you wonder how in the world being humble could possibly help you quit porn? Perhaps hearing that gets your defenses up. Perhaps it fills you with anger. Or maybe you just don’t understand what it means to “be humble”. You try to humble yourself in order to overcome porn addiction, but you wonder what that really means??  Humili...

Today we’re going to talk about something that I have been historically very bad at - both during and after my addiction to porn. It’s honesty and accountability.  This is something I’ve been working a lot on in my own personal recovery - getting more REAL and honest with myself, God, and others about my pain, my feelings, my insecurities. It’s what  I teach my clients to do in my porn addiction r...

FREE LESSON: Pleasure Conditioning - Decrease Porn Cravings To overcome porn addiction, we need to understand how our other daily choices and activities affect our susceptibility to addiction.  My first few years recovering from porn were a real struggle. If I would have known the concepts of pleasure conditioning way back then, I would have had an easier time quitting porn.  Here’s the basic idea...

Do you feel like your porn addiction has ruined your sex life with your spouse? Do you worry that your feelings about sex will never be the same? Is porn a point of serious contention between you and your wife / husband? Porn addiction can do a pretty serious number on our sex life. Watching porn trains our brain to view other people as objects. Despite our best efforts, sex with our spouse (inste...

Can People-Pleasing Fuel Porn Addiction? In today’s episode we talk about what people-pleasing is, where it comes from, and why many addicts struggle with people-pleasing tendencies.  What is People Pleasing?  The tendency to do things to make others happy while putting your own needs at risk. The need to control another person’s emotions and ensure they feel happy. How Can People Pleasing Cause P...

Religious shame and porn addiction go hand-in-hand.  Why?  Because they are two sides of the same coin. We often see addiction as an isolated incident: an issue all its own. We think that if we can just abstain from porn then we’ll eventually lose our desire for it.  We also think, “If I just have enough sex with my wife, then I won’t want porn.”  After nearly a decade of my own recovery, and work...

FREE LESSON: Write Your Walk Through Fire Statement When I was addicted to porn, I often struggled to know how to respond to a relapse. The amount of shame, fear, and anger I felt when I slipped was overwhelming.  I thought that if I relapsed on porn, it meant all of my progress was now down the toilet. I thought, “What reason do I have to stop watching porn now? Afterall, my time clean is zero. S...

If you struggle with porn addiction, ever wonder where your cravings come from?  Addiction cravings are not simply due to “manly urges” or a genetic predisposition. They are a result of our mental state. Having a recovery mindset is all about leaning into discomfort. It’s also about changing your focus.  In this episode, I share one of the greatest tips to overcome porn addiction that I know of. I...

Have you ever wondered if what you eat affects your addiction cravings? In today’s episode, I’ll tell you how what you eat impacts addiction - more specifically porn addiction and your ability to quit porn.  In western biology and psychology, we often overlook the importance of nutritions effects on mental health. More and more, we are coming to understand the connection between digestion and gut...

What if I told you to stop resisting your pornography addiction? What if I told you that sobriety didn’t require you to restrain yourself?  In today’s episode, I talk about how to break free of porn addiction without resisting cravings. The mistake I’ve watched so many of us make, and that I made for over a decade (still do sometimes), is thinking that the answer to quit porn is to resist urges. ...

If we want to break free from porn addiction, we have to learn how to still the mind.  We go to porn as a way to escape our problems. The same is true for all addicts. One of the main reasons we do this is because our minds are so noisy and chaotic, and it seems that intensely pleasurable outlets are the only things that will dampen the constant mental thrumming that pushes us to addiction.  Throu...

Sometimes we as addicts have troubles looking outside of ourselves. We may experience difficulty listening to others' troubles and being present for their physical or emotional needs.  This is not because we are inherently selfish, but because our past trauma and shame habits can make it hard for us to connect with others and look outside of ourselves, thus leading to unfortunately selfish ac...

I’ve been giving a lot of thought to addiction and perfectionism lately. About how alike these two mental illnesses are.  I’m going to tell you how perfectionism and porn addiction feed off of each other, and how all addictions, to an extent, find their origin in guilt and shame addiction - something you may have never heard of.  Both porn addiction and perfectionism have something in common, and...

Today I want to talk about how to let go of shame and porn addiction and how living with more simplicity and presence can help us recover.  Something I’ve witnessed in myself and others I’ve talked to is that those of us who get worked up over the details or are really hard on ourselves often struggle with pornography addiction.  I often see perfectionism and addiction go hand-in-hand - in other w...

If you want to learn how to stop watching porn, you need to understand the addiction and recovery trinities. Porn addiction has several causes that play off of each other. They are physical, mental, spiritual, and relational. If you want to quit porn, you need to know what each of these are, how they work, and why it is so hard to break free of porn addiction. I learned how to stop watching porn 8...

What are the 2 root causes of porn addiction? Knowing these can help you quit porn, as you learn what leads to it in the first place.  To learn how to break free of porn addiction, it's necessary to talk about stress. Our mental state is like a pressure gauge. When it's in the green,  we typically don't experience porn cravings. When it's in the red, however, we can last for a...

This meditation for mental health comes from years of my own meditation practice and integrates teachings from both eastern and western faiths - Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, and Taoism. This anxiety meditation is also helpful for depression, self-worth or self-esteem issues, or to simply calm the mind. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn FRE...

I’m going to tell you why I became addicted to porn, and what kept me addicted for 10 years. It had nothing to do with craving sex, or “manly urges.”  Porn addiction has to do with your state of mind. Porn addiction recovery is about transforming that state of mind from one that is susceptible to addiction to one that isn’t.  The answers may not be easy, but some of them are simple. And while I ca...

I'm going to tell you how to quit porn in 30 days using 15 tips for porn addiction recovery. You probably know I’m not a fan of big, bold claims, but… After 8 years of sobriety, I’ve learned a few things about how to quit porn. Secrets for porn addiction recovery that have helped me out…and now I want to share them with you. I know your “hype detector” is probably sounding the alarm right now...

Listen to this calming forgiveness meditation to learn how to forgive others and yourself.  Forgiveness is not for the benefit of others. We do it to release ourselves from emotional burdens. When we forgive someone else, we set ourselves free.  The meditation music in this guided God centered meditation is designed to bring peace to the mind as I take you through the 7 Steps of Unconditional Forg...

To know how to break free of porn addiction, we start by exploring the deep pain underneath the surface. Porn cravings come as a result of mental and emotional pain. Everyone deals with this pain to one extent or another. When we struggle with addiction, it simply means that this pain has reached a more intense/frequent stage than it has for some.  For this reason, there is no shame in porn addict...

When asked where pornography addiction comes from, many of us are tempted to say “sex cravings”, lust, dopamine, or “boys will be boys.” These all play a part, but I feel that none of them get to the core of the issue. I’ve spent 12 years coming to understand addiction by living my own recovery. I’ve dug deep, seeking for the true roots. I didn't want to just quit porn addiction, but to lose...

Welcome to this Healing Social Anxiety Meditation. I struggled with social anxiety for over 15 years. It was so intense sometimes that I even felt it when I was by myself. I searched for answers for years. I wanted something that not only calmed my mind in the moment, but reshaped my very thought patterns and beliefs so that anxiety disappeared. This social anxiety relaxation technique - which is...